What Did You Think Before You Realized You Were Ace?

[oldgeeza]

All I really remember is that having tried it, I just wanted it to be over with as soon as possible, I never really wanted to try it, but did to keep my partner happy, I hated every second of it, we had sex maybe 2 or 3 times, the relationship only lasted 2 weeks!!! one of my longer lasting relationships, oh the stupid things we do when we're young, not learning from one experience, a few years later at the age of 19, I tried again, I hated it even more!!! so much so that I decided never again & I stuck to it, impotence set in & I was made, I look, I do find women attractive, I'd never have the guts to chat to a woman I didn't know unless on a professional level, but I'm happy to look & not touch, I don't see a woman as sexually attractive though, a personality can be more attractive than looks

[andreas1033]

I knew at 13 or 14 i would have no sex drive, but obviously at around 1990, there was no such thing as asexual in society. I thought of myself as androgynous, neither male or female, and always judged myself as too inbetween the energies, to desire others.

I think when your inbetween you complete your own energy circuit as it were.

I think part of the sex drive in most people, is the desire to complete your energy circuit, if you take an analogy of an electrical circuit. Thats why i believe humans use the term pull, when they got a partner, ie pulling. They do instinctively know something going on with energies, and thats why humans probably came up with the term pulled. Females know they draw males into there energies, when they like them.

Its why hollywood uses females whom they believe are giving of loads of energy on screen. They are pulling on the audience, and its a trick hollywood plays. You will find most hollywood females, probably are there as the people in hollywood believe they are giving of loads of energy.

So i always knew, but did not know the term asexual. I was right i was absolutely devoid of any sex drive as a male.

[Bob32]

I knew that I was different. But I thought everyone else wanted to be like me. Eventually, I learned that people get very upset if they loss their sex drive.

[Guest]

I never understood when my friends said they were attracted to celebrities or people they didn't know, and I wasn't interested in dating casually. I thought there was something wrong with me that made me unappealing to the people I was interested in.

Of course, if I'd figured out I like girls before now, things might have gone smoother. Probably not, but maybe.

[mori child]

I thought I was straight like everyone else, just a late bloomer.

[kittens.bunnies]

When I thought I was female, I thought I was straight. This was because I saw guys, and I admired them, I liked how they looked, etc. Then I realized that other people think about their crushes in a romantic/sexual way. I tried to imagine kissing the guy I liked at the time, but I just couldn't. I also hated, HATED it when straight guys hit on me, and these two things made me pause, knowing that I was different. I was brought up really, really religiously, so it took some time before I realized what I'd always known, that girls are attractive. (I've never been able to think of girls particularly romantically or sexually,either btw) Later, I realized that I was male, and that I never liked those guys, I wanted to be them. And that I have no experiences of sexual/romantic attraction.

Probably not the question, but it felt really, really good to say all that.

[deannach]

I just thought I had really high standards about sexual desires and that general attraction to appearance was sexual desire. I didn't realize I was different for a long time. I just thought my friends were more into sex since they'd already had it.

[Larien]

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