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AtlanticNick

Greetings fellow asexuals! I'm new to this site and to these forums so go easy on me please.

Basically, I was wondering if had any ideas on how to decrease my libido, which is higher than the empire state building!

Just a little background info about myself;

I'm 19

I'm a boy

I only recently came out about my sexuality

I had my first orgasm when I was 18

I have no interest in ladies or men in a sexual way

I exercise regularly

I have a healthy diet

I don't smoke or drink alcohol or do drugs

I'm a (proud) virgin

Bearing all this in mind, I experience uncontrollable feelings of sexual... stuff? I have no intentions to act on these with anyone's assistance. If I masturbate, I don't really think about anything? I just sort of enjoy the feeling. The only problem is, is that I'm starting to get very sore down there despite using lubricant :( you know what its like, you get all horny, have an orgasm and then feel really really guilty/bad/alone/stupid.

Now I know that libido is a natural part of life, but the level it is at is causing me to be very upset and sad. I know that these things are mental but is there anything that any of you guys/girls have done to fix this problem? There must be someone here who has experienced something similar. I read that liquorice is good and so are soy products, but anyone have any ideas?

I often try and distract myself by playing computer games, by exercising or by going out in public, but these only seem to delay the problem. I am talking about a serious way to physically decrease my libido. I'm trying to abstain mentally but as we know, that is tough :(

I'm currently one day masturbation free.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I don't think that masturbation is necessary for me to survive in this world!

Thanks :)

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If you have a vulva/vagina, try the birth control pill. It can be used to ease the discomfort of menstruating (or prevent it altogether), and it typically decreases libido.

if you aren't able to take BCP, I think you are doing what you can already do? exercising is great, so is distractions like videogames, so is dancing, reading books, etc... hopefully someone else has better advice than me! :cake:

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Oddball-Meo

I don't know how true this is but I heard someone say that if you try to solve the sexual tension with sexual things like masterbation it will only make things worse because it makes your body more indulgent. In other words it encourages your body to secrete more of the hormones that causes arousal. This same person claimes that by cutting off as many sexual stimuli, including masterbation, will help lower the libido over time. But like I said, I don't know how true this is and whether or not this will help if you have a naturally high libido.

On another note I heard of a berry called chasteberry which monks are said to have chewed on to lower their libido and to help them abstain. Don't know if it's true or if it's even available in your country.

Sorry that I couldn't be more help.

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What helped kill mine (I was a bit older than you at the time) was working long hours and just keeping busy in general. I got up at quarter to 5 in the morning and I didn't get home from work until 5:30, and then I ate dinner, watched a little tv, maybe made a phone call to a friend, did a couple of household chores and then hit the sack. I could never even stay awake long enough to masturbate, even if I did get horny during the daytime. So all the while I had that job and worked that schedule, I was practically libido-less for at least a couple of years.

But being 19 is bad in and of itself (when you don't want your libido); when I was 19 I was going nuts with mine too. And I was in school and only had a part-time job, so not as much to occupy my time and my mind would indeed wander. If your mind starts to wander in that direction, you might be able to distract yourself with other things.

However, being eternally busy and occupied can also have a downside (though perhaps not as much as taking herbs or drugs to try and control it) - you just get worn out and you might not be able to accomplish things that you want to do.

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If your libido is really too high, you should see a doctor (and an endocrinologist if possible) and get your hormones checked. Maybe your testosterone is too high, or something similar.

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PragmaticReticent

Greetings fellow asexuals! I'm new to this site and to these forums so go easy on me please.

Basically, I was wondering if had any ideas on how to decrease my libido, which is higher than the empire state building!

Just a little background info about myself;

I'm 19

I'm a boy

I only recently came out about my sexuality

I had my first orgasm when I was 18

I have no interest in ladies or men in a sexual way

I exercise regularly

I have a healthy diet

I don't smoke or drink alcohol or do drugs

I'm a (proud) virgin

Bearing all this in mind, I experience uncontrollable feelings of sexual... stuff? I have no intentions to act on these with anyone's assistance. If I masturbate, I don't really think about anything? I just sort of enjoy the feeling. The only problem is, is that I'm starting to get very sore down there despite using lubricant :( you know what its like, you get all horny, have an orgasm and then feel really really guilty/bad/alone/stupid.

Now I know that libido is a natural part of life, but the level it is at is causing me to be very upset and sad. I know that these things are mental but is there anything that any of you guys/girls have done to fix this problem? There must be someone here who has experienced something similar. I read that liquorice is good and so are soy products, but anyone have any ideas?

I often try and distract myself by playing computer games, by exercising or by going out in public, but these only seem to delay the problem. I am talking about a serious way to physically decrease my libido. I'm trying to abstain mentally but as we know, that is tough :(

I'm currently one day masturbation free.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I don't think that masturbation is necessary for me to survive in this world!

Thanks :)

Like Perseus said, Welcome. It's nice to meet you :) :cake::cake::cake:

I can't guarantee I can solve your problem but I'd very much like to try. I think, like any habit, this can be broken with a little ingenuity and motivation.

My proposed solutions is to be your buddy; someone who will keep you accountable like exercise buddies or weight-loss/diet buddies.

I will also suggest things that might help you abstain (or might not, we can figure it out through trial and error).

If this sounds like something you'd like to try doing please message me and we can get started :D

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In addition to other suggestions, you should get your hormones checked out. One time my hormones were out of whack, and it increased my libido so much that I couldn't deal with it. It's just a simple blood test to check, and if that's the problem, a doctor could give you advice on how to balance your hormones. You might just need to change your diet a bit. (For me, it got better on its own after a while, so I don't really know.)

(I know you already eat healthy, but you might need more or less of something. For example, fruits are healthy, but if you need vitamin D, fruits are not going to help with that; your best bet in that scenario would be to eat more fish.)

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Blackmageofdoom

Greetings fellow asexuals! I'm new to this site and to these forums so go easy on me please.

Basically, I was wondering if had any ideas on how to decrease my libido, which is higher than the empire state building!

Just a little background info about myself;

I'm 19

I'm a boy

I only recently came out about my sexuality

I had my first orgasm when I was 18

I have no interest in ladies or men in a sexual way

I exercise regularly

I have a healthy diet

I don't smoke or drink alcohol or do drugs

I'm a (proud) virgin

Bearing all this in mind, I experience uncontrollable feelings of sexual... stuff? I have no intentions to act on these with anyone's assistance. If I masturbate, I don't really think about anything? I just sort of enjoy the feeling. The only problem is, is that I'm starting to get very sore down there despite using lubricant :( you know what its like, you get all horny, have an orgasm and then feel really really guilty/bad/alone/stupid.

Now I know that libido is a natural part of life, but the level it is at is causing me to be very upset and sad. I know that these things are mental but is there anything that any of you guys/girls have done to fix this problem? There must be someone here who has experienced something similar. I read that liquorice is good and so are soy products, but anyone have any ideas?

I often try and distract myself by playing computer games, by exercising or by going out in public, but these only seem to delay the problem. I am talking about a serious way to physically decrease my libido. I'm trying to abstain mentally but as we know, that is tough :(

I'm currently one day masturbation free.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I don't think that masturbation is necessary for me to survive in this world!

Thanks :)

Be yourself, that's my suggestion. Just because you identify yourself as asexual doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and try new things.

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Greetings fellow asexuals! I'm new to this site and to these forums so go easy on me please.

Basically, I was wondering if had any ideas on how to decrease my libido, which is higher than the empire state building!

Just a little background info about myself;

I'm 19

I'm a boy

I only recently came out about my sexuality

I had my first orgasm when I was 18

I have no interest in ladies or men in a sexual way

I exercise regularly

I have a healthy diet

I don't smoke or drink alcohol or do drugs

I'm a (proud) virgin

Bearing all this in mind, I experience uncontrollable feelings of sexual... stuff? I have no intentions to act on these with anyone's assistance. If I masturbate, I don't really think about anything? I just sort of enjoy the feeling. The only problem is, is that I'm starting to get very sore down there despite using lubricant :( you know what its like, you get all horny, have an orgasm and then feel really really guilty/bad/alone/stupid.

Now I know that libido is a natural part of life, but the level it is at is causing me to be very upset and sad. I know that these things are mental but is there anything that any of you guys/girls have done to fix this problem? There must be someone here who has experienced something similar. I read that liquorice is good and so are soy products, but anyone have any ideas?

I often try and distract myself by playing computer games, by exercising or by going out in public, but these only seem to delay the problem. I am talking about a serious way to physically decrease my libido. I'm trying to abstain mentally but as we know, that is tough :(

I'm currently one day masturbation free.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I don't think that masturbation is necessary for me to survive in this world!

Thanks :)

Be yourself, that's my suggestion. Just because you identify yourself as asexual doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and try new things.

Such as? What new things do you suggest that will help the OP decrease his libido?

I don't mean to be overly picky, you're just not being very specific. "Be yourself" doesn't leave much to go on.

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Sage Raven Domino

How do I reply to individual comments? :o

On the bottom right of every post, there's a 'Quote' button. Press it, and the single post that you'd like to address will be copied to your reply, which you'll then be able to modify, e.g. you can erase some lines from the quote; to do this accurately, I advise to switch to the basic editor mode by clicking on the top left button of the reply editor panel, so that the quote doesn't get messed up by accident; you can revert to the more convenient advanced editor at any point by clicking the same button.

Multiple posts can be quoted at once by the 'Multiquote' button next to the 'Quote' one. However, I don't use it too often because clicking the 'Quote' button on all the posts being addressed does the same job, plus I have more control over where the quotes are placed - they're inserted exactly in the cursor position in the reply editor.

Let us know if you need a better explanation with screenshots, but before that, please try reading the Help Files ;)

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AtlanticNick

How do I reply to individual comments? :o

On the bottom right of every post, there's a 'Quote' button. Press it, and the single post that you'd like to address will be copied to your reply, which you'll then be able to modify, e.g. you can erase some lines from the quote; to do this accurately, I advise to switch to the basic editor mode by clicking on the top left button of the reply editor panel, so that the quote doesn't get messed up by accident; you can revert to the more convenient advanced editor at any point by clicking the same button.

Multiple posts can be quoted at once by the 'Multiquote' button next to the 'Quote' one. However, I don't use it too often because clicking the 'Quote' button on all the posts being addressed does the same job, plus I have more control over where the quotes are placed - they're inserted exactly in the cursor position in the reply editor.

Let us know if you need a better explanation with screenshots, but before that, please try reading the Help Files ;)

thanks!!

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Bearing all this in mind, I experience uncontrollable feelings of sexual... stuff? I have no intentions to act on these with anyone's assistance. If I masturbate, I don't really think about anything? I just sort of enjoy the feeling. The only problem is, is that I'm starting to get very sore down there despite using lubricant :( you know what its like, you get all horny, have an orgasm and then feel really really guilty/bad/alone/stupid.

Hmm... I never understood exactly how a person could feel bad in any way after an orgasm though... I get horny, deal with the orgasm and I feel rather great afterwards... In terms of soreness, you may be mastrubating too forcefully or too much, or even your grip may be too hard. Some could try looser grip or try not to masturbate too often, maybe trying different lube types or overall be more gentle with masturbation.
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