SakuraBlossom13 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 So I made a realization yesterday that was really interesting to me. I'm beginning to realize I identify within the Gray-A/Demi aspect of things but that's just if I'm looking to put a label on what I'm experiencing. I'm still learning about the different terms and all of that! Haha. So I apologize if I get things wrong. Anyways, I realized that while I do have a libido and sex drive (but don't wish to experience anything with a partner), I'm totally content taking care of it myself even though some days feel like a chore. I've been trying to figure out what exactly "gets me going" so to speak because when I look at certain people, I feel turned on but it's not the person that's doing it if that makes sense. I've found that what makes me feel turned on is writing, artwork, erotica, and so on (sorry for the TMI) but on the rare, rare, rare occasion that someone makes me feel something it's not the person themself that does it, it's because they remind me of a character (or a storyline within that same realm of the character) in something I've read or written myself. I do writing roleplays that are strictly romantic and involve relationship building but I get the excited feeling from the idea of romance not sex. So I guess long story/question short, do any of you experience stimulation from the idea of something/someone and not the person themselves when you look at another? Hopefully I'm making sense. Haha. Link to post Share on other sites
poisonrose Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 I know what you're on about, being attracted to someone not because of the person but because they remind me of a character And yes you were making sense don't worry about it Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDoe1995 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 It is called fictiosexuality - a subcategory of gray-asexuality that refers to people who only feel sexual attraction toward fictional characters (from books, movies, tv shows, etc.). When fictiosexuals see a person in real life that reminds them of a character they are crushing on, it's common for them to feel sexually attracted to the said person becuase they subconsciously link the emotions for the character with the resemblance of the real person. Hope you understand my explanation. I'm really tired & can't put a normal sentence together XD Link to post Share on other sites
SakuraBlossom13 Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 I'm glad I made sense!And that explanation is exactly what I feel and experience, so that makes a lot of sense to me! Thank you so much for sharing that! I really don't have much more to say than this because that really hit the nail on the head. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDoe1995 Posted February 28, 2015 Share Posted February 28, 2015 Happy I could help ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
Perseus Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 I learned something new today. I love terms for how someone feels. It helps with understanding. Link to post Share on other sites
Barylambda Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 Wow, a new term for today. So, it is like being attracted to Seven of Nine, not because of her body, but because she so analytical yet struggles with feelings such as guilt, shame, and anger. Link to post Share on other sites
Purge Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 Certain sights, sounds or scents can stimulate certain parts of the mind. Link to post Share on other sites
SakuraBlossom13 Posted March 1, 2015 Author Share Posted March 1, 2015 I've never had anything with scents, sights or sounds (in terms of sexual attraction, that is) but I use ASMR videos to relax, if anyone knows what that is. So I totally understand what you're saying! I like the labels too. I mean, I think it really helps to bring relief to know that you can call what you're experience something. It's not the same for everyone, of course, but it definitely helps me! Link to post Share on other sites
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