How much of your identity is tied up in your (A)sexuality?

[Archived]

I don't think it is really tied with my personality at all. I was born extremely weird, awkward, confident, affectionate, and outgoing. I've never really regarded sexuality as that an important thing. It's just....there. And super fun to talk about. Anyways, we're all people.

[*a*rteest]

There has been nothing more in my life that has had such a monumental impact on exact how I interact with people, and simultaneously that i simply don't want to define myself by, want to avoid, don't want to talk about, and am in fact repulsed by and want to forget about.

Due to some struggling and soul-searching recently, I came out of the closet all at once on the Intertubes on my Facebook page (go me!) not because I want to define myself by my orientation but in hopes someone who had the horribly long self-discovery search I did may find their answers sooner if they have questions.

But I'd hate to be walkin' down the hall from the coworker lunchroom and have people think, "There's that ace woman." That'd annoy me. So I don't talk about my orientation outside of the internet and have only come out to one person (a former coworker) I trust with it. But as some conversations will drift to the topic I might wear that badge a little more just for visibility.

[Comrade Eden]

Personally, very little of my self identity is tied up with being ace - as in, if someone asked me to describe myself I would chose before asexual many things: human, scientist, philosopher, a bit of a bleeding heart, et cetera. I would probably follow that up with my interests like birds, beetles, space, humans, et cetera. Still, I've been told by many people that I give off hella ace vibes. And though it's not terribly important to me, I can see how something like "flaming asexual" is important in describing me and how I related to others. I suppose I do think that the way I interact with people is different in a way that might relevantly be attributed to asexuality. Though, I personally attribute it to singular entity that is "my attractions" (of which asexuality is one part, but also includes (more importantly, to me) my aesthetic and sensual attraction). Even so, my attractions function more like non-entities/negative-space to most people, so that's not something that I focus on until it becomes relevant (namely, when I do experience a type of attraction to a specific person).

[Anthracite_Impreza]

Quite a lot actually when I think about it. The thought of being anything other than aro-ace disturbs and worries me, and obviously it impacts my lifestyle massively (with regards to being "forever alone"). At college though I am the token asexual which kinda makes me feel special :P None of this is negative to me, so I don't care ;)

[Skycaptain]

Asexuality is my identity. Accepting that I am Ace was the last piece in a jigsaw puzzle called me. Not to put too great an emphasis, accepting my orientation has opened a whole new life to me. In the last eleven months I have made around 20 friends, seen several cities I have never been to, and, most importantly, done simple things that most folk regard as routine, such as seeing friends for a meal, which have just passed me by previously.

[GoosePeelings]

Some, perhaps, though I'm too apathetic to actively think about it.