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Am I asexual if I have wet dreams every once in a while?


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The other night I had a wet dream. Usually I don't remember what it was about, but this time I remember it was about seeing a hot guy I know who I go to school with.

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AngelinaTheHobbit

The only determining factor of asexuality is whether or not a person feels sexual attraction. It doesn't have much to do with your sex drive, libido, or having wet dreams. The sexual attraction, or lack thereof, you feel when awake is what I'd focus on.

If it's any consolation, I get them occasionally. Usually to dreams involving bakeries and a no-strings-attached all-you-can-eat pastry bar.

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Yep, I've had them, unfortunately. Dreams don't exactly mean anything.

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Its not uncommon to experience nocturnal emissions after puberty, I don’t know if asexual’s experience it more then sexual people. The way I look at it, it’s just build up of protein in your body and it has to go somewhere. I experience them when I haven’t “cleaned the pipes” in several weeks or months and I only wake up after the fact.

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Foreign Atonement

Yep, wet dreams just kinda happen sometimes. I'm pretty sure it's just the body's way of getting rid of excesses of different things. I have a virtually nonexistent libido and can't even masturbate for lack of sensation and still get wet dreams. It's just natural stuff, methinks.

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something else in life I've missed out on, but just for once I'm not complaining

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Just because you have a wet dream doesn't make you not an asexual.

I once had a dream where I was a Changeling shape shifter, and I knew I was going to die. Early on in the dream, my Mum discovered I was dying because I was an unhealthy looking pool of goo laying on the floor and I starting to turn to ash (anyone who watches Star Trek: Deep Space Nine knows that the Changling shape shifters are honey-orange-coloured gelatinous goo in their normal state but will revert to a form of ash when they die).

I moved on into the garden to die, which I did. I remember being dead. And yet, about 10 minutes later, I found myself resurrected. I was a healthy living humanoid this time, with a new lease on life and more energy than I ever had while I was dying. I remember returning to my house through my front door.

This dream at the time was rich in symbolism at the time. It symbolised a fundamental psychological change in how I felt about myself. It symbolised that I had gone from my old self - a self which had long-standing doubts over my sexuality and who I was - and becoming someone who had accepted myself, warts and all and was prepared to move on with my life with increased vigour and inner strength.

I'm not saying there was any hidden meaning in your dream - far from it. My point is this: I may have died in my dream, and I may have been "resurrected". But I am not suicidal - nor do I consider myself Jesus by being resurrected!

Likewise, a person can dream about sex and yet still be asexual.

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LostInSilentHill

A lot of people have things happen in their dreams that they would never do in real life. I once had a dream I had sex with my best friend and was totally grossed out when I woke up. Dreams are just your brain sorting through all the information you took in that day and weird things tend to get connected during the process. No worries :)

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I'm a female, and I have them pretty frequently. Sometimes the dreams involve a person, and sometimes not (like objects instead, or even crossing my legs in a dream will sometimes do it). I wake up with an orgasm which isn't unpleasant lol. But I was confused about "wet"dreams vs my asexuality for a while too. But I guess it doesn't mean anything really. It's probably a little different for guys though, I guess as far as the body's need to get rid of excess stuff.

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Wet dreams are much like fantasies, in that fantasies are fantasies (meaning they aren't real) and wet dreams are wet dreams (meaning they aren't real). I've had plenty of wet dreams, but they mean nothing at all.

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I've had wet dreams before, and I just find them as a nuisance. Sometimes, I see them coming and just go "nope" and slop them in a way. Still, I still occasionally have them, but I don't feel this makes me any less asexual.

Hope this helps!

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So it doesn't matter if one have this kind of dreams or not? because when I have wet dreams I wake up very uncomfortable. And what about fantasy? like, you have it but when you are with an actual person you just can't do anything? because it often happens to me and I barely want to hug or kiss ._. I have to be super mentally prepared to do anything else actually. Any thoughts on this?

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I've had wet dreams before, and I just find them as a nuisance. Sometimes, I see them coming and just go "nope" and slop them in a way. Still, I still occasionally have them, but I don't feel this makes me any less asexual.

Hope this helps!

Pretty much the same here.

Except that it can sometimes go meta. I once had a non-wet dream about waking up from a wet dream. And another time I had a wet dream about successfully preventing a wet dream. In both cases I was pretty confused when I woke up in the morning :D

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PhantomAvenger

I have them once in a blue moon and I usually wake up horrified and not comfortable in my own skin until it finally gets pushed way way back into the dark recesses of my brain a few hours after until several months later another happens. *shrugs* I think it's just the body doing it's own thing to make sure it's heathy.

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edit: possible TMI

Well I masturbate, so that's *intentionally* having an orgasm to relieve arousal (I have a rather high libido). I am asexual. Many asexuals masturbate. So I don't see how having an unintentional orgasm while you sleep would make you any less asexual, as it's not even something you *chose* to do (I don't *choose* to experience arousal, but masturbation is a conscious choice and as I said already, it doesn't make one any less asexual).

Even if it was a dream where you were specifically having sex with someone, ejaculate, and woke up 'wet' (I know some guys just wake up after a wet dream and know they have ejaculated but don't know what the dream was about) some asexuals specifically imagine sex when they masturbate.. that doesn't stop someone being asexual. If they prefer not to have sex (for their own personal sexual and/or emotional satusfaction) and could very happily go without sex for the rest of their life, then whether or not they have wet dreams (or masturbate) and what goes on in their mind at the time, doesn't change anything.

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