Forever Dreaming Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Other people may have the best intentions but they can still die first. Fall in love with yourself and you'll never be alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 It's only when you can be comfortable being alone that you truly have your love to offer others. If you're always "looking for love" then you'll have your eyes pointed the wrong way when love actually crosses your doorstep. That whole "we all die alone" is emo balogna. If you die surrounded by friends and family who love you, then you're not "alone" in any reasonable meaning of the word. I wouldn't say that thinking that we all alone is an emo thing. But some people really feel this way. Its especially easy to feel this way if you have no close friends or family members to share with. Also, even if you are surrounded, alot of people are hypocrites and don't really care for you which makes it worse than if you were not amongst others when you died Link to post Share on other sites
alex.thomson Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Yep I do. And not only dying alone, but living all my life alone, this is just to much pain... Me too... :( Link to post Share on other sites
Visenya Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Accepting the fact that I will live and die alone is not easy. I can't see my life getting any better, so I just hope I will die young (at 40 years old, tops). Link to post Share on other sites
Semtex in August Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 I feel like dying is going to happen, and it can be scary but if you lived a life that you are proud of and you tried to have as full a life as possible then it does not matter weather you are alone in the last few moments or not. so many of us lack actual friends and family we do not have strong human ties but we struggle to live full lives filled with the things that motivate us most to act and grow as individuals in my humble opinion it is more important that when we die, in those last few moments we are able to look back and say yeah I did good with what I was given and I am satisfied than to have a few people staring at you are you take your final bow really I just want to be satisfied with my life and be a good person and if I die alone then so be it Link to post Share on other sites
BreezyBrii Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 I definitely understand where you’re coming from! I wouldn’t necessarily say I’m afraid of dying alone, but a companion to share life’s experiences with would be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I have a lot of great moments with a lot of different people. I cherish my friends and family more than anything, but to have that one person who can always be there and you can say ‘remember when’ with… idk, people come and go, it’d just be nice to have that one constant. And for me, as a romantic who can tend to have rare confusingly grey moments when I grow attached to someone, that includes some level of intimacy. I’d say discovering I’m asexual made my romantic life both easier and more complicated at the same time. Where before I was just confused and thought there was something wrong with me, I now understand, but still have to explain these things to any potential SO. Finding someone I can balance with seems next to impossible. Link to post Share on other sites
Archived Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 You see, I'm aromantic and I live a life of platonism, so I'm perfectly fine just having friends. It's gonna be alright, there's gotta be someone out there that you like and will accept you. If they don't, they're not the one. Besides, you're at least not alone with this fear. Link to post Share on other sites
Stonesy29 Posted October 31, 2015 Author Share Posted October 31, 2015 just got back on aven after forgetting my password and being off the site a while and cameback to a lot of msgs on this feed. I think some people misunderstood to a degree What I meant by I'm scared of dying alone. What I meant was, I'm scared of always being alone and then dying alone having not found the right person. The actual act of dying alone doesn't bother me, its having lived all of my life alone and then dying alone having lived my whole life lonely. I'm hetroromantic and would like to find the right person for a romantic relationship Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAce Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Thankyou it deffinatley does help talking to other aces. I don't think I'm being dramatic by saying my life has improved since signing up to aven. It's such a supportive community. Hey, you're not alone and you're not being dramatic at all. My life also improved a lot since discovering asexuality and AVEN. We're all here to support ourselves. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Vee78 Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 I had no idea so many other people felt like this. I think as one gets older the thought is more prevalent. I've never heard of dating sites for aces. Has anyone tried them? I imagine they are full of twenty-somethings. Link to post Share on other sites
Desmister Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 There are times when I'm definitely scared of dying alone and other times where I'm certain that I don't need anyone with me and I can handle being alone. Right now I'm definitely fearing being alone forever. I don't want that. I want someone to be there for me, even if it's just a really close friend. It doesn't necessarily have to be romantic for me, I just want that closeness. Link to post Share on other sites
Stonesy29 Posted November 1, 2015 Author Share Posted November 1, 2015 I'm with a ya on this one!! Link to post Share on other sites
marauders Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I don't think that I'm necessarily afraid of dying alone; I think I'm more afraid of living the rest of my life alone. It's very common for one partner to die prior to the other, as someone else said a few comments above, so we could die alone regardless of relationship status. Living the next 40+ years by myself really terrifies me, though. I try not to think about it too much right now, because I'm young and (still relatively) optimistic that I'll meet someone, but every once in awhile, the thought sneaks in there and scares me. Link to post Share on other sites
Acerrow Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I don't believe in placing your happiness into the hands of other people, relying on them to make you happier than you're currently. It will only lead into disappointment. Because of that i'm not really afraid. If i could find someone to live queer-platonically happily till the end, that would be great. It would be brilliant even! But, if it doesn't happen i'm fine with that too. There's no need to worry about it in my opinion, but im kind of indifferent anyway. I would be satisfied with just couple of close friends and thats it. Link to post Share on other sites
SorryNotSorry Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 The US will be an interesting place decades from now... Link to post Share on other sites
Joshua Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 I hear and read many asexual people say they're scared of dying alone, and that a relationship is the remedy. But a relationship may not be a remedy - your partner may die before you or leave you, so you may still die alone! So, I reason that a relationship may not be the answer. I'm single and have many friends, asexual as well as "normal" and there are times when I feel I need time by myself and get almost exhausted of socialising and seeing people. Sometimes I can't fit everything into my schedule. But there are times when I feel a bit lonely, particularly at home when I am alone and wish there was someone around. A few years ago I purchased a new home and designated one of the bedrooms as a guest bedroom and I regularly have people come to stay over, so I've managed any feelings of loneliness in that way, among others. (I must add, I don't 'use' visitors to keep my loneliness at bay) Maybe I need to become more active in the community to at least make asexual friends because being the only asexual person i know in a over sexed world is so isolating.. I don't know life is so confusing. Thanks for reading my rant. You do need to make a determined effort and need to reach out to people in order to make friends. I'd say, don't limit yourself to asexual people. You'll need to interact with lots of people to end up with a handful of friends. And meaningful friendships take time to develop. Be bold and reach out to people - if you meet like minded people or people who would make good friends, seize the opportunity, - invite them to a tea or to see a film. Link to post Share on other sites
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