Kat1234 Posted February 15, 2015 Share Posted February 15, 2015 I'm in high school so i don't know if I need to or not. But when would you tell your friends? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Zapstileon Posted February 15, 2015 Share Posted February 15, 2015 Whenever you're comfortable. You don't have to, if you don't want to. I told my friends pretty quickly, because I was so freaking excited when I figured it out, but it's all about how you feel. If you want them to know, I don't think there is such a thing as "right time". Not with family either, I don't think. You just need to look at the possible outcomes of the situation. :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WintersWhite Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 Do you feel they need to know? Telling people your sexuality is not a necessity because sexual orientation for the most part is a small part of you. But if you feel like doing so then go for it! :D I told my friends when I first found out my asexuality because I was so excited when I figured it out. I just felt like I wanted to shout it out to the world after years of questioning. I didn't tell my parents right away because we don't talk much and I didn't feel any need to tell them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
yomo Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 I still haven't told most people ;) I feel like I would only really tell my mom and anyone else super close to me, plus anyone who asks about an ace bracelet or pin I might happen to have. It's all up to you and how you feel! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 When you're drunk and don't care about how they react because you can "shush" louder than they can ask what you're on about ;) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CharmVif3075 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 When you're ready and feel like it is the right moment Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member54880 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 You don't have to come out to anyone, and only should if/when you feel ready to. Some members here haven't come out to anyone, because they never felt a need to, or felt like it wouldn't be worth it. Can you trust your friends and family to be supportive, and when do you feel like the time would be right? If you don't want to bring it up out of the blue, you could wait until the topic of sexuality comes up among them, to work as a prompt for you. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FiddleKid Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 I haven't. It would just lead to a load of awkward questions. Only my mum knows i'm asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CNGB Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 As everyone else has said, you don't have to come out at all, but you can if you want to. I told my best friend literally ten minutes after I found out myself, because I felt that there was no need to hide it from him. Later on I told another friend, and then my mom. I'll tell anyone who ever asks me, because I feel that it would help with the "visibility" part of things that asexuality deserves. Otherwise there isn't much of a point in shouting it out to the world. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ozzythefabulous Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 I came out to my best friend and after she was cool with it I felt confident enough to tell everyone else so I would say tell a close friend first and then work your way from there :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
QueenWS Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 I never felt the need to "come out" but if you do just mention it casually in a discussion if you want it to come out more "naturally". Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Xavy Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 It's best to tell only when you feel comfortable to tell, and when you are prepared to deal with any outcome of your telling the person. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
colorfulgirl Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 My friends don't even know what my sexuality is. They never asked. If they did, I would tell them. It's not like I'm hiding it but at the same time I don't feel the need to say it to everyone. If you feel like it would be better for you to tell them, then do it. If you don't know how to say it and feel uncomfortable about it -- just don't do it. They are friends, they will like you anyway (if they are real friends of course). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malony Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 I never told anyone that I'm asexual. The only one I feel would need to know about it is my next boyfriend. In my eyes, there is no need for anyone else to know. I told my last boyfriend I didn't like sex much lol, that was before I figured out that I was asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Just when your ready. I told my sister and mum, but didn't at first get the reaction I was hoping for, probably because they didn't know how to deal with it or didn't understand. But my sister broached the subject a long time later after I liked an asexuality video from youtube on facebook. The best reaction came from my dad, who I told after my first meet. I don't normally go off and meet folks off the internet, so he wanted to know where I'd gone. And he kind of shrugged and said that there had to be a word for it. Being ace is something we good naturedly laugh and joke about now. :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fangirl Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 Well, personally I think my sexual orientation is my business and my business only; so the only people I feel I should come out to are dating partners. (Maybe not even them. Depends if things are serious or not and if I trust them or not.) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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