Scuba Diver Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Hi! In short - is it possible to "become" asexual at a later stage in life? Until the age of approx 33-34 I really enjoyed sex with several different partners but since then my libido has slowly gone downhill and now it's completely gone (I'm currently 39) and now I don't miss it at all (nothing turns me on). Additional information: I'm a heterosexual (yes I'm sure) male, no sexual trauma, no religious, overbearing parents, never used any SSRI medicine, very fit (as in I train 4-5 times per week), got a fantastic job, great colleagues, good friends and a loving family (i.e. my life is very good). I have been in several relationships but I have never been in love (I was tired of being alone and the sex was good). Can anybody relate? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Beowulf Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Well that is a hard question to answer but there are two things I would like to say on the matter. 1- sexuality is fluid so it is always possible for sexual orientation to change. 2- libido and sexual attraction are different, losing your sex drive doesn't mean you are losing sexual attraction. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CosineTheCat Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 It can be said that if you've notice this change, you might want to talk with your doctor. A change in libido is normally a sign of something, it's better to be tested then let it go unnoticed especially if you enjoyed sex for a part of your life. If it's nothing, then hey! Welcome to the cake loving community, and even if it's something, you're still welcomed here. But it's always better to be sure then to let something go. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ranting ferret Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 ditto to what beowulf said, sexuality is fluid. and if it is the case, no worries. it isn't always mean a issues with health or anything. just a matter of changes and natural happenings. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDoe1995 Posted February 9, 2015 Share Posted February 9, 2015 I say a commercial (200 times... Stupid channel & their repeating commercials!) 6 months ago for a documentary about people that found themselves attracted to a different gender than the one they used to be attracted to at the age of 35-40. It works the same for full-fledged sexuals to asexuals & vice versa. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
shockkkk Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 I don't know, do you still wish to have sex with other people? If no, while debatable whether or not you're sexuality has changed or not, you share the same characteristics with other asexuals, which is all that really matters imo. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 It can be said that if you've notice this change, you might want to talk with your doctor. A change in libido is normally a sign of something, it's better to be tested then let it go unnoticed especially if you enjoyed sex for a part of your life. If it's nothing, then hey! Welcome to the cake loving community, and even if it's something, you're still welcomed here. But it's always better to be sure then to let something go. Yup -- as said above, lack of libido doesn't equal asexuality. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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