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I'm 14 years old. Am I too young to know if I'm asexual?

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No you are not too young. Sexual orientation is something that people usually know by that age. You might not feel comfortable using that label yet but that is up to you.

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I'm thirteen and I've labeled myself already. But you decide when you're ready to label yourself

Note: I put a lot of thought into it

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Ricecream-man

The way I look at it, once you've gone through puberty (onset of sexual hormones) you're old enough. And remember nothing's permanent.

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I was thirteen when I began to identify as asexual - don't worry, you're not too young at all!

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Anti-Social Butterfly

Defiantly not.

I knew i was asexual for around a year, I'm fourteen now. I have another asexual, a homosexual, and a bisexual friend all around my age, too. There isn't anything wrong with changing your label if your feelings change, remember. ^_^

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butterflydreams

I don't think anyone (myself included) would say you're too young. I would encourage you to keep a very open mind though. 14 is very young. I'd hate to see someone putting themselves in a box that early on (though I know it's tempting to do). As long as you imagine it more like a chair to sit in, that you can get up from any time, I think it'll be helpful to you :)

You have a lot of life to experience yet, and 14 is a crazy age when people all around you are changing in substantial ways, and at varying rates. It can be really easy to feel like you don't fit in. So sure, take a seat in the asexual chair (it's really comfy ^_^) and keep living your young life! Maybe you'll find that some day, that chair isn't so comfy anymore. Maybe you find that it is. Either one is totally ok. Best of luck to you!

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I don't think there really is such thing as "too young" to begin questioning your sexuality. I know when I was about 13 and 14 I started to question my own identity, and I thought about it for a while. Remember that nobody knows you better than you, so if you feel like you're asexual, feel free to call yourself asexual.

Don't feel as though you have to label yourself right away, though. Sexuality is fluid and may change as you grow, but if you feel asexual now than it's ok to call yourself asexual. It's always your call, regardless of age. ^_^

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Personally I think its easiest to wait until after puberty to make final decisions but people can label themselves however they like, so i suppose not.

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labelling yourself is a personal choice that's meant to make you feel safe, respected and comfortable. although i didn't personally know or use the asexual label at your age, i probably could have known from the age of 12 or so if ot had been offered to me. i'm always hesitant to recommend things because i'm sometimes like, if you're worried you're too young, maybe you can't know for sure. maybe you can. i dunno.

labels, like so many here have said, can be changed. you don't have to stick to the one that fitted you best in the past. but also do try to keep your mind open, because sometimes when you've lived with a label for a long time, and then you experience an attraction that doesn't fit it, the experience can be quite scary. it's just being prepared and open to that potential fluidity.

if you want more advice, i tag all posts on my asexuality blog (link in my sig, below) from people under 16 as 'young', so you can see what i've said to them and how i have answered their questions if you think that may be helpful to you.

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I didn't even realize that sexual feelings were supposed to have kicked in by age 14. It wasn't until I was 18 or so that I realized hey, maybe those people are having sex out of more than just curiosity.

You probably just are more self-aware. Or aware? Um... I dunno.

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Nope, I was 13 when I started to identify as asexual! ^_^

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littlepersonparadox

I was 17 when I started identifying, however 14 is actually a pretty common age for people to start becoming more certain and at leas start to form their sexual identity. So no your not to young and you can change labels if you ever feel like you need to. In the mean-time welcome and have some cake!

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If you hit puberty, it's absolutely normal that you'll try figuring what is your sexual orientation(s).

Remember that sexuality, like many other aspects can change with the years, so don't be afraid to change your label. After all, if 30+ people suddenly find themselves attracted to a different sex(es) than they were used to, you can too at 16.

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Daniel G. Shifter

Not at all in my opinion. I realized I was Asexual at that age and never doubted it. The only tricky thing is that because 14 is still a young age, it's still difficult to sometimes be 100% sure that you are Asexual as some may figure out they are actually demi-sexual later on. But don't crack your head over that. As you grow you'll become more and more certain of what you are.

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If some 14 year old know thier homosexual , then it's possible to know your ace , most 14 year olds know what and who thier into , although things may change , they may not , I'm 16 nearly 17 and I just know .

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You are probably too young to know. A fair number of people don't have sexual feelings at 14 but will develop them later in life.

Also knowing you're homosexual at 14 is very very different from knowing you're asexual at 14 since the latter comes the very real possibility of experiencing attraction/desire later in life, where as if you already have developed sexual feelings for the same (or opposite) sex at 14, there's no real uncertainty. left.

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