Iago Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Has anyone else gone from being sexually active to asexual? I used to be (in hindsight) demisexual/greyasexual but my little interest in sex has slowly evaporated over the last few years. Anyone else had a similar experience? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rimethurs Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Yes. I'm still not sure what I am. I used to have a sex drive, enjoyed sex, and initiated sex (although reasons for initiating it were often unhealthy). Then it completely stopped. I haven't had a sex drive and haven't enjoyed sex in over five years. I think I may have felt sexually attracted to someone once for a short period (less than an afternoon) and it was only notable because it was the closest I came to feeling sexually attracted to anyone in over five years. I can't remember anymore if I ever did feel that way towards anyone. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member7783 Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Me. I was pretty confused growing up. I knew I was attracted to females, but it was never as strong as what my peers experienced. I figured I was a late bloomer or broken. I lived as a sexual person from 18 to 33 or 34, took a break, did some soul searching over the next couple of years, discovered what I felt all my life was in the realm of asexuality/demi-sexuality. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Asexual_In_Georgia Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Has anyone else gone from being sexually active to asexual? I used to be (in hindsight) demisexual/greyasexual but my little interest in sex has slowly evaporated over the last few years. Anyone else had a similar experience? Yes. I was sexually active for most of my life. Then I realized that I didn't really enjoy sex that much. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Perseus Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 I was sexually active. I found it easier to sleep with men even though I had no emotional attachment and I didn't like the sex. I used the sex as just a release. I will never sleep with a guy again. I regret every time I did it and wish I could undue it all and be a virgin. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Iago Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 I found I was curious about sex from about 14 onwards but not curious enough to do anything about it. When I finally lost my virginity it seemed like an anti climax! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member7783 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 I found I was curious about sex from about 14 onwards but not curious enough to do anything about it. When I finally lost my virginity it seemed like an anti climax! I had a similar reaction to the first tiem I had sex. I made a conscious decision to have sex when I was 18 and slept with the first willing female. At the end of it I was thinking to myself "this...THIS...is what everyone is so excited about? Big deal" Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Iago Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 I found I was curious about sex from about 14 onwards but not curious enough to do anything about it. When I finally lost my virginity it seemed like an anti climax! I had a similar reaction to the first tiem I had sex. I made a conscious decision to have sex when I was 18 and slept with the first willing female. At the end of it I was thinking to myself "this...THIS...is what everyone is so excited about? Big deal" I'm glad I went through with it - it's good to try something out and find out it's not for you, rather than live with curiosity for ever! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member7783 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 I found I was curious about sex from about 14 onwards but not curious enough to do anything about it. When I finally lost my virginity it seemed like an anti climax! I had a similar reaction to the first tiem I had sex. I made a conscious decision to have sex when I was 18 and slept with the first willing female. At the end of it I was thinking to myself "this...THIS...is what everyone is so excited about? Big deal" I'm glad I went through with it - it's good to try something out and find out it's not for you, rather than live with curiosity for ever! That's a positive way to look at it. In my case I wish I had never done it or had sex ever. I wasted a lot of prana on sex that I could have devoted to more fruitful pursuits. I'd also be a lot wealthier not having to pay for two divorces...LOL Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Iago Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 I found I was curious about sex from about 14 onwards but not curious enough to do anything about it. When I finally lost my virginity it seemed like an anti climax! I had a similar reaction to the first tiem I had sex. I made a conscious decision to have sex when I was 18 and slept with the first willing female. At the end of it I was thinking to myself "this...THIS...is what everyone is so excited about? Big deal" I'm glad I went through with it - it's good to try something out and find out it's not for you, rather than live with curiosity for ever! That's a positive way to look at it. In my case I wish I had never done it or had sex ever. I wasted a lot of prana on sex that I could have devoted to more fruitful pursuits. I'd also be a lot wealthier not having to pay for two divorces...LOL True, I'd have probably saved a fortune on therapy! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
R_1 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 My heterosexual orientation died out on it own, so yes, I consider myself as a former sexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Vivaldi Ives Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 I found I was curious about sex from about 14 onwards but not curious enough to do anything about it. When I finally lost my virginity it seemed like an anti climax! I had a similar reaction to the first tiem I had sex. I made a conscious decision to have sex when I was 18 and slept with the first willing female. At the end of it I was thinking to myself "this...THIS...is what everyone is so excited about? Big deal" I'm not "formerly sexual" but I have to chime in on this one. (TMI WARNING AHEAD) I figured out masturbation when I was pretty young, and didn't realize for a while that it had anything to do with sex. When I figured out what orgasms were...and that I had experienced them...my reaction was "What?! That's what sex is supposed to feel like? Orgasms (for me) are not that fun/exciting/special. Well, sex sure seems awkward now, not the magical feel-good bonding experience I had hoped!" (I've never actually had sex with a partner though...too repulsed/phobic at this point.) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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