Alph Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 I've lurked this place for awhile now, and figured I should actually go and join it. So here I am! I'm Alph, you can call me that or -insert nickname you think of here-. I'm 19 yrs old, agender, romantic of some sort and asexual, and I'm also autistic. My main hobbies are watching anime, reading, and playing video games. And eating delicious foods, especially yummy sweets. I'm pretty much 99.1% certain about being agender, have been for a few months now. I believe I'm romantic, although I've been trying to find a specific label for it, so that makes me a little nervous. Onto the big thing........ my asexuality. I think I only started to really begin to question my sexuality when I finally discovered the proper term of my gender. Looking back in the past, I feel like I've never really ever been sexually attracted to people. The only sexual attachment I've ever really felt has been toward fictional charcters, which I do admit I have had sexual fantasies about (although anything that's been done in them, I wouldn't wanna act out in real life). And in general, I don't care about having sex and even the thought of me having it disgusts me. It's just not for me. I also feel an added factor to it might be due to what happened a couple of years ago between me and my step-father, although I'm a bit nervous to give full details about that right now. sorry. Haven't really come out about anything, to anyone. Not my gender, definitely not my asexuality. It's really stressing me out, keeping myself in a closet like this, but I can't imagine how my family would react. They're not the most kind toward transgendered folk, and being ace....... feel like everyone I tell it to would just try and talk me out of it, saying things like "oh you're too young......." "you're a virgin, you haven't ever dated anyone before, how can you know?" "don't just say that because you're autistic!" Doesn't help that I've heard my older sister sprout some common misconceptions about asexuals like "oh, how can someone be ace but masturbate?" and junk like that. =/ OK, done rambling there. Sorry I don't have a more exciting story to share with you all, but this is me basically. And um...... it's nice to meet you all! Link to post Share on other sites
theam Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Welcome to AVEN. It's awesome to have you here. Lovely to meet you as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Breel75 Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Welcome. Very nice to meet you as well. Link to post Share on other sites
argar Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Welcome to AVEN. I'm sorry you have to deal with the hostilities of uninformed individuals. but I also echo the sentiment that I am really glad you are here. Sexuality and asexuality in particular can be confusing at times. I hope this site and the awesome people can help you with some of the confusion. Have a beautiful day. Link to post Share on other sites
Selasphorus Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Nice to meet you too! Rest assured, if you ever need to vent some frustrations, we're here to lend an ear. ;) Link to post Share on other sites
kelico Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Welcome to AVEN! So glad you de-lurked yourself!! : ) Thanks for sharing your story as well. I know a lot of us can relate to what you've said...asexuality doesn't quite have the visibility yet to be fully understood! So there's lots of misconceptions by people who aren't familiar with it, and they can hurt. : ( What's important is you knowing yourself though! And being content with your identity. Gender identity is also something tough, so I commend you for working through that and finding an identity that feels right to you, too. <3 We're all here to help, and I hope you enjoy being a member! Take care~ Link to post Share on other sites
Karret Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Welcome! I'm sorry to hear about your situation. :c I don't know what kind of advice to offer, but if you feel these terms are what fit you, then that's that. It's no one else's business to tell you how you do or should feel or what words are most accurate. Even if you decide to never tell your family, at least you have this place, yeah? Cx!! -hugs- Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Girl Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Hi and welcome! Some people never feel comfortable telling others except those who might need to know (potential partners) and other people easily tell friends and family. I always like to suggest that you only tell people if and when you feel safe and comfortable doing so. It's a personal thing, so don't let it worry you too much either way. In the meantime, I hope you love being a member here!!! :) Link to post Share on other sites
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