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For asexuals, are you repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies?


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I hate sex scenes, most of them are just pointless fan service anyway.

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So once upon a time I was convinced to go see "Spring Breakers."

Nope. NOPE. For so many reasons I can't even list them all.

That movie made no sense. It didn't even know what movie it was -- the first half thought it was one movie, the second half thought it was an entirely different movie, and the ending made no sense at all.

Also, lots of random sex.

"How did I get dragged off to see this" was what I ended up thinking. (And what my friends thought, too, when they heard I'd been dragged off to see it.)

Never again will I pay money for a film without knowing EXACTLY what happens in it first.

How DID you get dragged to see Spring Breakers? It's already an incredibly awkward movie (I found James Franco's performance funny and some of the cinematography interesting, but other than that it's a stupid pretentious clusterfuck), I can't imagine how awkward it must be for someone repulsed by sex scenes.

As far as recent movies where sex scenes did actually contribute to the plot, the one that sticks out in my mind is Her, which is interesting because its important sex scenes are essentially asexual (all talk, no physicality). Curious what people here thought of that.

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So once upon a time I was convinced to go see "Spring Breakers."

Nope. NOPE. For so many reasons I can't even list them all.

That movie made no sense. It didn't even know what movie it was -- the first half thought it was one movie, the second half thought it was an entirely different movie, and the ending made no sense at all.

Also, lots of random sex.

"How did I get dragged off to see this" was what I ended up thinking. (And what my friends thought, too, when they heard I'd been dragged off to see it.)

Never again will I pay money for a film without knowing EXACTLY what happens in it first.

How DID you get dragged to see Spring Breakers? It's already an incredibly awkward movie (I found James Franco's performance funny and some of the cinematography interesting, but other than that it's a stupid pretentious clusterfuck), I can't imagine how awkward it must be for someone repulsed by sex scenes.

As far as recent movies where sex scenes did actually contribute to the plot, the one that sticks out in my mind is Her, which is interesting because its important sex scenes are essentially asexual (all talk, no physicality). Curious what people here thought of that.

So I had this friend who wanted to go see it. I wanted to spend time with said friend. I mistakenly chose to take his word for it that this would be a good movie (which it wasn't, even apart from the sex scenes), rather than go look it up online and read about it first. As I said, never again!

For the first half of the movie, Selena Gomez's character was the protagonist and we're following her journey and wondering what she will do. There is a very scary moment when it looks like someone might get raped, and she might be caught up by a sex trafficker, and then she leaves the movie and goes home and the antagonists all suddenly become comic relief and a new antagonist shows up (a rival drug dealer) and then the plot is "let's go kill the other drug dealer and his women" (who all happen to be black... uh... cue the racism). This was a mess of a movie.

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For the first half of the movie, Selena Gomez's character was the protagonist and we're following her journey and wondering what she will do. There is a very scary moment when it looks like someone might get raped, and she might be caught up by a sex trafficker, and then she leaves the movie and goes home and the antagonists all suddenly become comic relief and a new antagonist shows up (a rival drug dealer) and then the plot is "let's go kill the other drug dealer and his women" (who all happen to be black... uh... cue the racism). This was a mess of a movie.

That summary makes me think, WTF? O___o

Honestly that sounds like a really terrible movie to begin with.

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I agreed with MidnightLight on this one. It has to make sense in the show or movie. If it doesn't make sense, the scene is pointless to me.

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For the first half of the movie, Selena Gomez's character was the protagonist and we're following her journey and wondering what she will do. There is a very scary moment when it looks like someone might get raped, and she might be caught up by a sex trafficker, and then she leaves the movie and goes home and the antagonists all suddenly become comic relief and a new antagonist shows up (a rival drug dealer) and then the plot is "let's go kill the other drug dealer and his women" (who all happen to be black... uh... cue the racism). This was a mess of a movie.

That summary makes me think, WTF? O___o

Honestly that sounds like a really terrible movie to begin with.

It was!!! And it had a lot of sex. Some of it was just "beach bodies in the camera!" sort of randomness that perhaps was trying to make fun of other movies and perhaps wasn't? I wasn't sure what it was trying to do other than show lots of skin and then laugh at itself. But there are a lot more explicit sex (and some moments which were downright scary -- as I said, there were moments when I thought I was about to see a rape scene, and there was some shit like characters performing oral sex on weapons), and really I don't think even if I was someone for whom sex in movies made any sense, this movie could have made sense. It was just that bad.

It was probably the movie with the most sex in it I've ever seen, though. And random sexual stuff, most of which made no sense. (Girls in pink bunny outfits dancing around on the beach while a guy plays the piano?) The only interesting character in the movie imo was Selena Gomez's character (who starts off struggling with herself at a church youth group), because we don't know if she will end up rejecting her "let's go rob a diner and take the money and go on a trip for spring break and have lots of drugs and sex and alcohol" friends, or will end up becoming like them. But she leaves halfway through and the antagonists become comic relief and then it's an entirely different movie.

At least here I could say "so this made no sense" and I know a lot of people would agree with me. When there are movies with sex in them that don't make sense to me but make sense to "all the normal people," then it's a very different kind of awkward. This movie was all "look how ironic I am!" and I don't really "get" that sort of thing in the first place, sexual or not. I didn't find it ironic and clever, I just found it badly written.

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Some sex scenes make me uncomfortable, some don't; it all depends on the way the scene is done.

If the focus is on the emotional aspect of the characters' relationship, I have no problem with that; though I do think sometimes sex scenes are just an excuse to not go into character and relationship development on a deeper level.

Scenes that show the physical side of sex are insanely awkward for me to watch though. Especially if I'm watching them while other people are in the room. It's like, "Hey, I have no clue what the characters are feeling nor why they had to put that scene in the movie, but I have to fake an appropriate reaction because you are watching me and I know you will judge me."

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I don't like sex scenes on T.V. or in movies, they don't make sense to me and it's not because of my personal opinion of sex- I don't have one, since I never engaged in it- but it's just like those shows and movies have great plots, characters, or lead ups that don't need those scenes. To me it's reminiscent of superhero movies that include a love interes for the character. Why? Those heroes want to save the world before it gets taken over, they don't have time to flirt with you!

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When I was younger, I'd become extremely embarrassed by sex scenes - in some cases I couldn't watch them. These days, I can easily watch, but there's no emotional connection with what is happening on the screen. I think I have autochorissexual tendencies, but if I'm mining movies/TV for source material, it needs to be in the area of my fetishes or kinks to be of interest.

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I used to have to ignore sex scenes in movies, along with things about sexuals in real life. When I started withdrawing my membership from thinking I was part of groups of people (e.g. gender, sexuals, etc.) and was able to perceive myself as just myself and others as separate from me, it was a lot easier to bear sex scenes, talk of what sexuals do, etc. It was clearly their thing and not a reflection of myself, and not something I was under any obligation to care about, participate in, whatever. In real life I enjoy seeing others feel good, so I like it when sexuals fulfill their needs (though I don't watch). In movies, it's sort of like this, though sometimes I think about the writer and wonder whether such a scene was necessary. In movies I guess I think more about sexuals and their needs in general, and feel some pity that they are chained to this need.

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For me it depends on the context. Most of the time I'm watching or reading something I'm not interested in any kind of romance or sex so if a sex scene happens my reaction is generally along the lines of 'is this really necessary?' Very occasionally in that context I'll feel like it actually furthered the plot or character development in some way, but mostly I'm just... meh. You could be showing something way more interesting than this instead.

When I'm specifically looking for media based around romance or whatever I don't mind the scenes, or I'm even specifically looking for them. Sometimes though I'll be reading fanfiction or playing a VN or something and sex will happen and I'll just be 'NOO BUT THE PLOT! DO THE DO LATER!' <.<

....basically though, in general, I have to be specifically seeking out sex scenes in order to remotely care or not be bored by them.

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CuriousOlivia

For me personally, I think it is really annoying. I mean, you have a great movie and a great story line, and then the female character goes down on the main hero. It is kind of like 'Really? Is this needed?'

I use to not mind them so much as sex itself, but recently I have been a little... I don't know. I wince in disgust when I watch the scenes.It's kind of like 'Ew. No thanks.' xD

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Beyourownspotlight

I'm not repulsed by sex at all. In reality, or on tv.

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Sex scenes bore me. Sometimes they confuse me. For example, I was watching a movie about people who were trapped in an underground building. There was a timer counting down to when the building would explode. An electronic voice comes on announcing "countdown to detonation." Two of the people then decide to have sex and get blown apart; the movie shows it in slow motion. I was confused because my main concern would be escaping the building, not having sex.

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Sleepy Skeleton

If it's gratuitous sex thrown in there just to watch sex, it really annoys me. It disrupts the plot. Other times I can tolerate it, but only as long as it's not too graphic. Every time I watch a TV show or movie for the first time, I read about it online to see if it has any sexual content. If it has too much, I simply won't watch it.

On the other hand, I can get behind sex scenes if I have an attachment to the characters involved. I'd love to see my OTP in a relationship. I'd enjoy the emotional meaning behind it, not any sexual reason. But any other characters are just boring for me.

Sex definitely repulses me in real life. I don't have a partner, but even if I did, I very much doubt I'd ever be okay with having the sex just to please them. I will never be in a relationship where I "have to have sex" with someone. I also don't care much for porn.

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If it's gratuitous sex thrown in there just to watch sex, it really annoys me. It disrupts the plot. Other times I can tolerate it, but only as long as it's not too graphic. Every time I watch a TV show or movie for the first time, I read about it online to see if it has any sexual content. If it has too much, I simply won't watch it.

I don't pay attention on looking up the descriptions if the film contains sex scenes or not. The plot of more important. If I acted like this I wouldn't see any good film because I'm a huge fan of non-Hollywood ones, especially European ones. Moreover not all sex scenes repulse me..

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For me it depends a lot on how it is depicted. I have stopped watching shows before because I was annoyed about how there was practically crammed at least one sex scene into every single epiode without there being an actual point of including them. I also hate all these "everybody sleeps with everybody and all relationships falls apart because people are not able to shag any random person they see" storylines.

At the same time I've watched tv shows that basically revolve around sex and relationships. I have no problem at all with sex on tv if it makes sense in the context of the show and the relationship of the characters included.

It's weird sometimes because I get upset about a boner joke on Doctor Who (it's a family show for Christ's sake) but happily watch a show where every second scene is people talking about sex in really graphic ways and don't mind it at all because it makes sense in the context of the story.

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I'm not asexual myself, but one time when I was watching a horror movie with an asexual friend of mine when an unexpected sex scene came up... Her reaction? To shriek loudly and backflip over the couch, which she hid behind until I told her it was over.

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i'm pretty repulsed by explicit genitalia shots so i'll avoid that, i guess. like if someone reblogs porn onto my dash on tumblr i'll just scroll past and avoid looking. but if it's not too explicit i generally don't mind so much, although i often think it's kind of gratuitous. that said, i sat through all of blue is the warmest colour the other day and insisted the sex in that wasn't as intense as everyone made it out to be. i was a bottle of wine deep at that point tho so maybe not making my most accurate assessment :P

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If I'm watching a show with a sex scene on DVR I just fast forward through it, as it does make me feel uncomfortable. I guess because it makes me directly think about the fact that I don't like something that 99.9% of people think is awesome. I don't understand the interest people have in porn movies at all. I saw them a couple of times when I was in college and other people had them on, I just don't get it, though.

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I can go either way.

If there's no relationship development or it's just a waste of time, like in an action scene, then the scenes are annoying and piss me off.

But if I am rooting for the couple and it makes sense (like the one in The Backup Plan where she ends up falling asleep before the sex even starts, lmao) then I don't mind since I see it as a show of affection and taking the relationship a step further.

Even in fiction stories that are written down I feel the same way. Also in ones I write. I see sex as a carnal, instinctual action that results from a large amount of attraction between two+ people, so if it seems right then it's fine. It's not my thing and I'm incredibly awkward with it in real life, I don't think it's necessarily wrong or gross if other people do it.

As for the porn question, I only watched a few porn for free to see my reaction to it and was bored. I was more interested in trying to write their actions then what I was supposed to feel from it. Hentai, yuri and yaoi get me hotter if I'm in the mood (drawn, mind you, not animated), though I also often look at it in a "How would I write out this scene?" kind of way.

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From what I remember (I usually watch kid-oriented movies or horror movies) I'm decently uncomfortable when a sex scene comes on. I find it unnecessary .___. I personally can be sex repulsed pretty often, even when my libido is active, but sometimes I'm not. I can watch porn and enjoy it when I'm not (though that's a pretty obvious statement).

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I'm not repulsed, but I seem to switch between annoyed, indifferent, and confused.

1. Annoyed. Since it's not sexy to me, all I end up thinking about is how sexist the movie is being by including a whole lot of gratuitous sex, shot in ways that only show the girls erogenous areas, usually making the women sex crazed shallow characters. Usually ends up with people trying to convince me how the director had a specific reason for making the movie this way (Wolf of Wall Street/ DonJon/ etc)

2. Indifferent. This sex scene is natural and not fake, and serves a purpose to advance the plot. I'm okay to watch, just another scene, not really affected by it (Do people really get turned on by these parts?)

3. Confused. This section has a special place for porn and over exaggerated sex scenes. Girl cums 20 times and is moaning/screaming as soon as the other person touches a nipple. Just... confused. Sexual people why? Is this supposed to be good?

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Some scenes make me repulsed, and other secenes. But there is no consistency in any way. I think it depends on my mood.

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I tend to get annoyed by sex scenes. They seem unnecessary in most cases and even if it makes sense in the context of the story I still feel as if they could have skimmed over it. Especially in fiction if the scene is long and detailed I tend to speed through it cause it's just a waste of time away from the action.

As for real life, never had an experience with sex yet so I'm not sure how I would react. Though I'm fine with discussing it or joking about it with friends.

And I don't watch porn cause I don't see any point to it.

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In the main cheap titillation to try and increase audiences. Can ruin a good film, and at times I don't feel comfortable watching. my main view is why? If I am watching guns crashes and explosions I don't want a soft porn interlude.

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I was always used to having my eyes covered by my mom during sex scenes when I was young, "Its not for you" she'd say and I would be slightly curious, but I would always feel like ok, I'd wait for when I'm older. Well Now that I'm older and see it right on my face, I sort of wished my mom's back to shield me because sometimes, its just repulsive really.

I feel like sex scenes are sometimes too forced in a movie, since obviously "all perfect romantic relationships have to be sexual, if its not that means its not a happy relationship". Though yeah I've never seen the point of having sex scenes in a movie other than to show the audience how deep two character's bond have gotten, and just the prime lust in humans idk I watch porn sometimes but then they look so forced its just sad.

I suggest whenever a porn scene comes along in a movie just sort of take a step back and see the two figures as an artform. That way you won't necessarily have to be emotionally invested or anything :mellow: at least that's what I do, I see the two figures as a reference for nsfw art LOL

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It really depends on the sex scene. Het scenes generally make me feel uncomfortable and a bit awkward. But I'm generally looking at it with something between scientific interest and boredom. But it helps if the male actor has a nice looking body :-)

I absolutely don't watch any het porn, but male gay porn I don't mind so much. I just need some believable romance involved, and not just sex, and nice looking actors.

Basically, I could really do without any females in sex scenes...

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