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Are most of the asexuals repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies (such as feeling uncomfortable while watching it, or would look away while it appears)?

For asexuals who are repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies, are you also repulsed by sex in reality (feel very uncomfortable when you have to have sex to please your partner)? And do you also never watch porns (because some asexuals do watch porns, even masturbate to porns)?

I personally is indifferent to sex scenes in TV/movies (I don't feel uncomfortable watching it, but it's not more interesting to me than other part of the TV show/movies eithers), and I'm also indifferent to sex in real life (can have sex to please my partner, but don't initiatively desire it). And I don't watch porns (not repulsed by porns either, but I don't initiatively desire to watch porns). I feel that I'm indifferent to all of the sex related things, don't find them particularly interesting, but never been repulsed by any of them (don't understand why I should feel uncomfortable about them).

How about other asexuals?

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I don't understand the point of them, most movies seem to have a strong story working up, then suddenly everything takes a break for the main characters to get naked for ten minutes of pointlessness, while their enemy is still out there looking for them.

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I think it's pretty interesting to see it on tv, movies, or books. As long as there is some sort of background or event that leads up to it. I don't know how I feel about it in a real-life situation; as I've never had sex yet. xP The thought of being naked in front of my partner, or them in front of me, does make me feel pretty uncomfortable, though.

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

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I'm not repulsed by sex in TV shows and movies. In fact, if I've developed an emotional attachment to the characters/relationship, I'll usually be cheering them on. That said though, I don't really enjoy watching sexual scenes when it seems like the sex is just a media ploy and not really furthering the plot/character developments. So yeah, in the right context I do enjoy it, but in other contexts it does make me uncomfortable. I wouldn't sex I'm repulsed, I just don't see the need to have sex thrown in my face when the context doesn't warrant it.

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

Hmm, that's interesting. I'm kind of the opposite, unless the real people involved are me ;) I'm definitely somewhat repulsed by talk of it, especially regarding people I know. Super especially if it's my brother or my sister.

As for scenes in movies or shows, if it has something to do with the story, fine. If not...it feels silly. I don't know, maybe they put them in there to get people all hot and bothered, or as a way to connect the audience to the characters...who knows. I obviously felt awkward if I was watching something like that with my parents in the room...always averted my eyes, literally :P But I think even by myself. I'll probably not actually turn away, but I will let out an exasperated sigh.

I don't read a lot (ok...at all, fiction anyway), but are there lots of books (other than trashy romance novels) that have sex scenes in them?

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I'm more uninterested than repulsed. It takes time away from the action or plot.

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Depending on my mood, I'll either be amused or annoyed that the director felt a need to put sex scenes in tv/movies. Sometimes I appreciate it because it makes sense, and to avoid it would seem disingenuous, but when it seems like they're just doing it because RATINGS! then I'm like... you sad, pathetic human. Or like "Oooooh! You know they're being seriously scandalous now, because .. OMIGOSH, GUISE, SEX!!!!"

Oftentimes, it just feels like pandering/stupid as fuck fanservice, and that's always bugged me, not because "EW SEX!" but because "Oh come on, what's even the point of this ARRGGH" It's like when a story plays out an obvious cliche that's overdone and you're bored to death of it, and THEY KEEP DOING IT. If it's only one thing, the story could still be good and merit praise, but if it poisons the whole plot, then it becomes the dumbest piece of shit - this can be done for laughs, which has potential to make it okay again [intentionally or not coughTheRoomcough], but if it's meant to be taken seriously, and it doesn't suck quite enough to be awesome again, then it's just dull to the point of irritation.

Sometimes I'll just observe it curiously, like "huh... so I guess that's what it's like... interesting" or some kind of scholarly approach, but other times I'll feel too awkward looking at it or whatever and impatiently wait for it to be over with.

In reality, so long as I don't have to hear about it or see it, then if other people want to, so long as everyone is of age, consenting and safe, then go for it and be happy. The idea of me involved in any sexual activity is gross, so I'm probably not ever going to worry about doing that.

And I do not watch porn, nor do I desire to.

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I find sex scenes on TV, in movies, and even books (though I do read a lot of m/m romances) to be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable to watch/read, even if it is in context. With books I tend to skim over those parts. TV and movies, I tend to fast forward or go elsewhere for the duration.

While I have no interest what people do in the privacy of their homes or where ever, the thought of me ever actually doing the deed squicks me out no end.

Why people watch porn is beyond me. It sounds incredibly boring and we'll not get into the how disgusting the physical side of the sex can be.

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Are most of the asexuals repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies (such as feeling uncomfortable while watching it, or would look away while it appears)?

For asexuals who are repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies, are you also repulsed by sex in reality (feel very uncomfortable when you have to have sex to please your partner)? And do you also never watch porns (because some asexuals do watch porns, even masturbate to porns)?

Am I made uncomfortable by sex in TV/movies? Yes.

Am I repulsed by sex in reality (about me vs. in general about other people)? I'd never be in that context in the first place, because wow no there is nothing I want at all about doing that (but no, I don't believe anyone should ever "have to" have sex to please a partner, though they may CHOOSE to. If someone is forced to have sex, that's really wrong.). I'm going to assume meant "choose to have sex to please a partner."

Do I watch porn? If I don't like seeing sex scenes in TV/movies, not sure what I would expect to get out of porn. I actually think it might give me nightmares. :/ Pornographic images I've seen by accident (perhaps aided by photoshop and other digital manipulation) have featured grotesquely distorted human bodies, sexual abuse of animals, or other disturbing content.

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

Hmm, that's interesting. I'm kind of the opposite, unless the real people involved are me ;) I'm definitely somewhat repulsed by talk of it, especially regarding people I know. Super especially if it's my brother or my sister.

As for scenes in movies or shows, if it has something to do with the story, fine. If not...it feels silly. I don't know, maybe they put them in there to get people all hot and bothered, or as a way to connect the audience to the characters...who knows. I obviously felt awkward if I was watching something like that with my parents in the room...always averted my eyes, literally :P But I think even by myself. I'll probably not actually turn away, but I will let out an exasperated sigh.

I don't read a lot (ok...at all, fiction anyway), but are there lots of books (other than trashy romance novels) that have sex scenes in them?

Really? The opposite? That's funny! Haha cause I can't handle watching sex scenes in movies or TV (whether it pertains to the story or not lol). It's not like feeling sick repulsed, just...very highly uncomfortable and I tend to fast-forward if I can (or yeah, avert my eyes!)! And yes, it's definitely the most awkward if watching with parents...XD;

Yes, sex scenes are in lots of books haha! Not just smut or trashy romance. I primarily read fantasy novels, and there tends to be some sort of romance included that may lead to sex scenes (which are usually pretty tame and vague but can be quite detailed as well lol). I mean, not all, of course, but it's fairly common. I don't mind reading them in books cause my imagination can be as detailed or as censored as it wants to be lol. :P

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

Hmm, that's interesting. I'm kind of the opposite, unless the real people involved are me ;) I'm definitely somewhat repulsed by talk of it, especially regarding people I know. Super especially if it's my brother or my sister.

As for scenes in movies or shows, if it has something to do with the story, fine. If not...it feels silly. I don't know, maybe they put them in there to get people all hot and bothered, or as a way to connect the audience to the characters...who knows. I obviously felt awkward if I was watching something like that with my parents in the room...always averted my eyes, literally :P But I think even by myself. I'll probably not actually turn away, but I will let out an exasperated sigh.

I don't read a lot (ok...at all, fiction anyway), but are there lots of books (other than trashy romance novels) that have sex scenes in them?

Really? The opposite? That's funny! Haha cause I can't handle watching sex scenes in movies or TV (whether it pertains to the story or not lol). It's not like feeling sick repulsed, just...very highly uncomfortable and I tend to fast-forward if I can (or yeah, avert my eyes!)! And yes, it's definitely the most awkward if watching with parents...XD;

Yes, sex scenes are in lots of books haha! Not just smut or trashy romance. I primarily read fantasy novels, and there tends to be some sort of romance included that may lead to sex scenes (which are usually pretty tame and vague but can be quite detailed as well lol). I mean, not all, of course, but it's fairly common. I don't mind reading them in books cause my imagination can be as detailed or as censored as it wants to be lol. :P

Hehe, yeah, I mean, I also don't feel sick by it, but just so much, "why is this here?" I guess it really depends on the scene. If it's relatively tame, and as close to realistic (how I imagine sex in my head, realistic is debatable ;)) I'm not too bothered. If it's like two people throwing each other around the room in the "throes of passion" well, if I wanted to watch something that fake, I'd watch porn. But I'm not watching porn am I? No, I'm watching Star Trek: Into Darkness or something. Which is lame, because you used to be able to watch action movies like that and not have all the sex in them.

I guess that's the advantage of reading it. You can just "imaginate" the situation from two people having sex to two people getting really into cake or something :lol:

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

Hmm, that's interesting. I'm kind of the opposite, unless the real people involved are me ;) I'm definitely somewhat repulsed by talk of it, especially regarding people I know. Super especially if it's my brother or my sister.

As for scenes in movies or shows, if it has something to do with the story, fine. If not...it feels silly. I don't know, maybe they put them in there to get people all hot and bothered, or as a way to connect the audience to the characters...who knows. I obviously felt awkward if I was watching something like that with my parents in the room...always averted my eyes, literally :P But I think even by myself. I'll probably not actually turn away, but I will let out an exasperated sigh.

I don't read a lot (ok...at all, fiction anyway), but are there lots of books (other than trashy romance novels) that have sex scenes in them?

Really? The opposite? That's funny! Haha cause I can't handle watching sex scenes in movies or TV (whether it pertains to the story or not lol). It's not like feeling sick repulsed, just...very highly uncomfortable and I tend to fast-forward if I can (or yeah, avert my eyes!)! And yes, it's definitely the most awkward if watching with parents...XD;

Yes, sex scenes are in lots of books haha! Not just smut or trashy romance. I primarily read fantasy novels, and there tends to be some sort of romance included that may lead to sex scenes (which are usually pretty tame and vague but can be quite detailed as well lol). I mean, not all, of course, but it's fairly common. I don't mind reading them in books cause my imagination can be as detailed or as censored as it wants to be lol. :P

Hehe, yeah, I mean, I also don't feel sick by it, but just so much, "why is this here?" I guess it really depends on the scene. If it's relatively tame, and as close to realistic (how I imagine sex in my head, realistic is debatable ;)) I'm not too bothered. If it's like two people throwing each other around the room in the "throes of passion" well, if I wanted to watch something that fake, I'd watch porn. But I'm not watching porn am I? No, I'm watching Star Trek: Into Darkness or something. Which is lame, because you used to be able to watch action movies like that and not have all the sex in them.

I guess that's the advantage of reading it. You can just "imaginate" the situation from two people having sex to two people getting really into cake or something :lol:

YES. What I bolded, yes so many times. I am really bothered that as well! It is like every movie out there has sex in it, whether it's an action movie to comedy to sci-fi...it's rare to watch one that is sex-free. D: So like you said, it makes you think, "Wait, why is this in here??" Lol.

I like the word "imaginate"...that is a wonderful world. :3 Haha yup! :cake:

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

Hmm, that's interesting. I'm kind of the opposite, unless the real people involved are me ;) I'm definitely somewhat repulsed by talk of it, especially regarding people I know. Super especially if it's my brother or my sister.

As for scenes in movies or shows, if it has something to do with the story, fine. If not...it feels silly. I don't know, maybe they put them in there to get people all hot and bothered, or as a way to connect the audience to the characters...who knows. I obviously felt awkward if I was watching something like that with my parents in the room...always averted my eyes, literally :P But I think even by myself. I'll probably not actually turn away, but I will let out an exasperated sigh.

I don't read a lot (ok...at all, fiction anyway), but are there lots of books (other than trashy romance novels) that have sex scenes in them?

Really? The opposite? That's funny! Haha cause I can't handle watching sex scenes in movies or TV (whether it pertains to the story or not lol). It's not like feeling sick repulsed, just...very highly uncomfortable and I tend to fast-forward if I can (or yeah, avert my eyes!)! And yes, it's definitely the most awkward if watching with parents...XD;

Yes, sex scenes are in lots of books haha! Not just smut or trashy romance. I primarily read fantasy novels, and there tends to be some sort of romance included that may lead to sex scenes (which are usually pretty tame and vague but can be quite detailed as well lol). I mean, not all, of course, but it's fairly common. I don't mind reading them in books cause my imagination can be as detailed or as censored as it wants to be lol. :P

Hehe, yeah, I mean, I also don't feel sick by it, but just so much, "why is this here?" I guess it really depends on the scene. If it's relatively tame, and as close to realistic (how I imagine sex in my head, realistic is debatable ;)) I'm not too bothered. If it's like two people throwing each other around the room in the "throes of passion" well, if I wanted to watch something that fake, I'd watch porn. But I'm not watching porn am I? No, I'm watching Star Trek: Into Darkness or something. Which is lame, because you used to be able to watch action movies like that and not have all the sex in them.

I guess that's the advantage of reading it. You can just "imaginate" the situation from two people having sex to two people getting really into cake or something :lol:

YES. What I bolded, yes so many times. I am really bothered that as well! It is like every movie out there has sex in it, whether it's an action movie to comedy to sci-fi...it's rare to watch one that is sex-free. D: So like you said, it makes you think, "Wait, why is this in here??" Lol.

I like the word "imaginate"...that is a wonderful world. :3 Haha yup! :cake:

I second the need for action movies (and other genres) that don't have the "obligatory" sex in them.

I also want to see "strong female characters" (quotes because this is a trope now) who never want sex. Can we please just have a woman who kicks ass and doesn't want to get into someone's pants in the movie?

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Just found out about this in another thread:

http://www.amazon.com/Clariel-The-Lost-Abhorsen-Kingdom/dp/006156155X

The protagonist is explicitly described as both asexual and aromantic. Wow!

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I find sex in TV/movies uncomfortable IF there is nudity involved - the "network safe" sex scenes are fine. It's not that it's gross, exactly, but I feel like I am watching something very... personal. Makes me uncomfortable, cause I don't want to see that part of peoples lives anymore than I want to hear about the details of their bowel movements.

IRL, sex doesn't make me uncomfortable (I AM OK sharing such personal stuff with a partner) but I don't enjoy it. It's just boring and meh.

No I do not watch porn, non-libidoist and no interest in masturbating on top of not wanting to see other people naked/having sex.

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Considering how much porn I've watched over the last 10+ years, I'm pretty sure my answer is no.

:lol:

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Eh, I don't find sex scenes in films cool. I feel a bit uncomfortable and shameful while seeing them and use to change the channel and wait until it ends but it depends. Some sex scenes are so nice to watch.

As I've never had sex I don't know how is it but don't find it comfortable , especially some sexual activities as bj and those fluids as sperm... :( but I don't mind other people have it.

Porns? I'd run away! They gross me out so much! I don't like actors look and behave so fake and artificial as those mega loud orgasms and artificial breasts , vaginas and penises. I've seen some fragments of so called 'feminist porn' and didn't find it gross, no strange scenes and artificial body parts.

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Re: "network safe" sex scenes (which IMO can still be pretty explicit):

1. I feel what I'm watching is gross and icky. If I'm watching realistic violence on TV, it can be horrifying because I'm putting myself in the scene on some unconscious level and that's painful, and the same is true for sex -- it doesn't matter that (on some level I can't really get) the characters are enjoying it, to me, what I see is something that would be extremely painful in multiple ways, as well as just gross. (I should also add that on top of being ace and sex repulsed I am somewhat OCD, so that's just yet another layer of EEEW GROSS I feel about said scenes.)

2. I also have been taught all my life that it's not OK for an adult to be grossed out by sex, so then I feel layers of shame on top of it.

3. If there is someone in the room watching it and isn't grossed out (which is usually how this happens -- someone else has it on and I happen to be in the room for some other reason, doing something else), then I feel extra awkward for feeling it's gross, and like I can't say anything about it because feeling this way is "wrong," and indicates something is "broken" about me. If I just found it boring, no, that would be OK, but gross? Not supposed to feel that way.

So it comes down to negotiations with others in my household about what I'm comfortable being in the room for and not. For most shows with sex in them, I'm OK with it, and just ignore it. I'm even OK with most of Sex in the City (even if I find it boring at times, though it can be amusing at other times), but Grey's Anatomy is a hard no (actually, one of my only hard nos, and that's because of more than just the sex).

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Sex scenes on TV shows are great! It means I can get a snack or a tea and not miss anything. Otherwise they're the same as those 'emotional backstory' scenes involving the one character nobody likes. I'm more bored than indifferent watching them.

Though if I'm at a cinema, sex scenes just pull me right out of the movie. They just feel forced, as if there is some screenwriting rule whereby the protagonist HAS to shag the only female character. I honestly can't remember the last movie I saw where the sex had anything remotely to do with the plot... Probably a James Bond movie.

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I'm not repulsed by or uncomfortable with sex scenes in any media (movies, books). But I might be annoyed at them if they are useless or badly written. I don't like erotica or porn because it's not interesting. Sex scenes need to be interesting. Just like any other scene. The fact that it is a sex scene doesn't automatically make it interesting. There needs to be conflict in there.

Example: Main Guy has sex with Main Girl in either a romance or an action movie? Pointless. In a romance, kissing would be enough to show the characters are finally recognising their feelings towards one another. In an action film, it is usually completely irrelevant and an excuse to show off the dude's abs and the girls chest. Ridiculous.

It needs to serve the story, fit with the characters and it needs to have an energy and style, like any other scene. Random sex scenes in movies annoy me. But I am able to love a sex scene that is relevant and well done.

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It really depends on the type of movie. From my point of view, Hollywood movies tend to be quite 'harmless' ... watching sex scenes often feels like watching 'sexy' TV ads - no big difference. European movies are a lot more realistic in general and more likely to make me feel uncomfortable.

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So once upon a time I was convinced to go see "Spring Breakers."

Nope. NOPE. For so many reasons I can't even list them all.

That movie made no sense. It didn't even know what movie it was -- the first half thought it was one movie, the second half thought it was an entirely different movie, and the ending made no sense at all.

Also, lots of random sex.

"How did I get dragged off to see this" was what I ended up thinking. (And what my friends thought, too, when they heard I'd been dragged off to see it.)

Never again will I pay money for a film without knowing EXACTLY what happens in it first.

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Personally I am not against sex scenes in movies/tv as long as they make sense. Even when the sex is random I don't find it repulsive, but I do find it annoying.

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I'm not exactly repulsed,as long as it's not too graphic.I just feel uncomfortable,especially if there's someone else with me.Uncomfortable to the point of actually excusing myself and leaving the room until it's over.

As for real life,I've never had sex.And I don't really want to;I tense up whenever someone's too close and touching me,and I'm not aroused when thinking about it.Guess I'll have a hard time finding a partner,if I ever do find someone.Meh.

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Generally, I don't enjoy sex scenes and I often get distracted or look away especially overdone, unnecessary pointless sex scenes

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I'm most repulsed by sex when it involves myself. I see it as very unlikely that I'll ever have sex, because the idea of having sex kind of grosses me out.

I'm usually indifferent to sex scenes on TV though. I do get a bit uncomfortable if they become overly graphic, but for the most part I'm very meh about it. I've never watched porn, so I can't really give an opinion there.

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I'm repulsed when it comes to sex involving real people...so that includes movies, TV, any talk of it regarding myself or people I know, etc.. I am indifferent (sometimes interested!) when it comes to books/manga though. But that's it! Nothing else for me, thanks lol.

This, I have this exactly. When reading books I'll sometimes read it, and sometimes skim over it, depending on my mood, but anything with actual people gets me to run away. Okay, not run away physically (though I actually did that a few times in the middle of a conversation when it was too explicit and I couldn't cope). When seeing it in movies or TV etc I usually get uncomfortable first and will look/walk away until it's passed.

I'm also very repulsed in 'real life' so concerning me or people around me. Books aren't as bad, because as Hadley and kelico stated earlier, you can just screen how explicit you want it to be.

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Are most of the asexuals repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies (such as feeling uncomfortable while watching it, or would look away while it appears)?

For asexuals who are repulsed by sex scenes on TV/movies, are you also repulsed by sex in reality (feel very uncomfortable when you have to have sex to please your partner)? And do you also never watch porns (because some asexuals do watch porns, even masturbate to porns)?

I personally is indifferent to sex scenes in TV/movies (I don't feel uncomfortable watching it, but it's not more interesting to me than other part of the TV show/movies eithers), and I'm also indifferent to sex in real life (can have sex to please my partner, but don't initiatively desire it). And I don't watch porns (not repulsed by porns either, but I don't initiatively desire to watch porns). I feel that I'm indifferent to all of the sex related things, don't find them particularly interesting, but never been repulsed by any of them (don't understand why I should feel uncomfortable about them).

How about other asexuals?

Since I was a little kid I thought sex scenes on TV/movies and books were pointless and a lot of times repulsive. Now I mostly think they are annoying and ruin the story. For me it feels like the plot really doesn't need a sex scene and then the director just throws one in there for show, so I agree a lot with Karret ^. Is it for sexuals? For sexuals to get a thrill out of it? I don't know- but It's just so unnecessary for me! I'll just roll my eyes out of my head, skip the scene, or turn away if I can't skip it. It's like 5 minutes of moaning and nakedness that's completely awkward and pointless to me. In real life I guess hearing about it is whatever (but a lot of people don't talk about it, but when they do). I never had sex, and I don't want sex. I do not watch porn. In general all the sex in media is boring, pointless, irritating, overdone, and very lame to me.

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