lady_Ivory Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 It must be really nice to be with someone who is sexually just like you . There no worries about if that person is only with you for sex and stuff . Just two people who enjoys each others company . That sound like heaven . Is that how it really is ??, Link to post Share on other sites
Lyariage Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 I can't speak for other people, but yes, for me and my QPP, that is how it is. It can be just that simple. My QPP and I talk about everything, our boundaries are the same and we have mutual respect for each other always and nothing is awkward. Both of us are ace and sex or anything sexual is not on the table for either of us at all and we both feel super comfortable knowing that. We've both had relationships in the past where sex and boundaries have been a major issue so we can definitely notice the difference. There are people like you out there. Neither of us were looking for a relationship (I'm aro ace myself) but sometimes the unexpected happens. I hope you find what you're looking for :) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 It's amazing. I never realized how freeing it would be, being able to give someone all your love and have them give you all their love back, with no expectation of, or need for, sex as a condition of that love. Having had one previous relationship with a hypersexual, that lasted 5 years, I can only say that now, being able to have a romantic relationship with an asexual, is just the most amazing, rewarding, awesome thing ever. We are very romantic, intimate, and sensual (cuddling and kissing etc)... partnered sex is just something neither of us have any interest in or desire for.. we have both experienced the stress of having to give sexual acts to people in the past (before learning about asexuality) so we are both just... extremely grateful to have found each other and to know we'll never have to worry about that sort of thing again ^_^ I first learned about asexuality when this video aired on NZ TV a few years ago, and my whole life just fell into place haha. This has always been my idea of relationship bliss, though I never knew it existed as an actual real-life possibility.. I figured it was one of things that you can dream about but never actually have. Then I saw this video and I was like... omg, people really DO have relationships like my dream relationship, and there is even a word to describe those people (and me!) ,,. asexual! yay Link to post Share on other sites
Sage Raven Domino Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 As you (lady_Ivory) identify as demisexual, I have to say that I think aces are not totally 'just like you sexually'... how would you feel if you started desiring your partner's body and they wouldn't reciprocate? I think you'll be better off dating sexuals too, but making it clear from the beginning that you want only 'serious' relationships, to make sure they're with you not only for sex. I can tell nothing about how a relationship feels because I've never been in one; but I'd accept pretty only an ace as a potential partner, their thoughts are 'not so dirty'. Link to post Share on other sites
Hooded_Crow Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 My partner and I are possibly the weirdest asexual couple you could think of. Neither of us finds people sexy (including each other) and neither of us needs partnered sexual contact to be fulfilled. But we still do share sexual touching because it feels nice and makes us feel close. We might be ace or we might be demi, depending on your point of view. But we're very happy. There's no pressure at all to perform anything anywhere. Just two people in love Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 My partner and I are possibly the weirdest asexual couple you could think of. Neither of us finds people sexy (including each other) and neither of us needs partnered sexual contact to be fulfilled. But we still do share sexual touching because it feels nice and makes us feel close. We might be ace or we might be demi, depending on your point of view. But we're very happy. There's no pressure at all to perform anything anywhere. Just two people in love What is it like? Simply amazing, full stop. I feel like I've finally found where I'm meant to be. I love you so very much, sweetheart Link to post Share on other sites
Cardcaptorkatara Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 I've never had much experience with dating or any kind of relationship because I was in fact uncomfortable with the idea of sex, and I had thought I was naive or weird or that I'd be alone forever because eventually whoever I was with would get tired of me not willing to have sex. Honestly though for me, I think its all about meeting that one person who accepts everything about you. Sex is so hyped up in our society that people think its impossible not to have it or enjoy it. But my boyfriend flat out said 'it's like junk food, yeah you might miss it occasionally but its not necessary', and that is so nice to hear, and for the first time I feel at ease with someone. :) Link to post Share on other sites
lady_Ivory Posted January 31, 2015 Author Share Posted January 31, 2015 As you (lady_Ivory) identify as demisexual, I have to say that I think aces are not totally 'just like you sexually'... how would you feel if you started desiring your partner's body and they wouldn't reciprocate? I think you'll be better off dating sexuals too, but making it clear from the beginning that you want only 'serious' relationships, to make sure they're with you not only for sex. I can tell nothing about how a relationship feels because I've never been in one; but I'd accept pretty only an ace as a potential partner, their thoughts are 'not so dirty'. I wouldn't mind not ever having sex . It doesn't matter to me , I want love not sex . Link to post Share on other sites
lady_Ivory Posted January 31, 2015 Author Share Posted January 31, 2015 My partner and I are possibly the weirdest asexual couple you could think of. Neither of us finds people sexy (including each other) and neither of us needs partnered sexual contact to be fulfilled. But we still do share sexual touching because it feels nice and makes us feel close. We might be ace or we might be demi, depending on your point of view. But we're very happy. There's no pressure at all to perform anything anywhere. Just two people in love Yea see that's what I crave !!!!! ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
PatheticGirl Posted February 1, 2015 Share Posted February 1, 2015 I desire to be in one relationship where I've full right on the man... I want to experience it... just don't know if I'll get it in this lifetime Link to post Share on other sites
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