Can you still feel that some people are hot or sexy, maybe in a different way than sexuals do?

[WhenSummersGone]

I've only used the word sexy for one romantic partner and other guys that I have a very deep crush on. It's rare for me to use the word sexy. I have found some guys hot but I mostly use the word cute or just good looking. I can find all genders good looking and it's not connected to wanting sex with someone.

[Galaxia]

Both "hot" and "sexy" are mostly aesthetic categories for me. And usually it must be something special about the person that makes him sexy. Like his mind or charisma. Physical features can be sexy too, but it doesn't touch upon my soul much. But if I am in love with this person, so yeah, he automatically becomes the most sexiest human being alive.

And if I see someone who's attractive in my opinion I usually just want to touch or to hug him as maximum.

[Member83761]

Yes definitely. I can easily walk down the street and find lots of men (and some women) sexy or hot. That doesn't however mean, I want something sexual with them. It's basically just my admiration of their physical appearance.

As a grey-A, for me to want to be with someone sexually, I need to almost immediately fall in "lust" with them upon meeting. Only then am I interested in any kind of sexual relationship, and that normally only last for the duration of the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship.

[Perseus]

I certainly feel that you can find someone hot or sexy and still not want to gave sex with them. I find both men and women aesthetically beautiful. Every now and again I see someone from either sex and I think "that person is hot" but I still don't feel the need to have sex with them like sexual people do.

[Kappamaki]

For me, a "hot woman/girl" refers to the sort of woman who is stereotypically called "hot" by society - blonde, long hair, tanned, skinny, overly cleavage-having, in a weird pose, without body hair, bikini-clad - it's a word for a certain aesthetic, and one I don't actually find very aesthetically appealing. A "hot guy" has stubble, unruly short brown hair, and a shirt that's either unbuttoned at the top, totally unbuttoned, or off, revealing muscles and no body hair. Some men like this actually look really nice with their shirts on.

Basically, the word "hot" is part of my ideolect, but it doesn't refer to my personal reaction - it doesn't mean my breath quickens any more than "short." And I have no idea what to do with the word "sexy" - I can't say that without feeling kind of false, like I'm lying.

[WintersWhite]

In my case, I love cute things and I also find people of both sexes cute (Admittedly, I have a slight preference towards guys). I appreciate a person's cuteness and if they have an equally cute personality, I start getting what I call, mental cavities. I could never find a person 'sexy' though. My feelings towards cute people are similar to the way I feel about a super cute plush doll or a kitten. I go 'aww!' at their sight and wish to stare at their adorableness more and I sometimes fantasize hugging them or petting their hair but I wouldn't want to have sex with a plushie or a kitten just like I would not want to have sex with a cute person.

[Highwayman]

The girl I'm attracted to would rate a 6.5-7/10 on the old "Dude check her out scale".... Yea i hangout with that crowd :(..

Physically i can see.... BUT everything else about her is HAwt as F#CK... Her Aura, personality, cuteness of her demeanor etc etc... She is the only girl at this moment who i would have sex with because i would want to do everything i could to make her happy.

[Philip027]

I can't, no. Nothing like that happens at first glance for me, and even if it did happen later, they don't become "hot" or "sexy" in my book. They might be attractive, but in different ways that don't have anything to do with their appearances.

[Hooded_Crow]

I can't, no. Nothing like that happens at first glance for me, and even if it did happen later, they don't become "hot" or "sexy" in my book. They might be attractive, but in different ways that don't have anything to do with their appearances.

Same here ^^

I believe sexy/hot means "has a body that is sexually appealing". To me, if you use it towards a car or another object, it's like... "You keep using this word. I do not think it means what you think it means."

[Zapstileon]

I find people aesthetically pleasing, but they´re not hot. Unless they have a fever in which case, I guess... :P Okay I´m joking. I might say to sexual friends that said person is ´hot´ or ´sexy´ though, because as it turns out, people stare at you weird if you say things like "She´s very aesthetically pleasing," or "His features are very beautiful," rather than "He´s hot." But I feel like I see beautiful people in an artistic sense. You know, the way I´d go to a museum and see Michelangelo´s David and think it was beautiful. I´m very rarely drawn to getting to know them just because they´re pretty. People´s minds interest me more if we speak of getting to know people, whether romantically or otherwise.

[Titus Oates]

I can see when someone is objectively good looking and I can tell when a woman or man might be considered "hot" or "sexy" by the majority of men (what women consider sexy is more of a mystery to me) but that doesn't mean I have any attraction to them whatsoever. It's like how I can tell an outfit is "sexy" but it doesn't make me attracted to the clothing.

I even struggle to find depictions of people aesthetically pleasing - I love architecture, and I love certain paintings for their use of colour, light and shadow, facial expressions... but I don't feel an attraction for the subjects in the painting. I derive much more pleasure from the intricacies of design of the Uffizi palace itself than from the sculpture of David !

[Kisrah]

While I probably wouldn't use those exact words, I defintely find some people attractive.

I don't want a relationship, sexual or otherwise, but I can still recognise that some men and women are attractive. And I prefer men over women too. There's just no desire to do anything with them. The best way I can describe it is that it's a bit like admiring a lovely view, or a nice piece of art. Just aesthetic appreciation.

[QueenOfGrayRoses]

I found people physically appealing but not in a sexual way, I usually use beautiful in gender less way, I could use those 2 words listed here, but I don't get them the way people normally would...

That is said, physically appealing was not the first thing to end up having romantic crush (I didn't know that I'm asexual for this reason, I always liked guys, I just didn't know that not feeling sexual attraction is not normal, it was only after my only exception that I questioned myself - hmm, why I'm attracted to him but not anyone else?)

[Ariel808]

I just call people hot or sexy just because it's the vocabulary everyone else uses. I don't use them that often, but it usually just goes for people I think are extremely aesthetically attractive to me. For myself, I hate being called hot or sexy and I cringe a little if people say it. I don't think I can relate myself to those words.

[Ashmedai]

Like several have mentioned so far, I notice if I see someone aesthetically attractive. Thats mostly as far as it goes for me usually

[bittersweet988]

I never use the words "hot" and "sexy". I dislike those words and hate when people use those words to describe me. But yeah, if I think someone is aesthetically attractive, I just say they're cute.

[McKinley]

Yes, I definitely can and do find some people "hot" or "sexy." I just wouldn't want to have sex with them.

[YellowElephant]

Nope, Not at all. I've gotten better at acknowledging when other people would find a person hot or sexy, but I feel nothing except "oh cool a person, I wonder if they talk and are interesting and nice."