OnionKnightly Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 So a friend and I were listening to Liar by Korn, and she made a comment I was skeptical about. This is the section of the song she commented on: "It's not wrong to let go/ and let the woman ride you/ for f***s sake, don't loose touch/ with the dog that's inside you." [Disclaimer: I realize not every man is interested in sex and wants to have it. I realize not every man is like that. Just putting that out there :P They're song lyrics.] Anyways, she made a comment about how apparently strange it was I liked this song because I was asexual and sex adverse. The conversation went like this: "I thought you didn't like sex." "Sex is fine. It's not something I personally ever want to do." "Well this song is talking about sex." "I know, but I don't have to like sex to like the song. Besides, there are some songs that just kind of make people feel sexy...This is one of them." "I thought asexuals didn't 'feel sexy'" So my question is. Can asexuals feel 'sexy'? And what exactly IS sexy? Eh....I'm not entirely sure what this thread was meant to be, but clearly I am confused and looking for answers. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JustanotherTobigirl Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I think sexy is being sexually attractive to others. This doesn't mean you have to be sexually attracted to anyone, it means they are sexually attracted to you. I believe asexuals can feel sexy, its probably more of a feeling of being wanted and attractive. Its not something I personally want, but it seems likley enough. You may just be feeling attractive though, aesthetically. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Cimmerian Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Of course we can feel sexy (like you originally thought.) :) I consider "feeling sexy" to mean you feel confident, and beautiful/handsome at that time. You feel great and perhaps even worthy of being looked at (but mostly the first sentence here). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MoraDollie Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 You don't need to be a gay man or woman to enjoy the song 'same love' by macklemore. You don't need to be a man to enjoy a love song from a woman's perspective or vise-versa. Music is more focused generally on the emotions/beat/rhythm a song has, rather than the actual composer. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Owly Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I consider "feeling sexy" to mean you feel confident, and beautiful/handsome at that time. I completely agree with the above. I don't like the idea of people wanting to get me into bed or anything, yet I still appreciate it when people notice me and/or complement me on my looks. I definitely think it's more a confidence issue than a sexual issue... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Glyn Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I remember making a similar post back in 2009 because a friend of mine once asked me "Do you think you're sexy?" I personally don't feel sexy - but yet I don't NOT feel sexy. I don't feel anything either way. I am who I am, for better or worse and I don't have any feelings either way. I am a rather big bloke, and I know that society views people who are overweight as being un-sexy and unattractive, but - for me anyway - there is a difference between intellectually knowing something and actually feeling it, if that makes any sense. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ScottishLass Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I would consider (for me) feeling sexy as feeling confident and knowing I feel and look damn good. Example; I have a job interview tomorrow. I put on my best suit tonight to see which shirt I should wear (I have a lot of suits/shirts, I love them) and I looked in my full length mirror and thought "DAMN I look good!" This doesn't happen often, and I felt like I could do anything, take on the world. I felt like I was going to ace this interview, they would think I was great, and that looking like this was just so good. It's a really positive feeling about yourself, that sort of self-confidence. Even though it wasn't sex-related in any way, I felt sexy in the way I would describe the feeling. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TealXLIV Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 You can absolutely feel sexy as an asexual. Just because you don't want to partake in it doesn't mean you can't feel sexy. And on a side note, you can totally like a song without necessarily agreeing with the lyrics. I listen to Korn so I'm quite familiar with Liar. I like songs about sex, doesn't mean I have to have sex. I like songs about death and murder. Doesn't mean I have to murder to like them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RedPanda3 Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I like that song as well, as well as "Last Legal Drug" by them, which is also all about sex and has a "sexy" beat and rhythm to it (one of my favorites by them). And I do "feel sexy" when I listen to their music - just meaning that the rhythm of the songs makes me feel badass, confident and attractive. Nothing to do with me actually wanting to engage in sex - but it's more of a compilation of emotions and feelings that society has generally defined as what the word "sexy" gets used for. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TealXLIV Posted January 12, 2015 Share Posted January 12, 2015 I like that song as well, as well as "Last Legal Drug" by them, which is also all about sex and has a "sexy" beat and rhythm to it (one of my favorites by them). And I do "feel sexy" when I listen to their music - just meaning that the rhythm of the songs makes me feel badass, confident and attractive. Nothing to do with me actually wanting to engage in sex - but it's more of a compilation of emotions and feelings that society has generally defined as what the word "sexy" gets used for. I'd never heard of "Last Legal Drug" so I had to look it up. I guess it was on a special edition. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
purplemutant Posted January 12, 2015 Share Posted January 12, 2015 There are plenty of people out there (some aces included) who make asexuality out to be more than what it is. Asexuality is simply a lack of sexual attraction to people. You don't have to be sex repulsed to be asexual. You can be a very "sexual" person without being attracted to people. So yea aces absolutely can be sexy. Unfortunatly I have issues with my appearance. So I don't feel sexy. :( Even though I wouldn't care for the attention; it would be nice to be thought of as sexy by other people. More importantly it would be nice to be thought of as sexy by ME. Gender issues can be such a pain in the ass sometimes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kat_xk8 Posted January 18, 2015 Share Posted January 18, 2015 I don't know what sexy actually means but I think its over very overused word I don't feel sexy as I have no idea what that feels like but I don't want to know I hate the word not in my vocabulary and get offended if people dare call me that which no one does that word - hate it I think I heard once say that a chair was sexy anyway that word has no place in my life and I don't feel sexy because the word has no meaning to me and stays that way Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 So you can't even like songs that are about sex now? . Wow I really don't understand this logic . Yes, asexuals can feel sexy. I'm not sure what exactly it means when I felt that way, I just felt really hot and desirable, and I never really feel that way... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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