I'm creating an asexuality quiz!

[RoswellValentine]

Took the quiz, and the results were pretty interesting (also close to what I feel for the most part). My results were Asexual - 120, Gray-Asexual - 87, and Allosexual - 5. I ended up with 0 for both Lith- and Demisexual.

I don't think there was anything in your quiz that needed to be changed, but that's just me.

[butterscotchwm]

I guess I have issues with being asexual in the sense that I find sex jokes funny, I've had sex, and I like to talk to and interact with my non-asexual friends very regularly. I just am... sex averse myself, I don't care about having sex, it does nothing for me, but if it makes my partner happy I'd probably do it. As long as we were clear I'm getting absolutely nothing from it.

Some of the questions don't really have applicable answers for me, but I chose as best I could.

I think I'm somewhere between Ace and.... not Ace (but not Demi or Grey because I don't *want* sex, I just understand it's purpose and have fun with my friends about it).There never seems to be an option for that.

Ok! So I guess you experience your asexuality a bit differently than some. I, personally, am a sex-repulsed asexual. I intellectually understand it's purpose and I know why people do it, but I honestly can't wrap my head around the idea of having sex - ever. So that's how I experience my asexuality! I'd like to get to know your experience as well. If you have any suggestions on answers that I could put for specific questions on the quiz, then please let me know!

Yeah, I don't think it's worth changing up your quiz. because it'd just get overly complicated, and I'm not sure that there are enough people out there that are the same way.

Basically the difference between us is you're sex-repulsed whereas I'm sex-averse. I don't like sex, and I get absolutely nothing from it at all. Obviously with me not liking sex but not being squicked by the idea of it (it's just messy, sweaty humping and it doesn't ...turn me on) but not exactly disgusted by the thought of it (I don't want to have sex, but dependent on my partner and I discussing it, I might engage in the act even though I don't want to, to please them, but get nothing from it myself).

I even read porn. I don't particularly care. Unfortunately it means I tend to end up with a mashup between a demi and sex repulsed asexual answer, or sometimes even a sexual answer, (like the joking with friends and conversing about sex question, despite it not really affecting the overall score) which inevitably doesn't exist.

I see. Yeah, I take all kinds of suggestions from people, but I also try to keep in mind that I shouldn't make the quiz too complicated. Sometimes I'll just change one of the answers to be more general, or more specific, or whatever.

I've kinda read porn or "smut" as well, haha! And sometimes it's interesting... It might be the only medium in which I don't feel repulsed, and at least I can just read about what they're feeling, as supposed to seeing or hearing what's happening... You know? I hope that makes sense lol.

[ellastokes]

I got gray-ace (the other top two going asexual, demisexual).

I liked this test a lot. Better than any other sexuality test I've taken. I trust these results.

gray - 123

ace - 70

demi - 15

lith - 11

allo - 5

[SithLord]

I think the quiz was pretty pointed, if you knew what it was about. Like if you knew all the definitions and how to define yourself beforehand.

But I liked it, and not all the questions had obvious answers. It was better than most personality/"What ___ Are You?" quizzes I've taken and I approve. : )

(as if my approval means anything)

[Flyaway4me]

I got Ace ^_^

It may be helpful to put the definition of sexual attraction used for the quiz on there because it could mean different things to different people

I like how you added how it wasn't a diagnosis and only you can know your true orientation :P

I'm actually not quite convinced that I should, because even for allosexuals, none of them would have the same definition for sexual attraction. As for asexuals, well, "sexual attraction" just isn't a relatable word, or it's just not part of our vocabulary - as it were... That's why I made a question asking what sexual attraction is to you.

Thanks for taking the quiz!

I do agree, I appreciate the question when its specified what is sexual attraction like to you, I was referencing to question 11/12 when it is asked:

How well do you relate to this statement:

"I don't feel sexually attracted to anyone regardless of gender or circumstance"

Is it in reference to how I define it? Do you have a set definition that your grading it on? I was honestly a bit confused and am curious, I don't mean to seem rude.

Thank you for making the quiz by the way ^_^

I see your point. No, I don't have a set definition that I'm grading on. Basically if you say that you don't experience sexual attraction, whatever that means to you, the test will grade you closer to asexual. I mean, we all have our own definitions for it, but I'm pretty sure we all kind of know what we mean when we say "sexual attraction." I could link the AVEN wiki pages of sexual attraction / romantic attraction / aesthetic attraction on the actual quiz if you think that would be more helpful to people?

Whatever you feel best, I just wanted to point it out just in case you didnt notice ^_^

[LiaMarie]

Interesting quiz, I'll share my input. (I also sent my husband the link so hoping he will give you another "nonasexual" response.) :)

Most of the questions were clear and easy to understand, but a few I just felt I really couldn't choose an answer for that was as accurate as it could be.

Your first question: I see "aesthetically pleasing" but don't really care about hanging around to look.

Question 3 was a bit confusing to me and I'm not really sure how to rephrase it to make sense.

There didn't seem to be a fitting answer at all for question 5. I chose C. because it seemed most fitting, mostly because I try not to "tune out" my friends conversation. Instead, when these kinds of subjects come up, I just wonder what is so appealing. (A couple of my close friends have gotten into the habit of just looking at my expression and saying, "Yeah, butts." because I have told them I don't understand what all the hype is about someone's butt.)

Question 6 I just am not sure should be there at all. I've spent most of my life (as I'm sure most of us have) around sexual people. Heck, I'm married (15 years) to a walking innuendo. I get them quickly because I'm used to it, not because I have a "filthy mind".

Question 8: Well, like I said, I've been married for 15 years. Partnered sex is something I do because it's a compromise and because I love my husband.

Question 9: As far as answer B. I wouldn't be surprised if everyone in the room agreed other than me (I'd probably smile and nod and try to fit in when I was in school). and answer E. Well, I do wonder if people would just have random sex to relieve depression but I know it doesn't work for me.

I hope I'm not being too "nit-picky", I do think, overall, it's a good quiz. Good luck with it!

Oh, results..

Asexual: 282

Grey: 27

Demi: 22

Lith: 12

Allosexual: -50

[Mr.LiaMarie]

I was told you have to post the 'answer' elsewhere online then make a link from there. I"m going to try something else: https://www.proprofs.com/quiz-school/personality/quizreport.php?title=so-you-think-youre-asexual&sid=MTg0MTYzMzA=

From what it looks like, this might actually work, true it is not a graph on this forum (and you will see my answers), but for those who are truly interested, it should be good enough.

Here is some feedback from me.

I read that there is a question about masterbation that has been removed. I have no idea what it was about, but I with what I understand of what one 'type' of sexually oriented person is requires/expects makes me to wonder if it really should have been removed. Here is my personal take on this. If/when I see someone that fits my criterion for sexual pursuits, my first inclination is to act on these impulses. Failing this I can either find someone else who is willing to follow-through with these urges or take matters into my own hand. There have been times in my past when I was so frustrated and felt it necessary to remove the tension, that I have caused myself to bleed. With that said, I have recently converted into a religion that allows me to make better decisions and become a better person because of them. The prime edict is (not an exact quote), 'Sexual pursuits need to be confined to the marriage vows/bed. The proper use of sex is to bring life onto this planet, with a man and women in proper unity to bring about healthy (emotionally) children. When succumbing to these urges outside of marriage or without a partner (even while being married) frustrates the power that has been given us to increase the potential of all the spirits waiting for a body to continue with their path of perfection' Yes, I understand that this is not a religion quiz, however, for those who truly believe in the truth of their religion (whether agreeing with me or otherwise), these questions are a bit uncomfortable because we know we need to be better then these urges and reign them in when necessary.

With that said, keep in mind I enjoy sex....You can say, "I LOVE sex!" Sometimes I wonder if I might actually be addicted to it in such a way as to require proper help. I can stifle those urges (for the most part) during those times when my wife isn't willing/able/comfortable with doing so. I also look forward during the time when she can become pregnant, she is less likely to fight me off, however, much of the time it is difficult to wait for that time; I like to think I handle it pretty well, and I'm sure she would tell me how much more I can improve.

[Mr.LiaMarie]

My wife says that some of it doesn't seem to be relevant. I wanted to make sure that, if I wasn't the religious person striving for the goal that is expected, masterbation would be a very large part of my wants/needs. Many lessons teach that masterbation is considered demeaning and cheating on your significant other. For me, it was my way of getting some kind of satisfaction without causing my wife disturbance because she just "didn't fell like it". I thought of it as a sign of love, I want sex, you don't I will take care of it and I won't bring someone else physically into it. True, I will have thoughts about the 'ideal' person to have sex with while taking care of business, but I still enjoy doing so with my wife and would prefer doing so, but will respect her wishes and leave her out of it.

I stated in the previous post, I enjoy sex. I enjoy the human body in all its purity (unclothed). I am aroused and want to physically enjoy said body. However, in order to get far enough to do so, conversation (vocal interaction) is expected. Conversing can be a problem. The person is one you want to become intimate, but their beliefs, thoughts, or words become very unattractive. So, even with as much as I like sex and (religion out of it) would have sex with as many people as I can do so with, I can be done and lose all want of a physical connections once they open their mouth and show me their ignorance; or, in other words, "Rolls their brains all over the table."

[Guest]

With that said, keep in mind I enjoy sex....You can say, "I LOVE sex!" Sometimes I wonder if I might actually be addicted to it in such a way as to require proper help. I can stifle those urges (for the most part) during those times when my wife isn't willing/able/comfortable with doing so. I also look forward during the time when she can become pregnant, she is less likely to fight me off, however, much of the time it is difficult to wait for that time; I like to think I handle it pretty well, and I'm sure she would tell me how much more I can improve.

I think you may not have intended this to sound quite as bad as it does?

[LiaMarie]

With that said, keep in mind I enjoy sex....You can say, "I LOVE sex!" Sometimes I wonder if I might actually be addicted to it in such a way as to require proper help. I can stifle those urges (for the most part) during those times when my wife isn't willing/able/comfortable with doing so. I also look forward during the time when she can become pregnant, she is less likely to fight me off, however, much of the time it is difficult to wait for that time; I like to think I handle it pretty well, and I'm sure she would tell me how much more I can improve.

I think you may not have intended this to sound quite as bad as it does?

That depends on how you take it, I suppose. See, that is my husband. I'm asexual, he is NOT. This has caused many problems in our past and the term "asexual" is rather new in our relationship. That said, I have 6 kids and I love them (and want more, truth be told). He loves the times when I'm not pregnant and desiring to be, because it's during those times that it's easier for him. I'm not sex-repulsed (at least I don't think so...) I feel more, sex-averse. (We'll go with that for now, anyway.) When I'm trying to get pregnant, reminding me of that helps to convince me to have it.

That said, he's not so great with words and I love him dearly anyways. I asked him to share a "nonasexual" opinion here. We've both tried to be very open here because we have had a wonderfully real relationship for over 15 years and we'd like to think that perhaps our experiences can help others who may be in similar situations. He was simply demonstrating the very severe difference between the two of us. 8)

Edited to add:

In case you missed the link or can't see it, his results were:

Allosexual: 360

Lith: 0

Demi: -30

Grey: -30

Asexual: -150

[Guest]

Haha it just sounded like he was saying "I look forward to when my wife is pregnant because she's weaker then and can't fight me off so well" .. my instant reaction was O.O .. but I figured it was probably just poorly worded.

[5_♦♣]

Asexual: 210

Gray A: 17

Demi: 5

Lithsexual: 0

Sexual: -50

[zoidberger]

Asexual 232

Grey, or Gray Asexual 57
Demi-Sexual 2
Lithsexual 2

Allosexual / non-asexual -55

I can't say I understand how different categories would be easily chosen with such a short, simplified quiz, but maybe that's just me.

[butterscotchwm]

I think the quiz was pretty pointed, if you knew what it was about. Like if you knew all the definitions and how to define yourself beforehand.

But I liked it, and not all the questions had obvious answers. It was better than most personality/"What ___ Are You?" quizzes I've taken and I approve. : )

(as if my approval means anything)

Yes, you're not the only one who suggested defining sexual attraction for the quiz taker. So at the beginning of the quiz I left a link for people to look at that goes to an LGBT page describing the difference between sexual/romantic/aesthetic ect.

And yes, you're approval means a lot! Thanks :)

[Frigid Pink]

My scores (on retake):

Asexual 267

Grey-sexual 35

Demi-sexual 5

Lith-sexual 0

Non-asexual -50

[butterscotchwm]

Interesting quiz, I'll share my input. (I also sent my husband the link so hoping he will give you another "nonasexual" response.) :)

Most of the questions were clear and easy to understand, but a few I just felt I really couldn't choose an answer for that was as accurate as it could be.

Your first question: I see "aesthetically pleasing" but don't really care about hanging around to look.

Question 3 was a bit confusing to me and I'm not really sure how to rephrase it to make sense.

There didn't seem to be a fitting answer at all for question 5. I chose C. because it seemed most fitting, mostly because I try not to "tune out" my friends conversation. Instead, when these kinds of subjects come up, I just wonder what is so appealing. (A couple of my close friends have gotten into the habit of just looking at my expression and saying, "Yeah, butts." because I have told them I don't understand what all the hype is about someone's butt.)

Question 6 I just am not sure should be there at all. I've spent most of my life (as I'm sure most of us have) around sexual people. Heck, I'm married (15 years) to a walking innuendo. I get them quickly because I'm used to it, not because I have a "filthy mind".

Question 8: Well, like I said, I've been married for 15 years. Partnered sex is something I do because it's a compromise and because I love my husband.

Question 9: As far as answer B. I wouldn't be surprised if everyone in the room agreed other than me (I'd probably smile and nod and try to fit in when I was in school). and answer E. Well, I do wonder if people would just have random sex to relieve depression but I know it doesn't work for me.

I hope I'm not being too "nit-picky", I do think, overall, it's a good quiz. Good luck with it!

Oh, results..

Asexual: 282

Grey: 27

Demi: 22

Lith: 12

Allosexual: -50

Ok, thanks for your thoughts! Unfortunately, I can't make super specific answers for every question, because then there would be like 50 answers, lol! I try to make most of the answers as general as possible... If you find the answers that you think are the closest fit, even if it's not %100 then you should still get pretty accurate results. But I'll look over your suggestions and see what I can do make some of the questions/answers better.

[butterscotchwm]

I read that there is a question about masterbation that has been removed. I have no idea what it was about, but I with what I understand of what one 'type' of sexually oriented person is requires/expects makes me to wonder if it really should have been removed. Here is my personal take on this. If/when I see someone that fits my criterion for sexual pursuits, my first inclination is to act on these impulses. Failing this I can either find someone else who is willing to follow-through with these urges or take matters into my own hand. There have been times in my past when I was so frustrated and felt it necessary to remove the tension, that I have caused myself to bleed. With that said, I have recently converted into a religion that allows me to make better decisions and become a better person because of them. The prime edict is (not an exact quote), 'Sexual pursuits need to be confined to the marriage vows/bed. The proper use of sex is to bring life onto this planet, with a man and women in proper unity to bring about healthy (emotionally) children. When succumbing to these urges outside of marriage or without a partner (even while being married) frustrates the power that has been given us to increase the potential of all the spirits waiting for a body to continue with their path of perfection' Yes, I understand that this is not a religion quiz, however, for those who truly believe in the truth of their religion (whether agreeing with me or otherwise), these questions are a bit uncomfortable because we know we need to be better then these urges and reign them in when necessary.

With that said, keep in mind I enjoy sex....You can say, "I LOVE sex!" Sometimes I wonder if I might actually be addicted to it in such a way as to require proper help. I can stifle those urges (for the most part) during those times when my wife isn't willing/able/comfortable with doing so. I also look forward during the time when she can become pregnant, she is less likely to fight me off, however, much of the time it is difficult to wait for that time; I like to think I handle it pretty well, and I'm sure she would tell me how much more I can improve.

Ok, well in answer to your first question, I got rid of the "masturbation question" because many people, whether asexual, or not asexual, will want to masturbate for different reasons. You mentioned that you masturbate because it relieves tension. Well, some asexual people do that as well! It has nothing to do with whether or not they are sexually attracted to other people. In a situation where I tell someone that I'm asexual, I find it pretty irritating when someone asks me, "Well do you even masturbate??" Because really, that has nothing to do with my asexuality. Sure, asexual people will probably masturbate for different reasons, and probably won't "get off" or get "turned on" by other people in order to do it.

That being said, maybe there could be a different question about masturbation that focuses on why you masturbate - if you do. I might think about it. But it also might be too personal of a question, and some people might not want to answer, or it might just be to complicated.

Thank you for your opinion, and thanks for taking the quiz!

And as for your religion, no I wasn't too observant of religious practices while making this quiz, despite the fact that I am Catholic. I'm not a strongly practicing Catholic, but whenever I think of asexuality, I don't think about religion. Religion has nothing to do with asexuality, but yes, I can see how some of the questions wouldn't have proper answers for religious people. I'll see what I can do!

[butterscotchwm]

What exactly does one do to get negative scores as opposed to zeros? Even the categories I scored lowest in were all positive numbers.

There are some answers to questions that give points, and there are some that actually take away points. The take away points are mostly for answers that I think would override answers to other questions. For example, if you say that you love talking about sex, or you're great with sexual innuendos, you'll probably get a few allosexual points. BUT if in a later question, you say that you don't feel sexually attracted to other people, that will give you lots of asexual points, and take away lots of allosexual points. Some people get really low negative scores for a certain result because they'll answer the questions that take away lots of points from that result, and they won't answer the ones that give points to that result.

I hope that makes sense...

[butterscotchwm]

Asexual 232

Grey, or Gray Asexual 57

Demi-Sexual 2

Lithsexual 2

Allosexual / non-asexual -55

I can't say I understand how different categories would be easily chosen with such a short, simplified quiz, but maybe that's just me.

I wanted to make it short and direct, but not simplified. IMO, these are not very simple questions, but they get right to the point.

My scores (on retake):

Asexual 267

Grey-sexual 35

Demi-sexual 5

Lith-sexual 0

Non-asexual -50

Thanks for taking the quiz! How do you feel about these new results?

[Frigid Pink]

Thanks for taking the quiz! How do you feel about these new results?

I think it's a better Quiz after all the revisions. Thanks for taking my feedback into consideration. :)

[I'd rather be in band.]

Thank you for adding another resource for newcomers into the community. It will probably help many people!

[Guest]

I've done the quiz multiple times now, but I haven't yet had time to come here and write a proper reply, discuss my results etc. I will say however that I think a question about masturbation (didn't see the original question) is a lot more relevant to asexuality/sexual orientation than the sexual innuendo question. Some people find sexual innuendo funny, some don't get it, some hate it, but that doesn't change their sexual orientation or effect their sexual orientation at all. It's not like every single (allo)sexual person gets sexual innuendo and finds it funny.. some hate it and think it's lame and stupid. My ex was hypersexual and actually rarely made sex jokes, whereas I don't want or enjoy sex but even if someone is eating a banana near me I have to bite my tongue (yes I am that lame) .. so honestly that question I think is pointless and almost seemed to be more about sexual naivety or repulsion than sexual orientation.. I make sex jokes all the time but that's because I think they're funny and I can be pretty (very) immature, doesn't mean I want sex at all ever haha. Whereas a masturbation question could have a lot more baring/bearing(?) on one's sexual orientation: I masturbate but don't desire partnered sex (asexual). I masturbate and I enjoy sex a lot but if given the choice I'd choose masturbation (asexual but some points toward maybe gray?) I prefer partnered sex to masturbation (points toward allosexual) NA/I don't masturbate (no points?). Not saying the masturbation question has to be there, just saying I think a question like that is a lot more relevant than the sexual innuendo question. To me the sexual innuendo question is like "which cartoon do you like more Family Guy or SpongeBob?" and if you say Family Guy that might mean you're more Grey A than if you like SpongeBob haha

And I see you linked to a rather vague definition of sexual attraction (first part was clear second part was just.. whaat? Can't remember the exact definition now but will expand when I make my proper reply) I still found that throughout the entire quiz it wasn't clear whether you meant sexual attraction is the desire for partnered sex, or looking at someone and finding them attractive in a sexually arousing way, or finding someone attractive in a way that makes you desire partnered sex with them, regardless of what it is about them you are attracted to (maybe their appearance, their life experience, their laugh, maybe you are in love with them and because of that want sex etc) - which is closest to what I say sexual attraction is, if I have to use that term (and I prefer not to)

And I had a lot of trouble answering the question: regardless of AVEN's definition of sexual attraction, how do you define it, how do YOU experience it? Because I don't experience a desire for partnered sex, but I don't define sexual attraction exactly like AVEN does: no desire for partnered sex (I add the word 'innate' in there: no innate desire) .. my definition is closet to the first option, but I couldn't *choose* that option because I don't experience that, I had to choose "I don't experience sexual attraction or seldomly do" .. even though my answer to the part of the question about the definition was the first option..confusing? Yes

And, I think I saw you say that the innuendo question and the one "I talk about sex" give points towards allosexual.. did I misread that? Because again, talking about or joking about sex has nothing to with one's sexual orientation.. the talking one seemed more like a sex repulsion or sexual naivety question to me, as opposed to an orientation question. And again, there are plenty of sexual people too embarrassed to talk about sex even if they enjoy sex very much..it's just one of those things some people like to talk about, some don't, regardless of their sexual orientation.

Anyway not saying your quiz was bad, it's better than than the others I've done, but those were just some things I wanted to adress quickly while I wait for the jug to boil for my coffee lol.

[Valar Morghulis]

I agree with pan in several points. the sexual attraction question was confusing : "what do you think is sexual attraction how you experience it. " What do you want me to answer one or the other? hehe

sexual innuendo has absolutely nothing to do with sexual orientation xD I agree questions like this and some others were more directed to naivete and unawareness than asexuality, there were a couple like that.

And i also had a couple were i did find my response wasnt there but there was always the option to bail on the question.

[Karret]

I liked it and thought it was pretty accurate!

I got Ace and Grace as my top 2, and I think those are pretty fitting. Cx

[bananadan]

I think the quiz was pretty accurate, certainly much better than some quizzes I have previously taken in the past! :P

Asexual: 190

Gray: 60

Demi: 5

Lithsexual: 0

Allosexual: -10

[TealXLIV]

First take:

Demi : +95

A: +70

Gray: +62

Lith: +10

Allo: -40

Second take:

Gray: +95

Demi: +90

A: +30

Allo: +5

Lith: +1

[Valja]

The quiz was pretty cool, I got:

Asexual: 267

Gray, or Gray Asexual: 30

Demi-sexual: 15

Lithsexual: 0

Allosexual: -50

[seekingfurtherillumination]

Asexual +90

Grey +66

Lith +30

Demi 0

Allo -50

I actually find it kind of ironic I got a 0 for Demi because I found this site after hearing the term "demisexual" and thinking that is what I was, but the more I searched around, the more I bounce more between A and Grey-A so I guess this helps lead me right on in that direction! Thanks! This was helpful!

[st3p]

Asexual 260

Gray 32

Demi 15

Lith 10

Quite interesting, for the most part I think there's an answer/variation of an answer for a wide variety of people, and I appreciate that specificity.

I like that this is for fun/education also, not meant to define your sexuality for you.

[cristalknife]

Hi I tried your test and I have to say I had trouble with question 4, starting from the point I was raised to be with an "open mentality" of never dismiss/say you dislike something you don't know/have not tried untill you either know deeply about it or have tried it, which sort of made difficult answer question for because my two answer were at the two extreme, *after* giving in expectatons and seeing how nope things have not changed for me, sex still is not something I'm intested in I can answer E, but before it happened, before I had proof and certainties about myself I was scared of it and that prospect was a sad one makinf me swing then for answer A but an answer A i'm not sure I read how it was supposed to be read (logic behind answer A being sex doesn't interess me = doing it means i'm doing it for someone i care about = there is someone i care about in my life = not doing it means there isn't someone in my life = i've been alone all my life = i was unlovable = makes me sad)

1A 2C 3D 4E 5B 6D 7B 8B 9C 10D 11E gave me

Asexual 120

Gray 67

Demi 5

Lith 0

Allo -45

while 1A 2C 3D 4A 5B 6D 7B 8B 9C 10D 11E (second time I took it when the doubt about question 4 came to my mind) changed the result to

Asexual 70

Gray 67

Demi 5

Lith 0

Allo -25

so I think maybe eiher in q4 there could be some tweking in either how is worded the question (helping reading it correctly) or how is worded answer A

either way than you very much for your hard work on it and for sharing it, hope this helped even a little bit