GRexCarolinii Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 hopefully posting this in the right place ^_^but yeahhow do you tell if other people might be Asexual or Aromantic? (or even demi)I'm a hugely romantic Ace myselfand long story short: have a sort-of crush on someone, but completely unsure whether they might be ace or arobut not in the position to outrightly ask (though think they might also know I'm ace myself)I obviously get there are.... universal laws of Ace-hood because everyone is differentbut a small number people have guessed I was (even before I even knew myself!)so I also wonder whether there was anything that gave me away (other than a distinct lack of lovelife) Link to post Share on other sites
deltaX Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 Unfortunately, I don't think there are really any tell-tale signs that someone is aro and/or ace. Everyone in the asexual community is different, and besides a lack of sexual attraction (which you wouldn't know about someone without asking), there isn't really anything that connects us. :/ Maybe you could notice whether or not they wear a black ring, but even that wouldn't be definitive proof because a lot of aces don't wear ace rings, and some sexual people wear black rings for other reasons. Really, the only way to know for sure is to ask. Either way, though, I wish you luck with your crush! :) Link to post Share on other sites
kimbo21 Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 Well- I think that unless you try to pretend you are something you are not, it is typical for people to guess. Even if you are asexual, and romantic you will probably describe your attractions in a different way to how sexual people would. That being said, this isn't always the case. Sexual people still like the same sort of qualities in people that aces do- sense of humour, humility, kindness etc. Maybe you wasn't joining in conversations that your friends were when they were talking about 'hot' people and that is how they guessed. Having said this though, I think people would only guess if they knew you for a long time and spent alot of time with you. Work colleagues and associates probably wouldn't guess. You could try talking about your asexuality and see how this person responds? Link to post Share on other sites
Loki Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 One thing I've learned is not to assume what people know about myself. Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
GRexCarolinii Posted December 15, 2014 Author Share Posted December 15, 2014 The actual crush part is Least of my worries if honest Just thought might be mice to give context But equally would be nice for future reference I guess,like little things that might hint Never met another ace person, so I wouldn't know signs that could suggest someone's orientation at all And I guess I've never thought myself to be obvious because I still get crushes and whatnot Probably worth asking why people thought I was ace (and not homosexual, which I've also been asked) Thanks for input! Link to post Share on other sites
Robin L Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 Shortly put: you don't. The most reliable way is just to ask, though there are some ways to go about their matter. You can check if they wear a black ring, or if they wear the ace flag. You can talk about asexuality in general and see their reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
sp4c34c3 Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 There is no way to tell. But looking back after having met someone you know is ace, you just tend to feel like you met someone that can relate to your life. Although maybe that feeling comes because you had the knowledge about the person in question. Idk. Link to post Share on other sites
5_♦♣ Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 ESP, if you have that ability. Seriously, some people can pick up on 'vibes'. Link to post Share on other sites
Fire & Rain Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 There are no specific traits but I had a gut feeling with two aces before they came out to me. Sexual people always give off sexual vibes while being around those two aces is like being in a very silent environment. So it's not really tangible or anything. It's just a feeling that I get. Link to post Share on other sites
Kid-Kitty Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Like everyone else said, there's no way to tell. If someone's ace, they may/may not come out. If you only feel comfortable dating other aces, depending on your age, I would look on dating sites. And if it's one person that you have your eye on, whether they're allo or ace shouldn't matter too much. And if it does, then it's time to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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