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(TMI Warning) Is there a way to nullify your libido? Kill your sex drive?


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I've been asking myself this question for quite some time now..

Besides not being interested by the slightest in sex and all that thing, I have a highly functional sex drive, that is, I have a need for sexual release.

More often than I'd like (what I'd like is zero), I find myself feeling like going all grinding and, since I have no intention on doing so, I am forced to masturbate.

It is displeasing, it bothers me. I don't like to do it, and I only do it because I have to. It is a stupid task I have not asked for, so, in case you guys know of any means to outright rip it out of myself, that would be awesomely awesome. =]

Any idea?

Oh! Before I forget, in case it is the wrong forum or anything, there is another thread asking I apologize in advance.

The twelve pages of search result showed me nothing.

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A frontal lobotomy will completely kill your sex drive. You will no longer understand the notion of attraction or love or sexual carnal desires.

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Anti-Androgens will really lower your libido. I take spirolactone as part of my hrt regimen.

However I dont suggest messing around with hormone levels without a doctor. They control alot of other areas of your mind and body as well.

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There are certain meds that can kill or blunt one's libido, including many SSRI antidepressants. However, if you don't have an actual medical need for such drugs (and some do have unpleasant side effects other than loss of libido) it may not be wise to take them. But doctors often hand that stuff out like candy so they aren't hard to get. There is one thing that really put the kibosh on my libido - long days and hard work. I had a job with a 150 mile a day commute in horrible traffic, and I often spent the whole day on my feet in an un-airconditioned and minimally heated workshop, and believe me, when I got home and after I had my dinner, I was much too tired to even have any of those kind of needs to try and meet. And even on weekends I often had a lot of other stuff going on and other things to do that I really never had the urge then either. The Victorians really were right when they recommended hard work and long tiring days to prevent young people from "self polluting" (as they called masturbation).

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D: "Castration" is a strong word.

But I actually (as crazy as it sounds) thought about things similar.

But it is becoming such a pain that even invasive procedures I'd seriously reconsider before turning them down.

And it seems that stress and fatigue actually augment my libido. I don't understand it!?

Specially strenuous, physical activity.

I don't know, testosterone builds up like through a workout and then it gets desperate to be released, like a damned hellhound...

Bah, seriously, I just want it out. -_-

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Yup.get cancer. They put you on chemo. If you are hormone receptor positive they give you drugs to kill the hormones thereby chemically castrating you. Which is what happened to me. Ta da! But I'm happy about it now. :).

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Uhhh well...

I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I had no idea.

You know, sometimes I can barely concentrate or sleep. It is like being starved but the food being rotten to the maggots.

I really don't want this shit inside me.

I'm gonna talk to my doctor asap to see what she can do about it. Maybe, who knows? :shrug:

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I knew someone long ago who basically got the lower half of his body blown off in some sort of military-related incident. Trust me, he was still *very* sexually frustrated and lamented the fact he could no longer act on it. I wouldn't look at such a thing as a definitive solution >_>

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You know, between the many things I imagine doing to myself, taking a kitchen knife and cutting my lil' boy out is one of them.

I know I'm young, I might regret it later, yada-yada, whatever.

I just wish I didn't have to masturbate every couple of days because my hormones fuel the furnace until smoke blows out of it.

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Yes, there are drugs that can have this effect. No, you should not have to suffer through having a libido if this is wrong for you.

Please do not self-medicate -- that is dangerous. Talk to your doctor, or find a doctor who is sympathetic if yours isn't. I don't know how possible it is to find a sympathetic doctor in your area, but if you live in the US, I can try to help you find someone. (I know less about outside the US.) Others on AVEN who are in your area might be able to help, too.

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Not a full answer to your question but in my experience, the more you scratch an itch the more it will itch and come back to itch... if you know what I mean...

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Yes, there are drugs that can have this effect. No, you should not have to suffer through having a libido if this is wrong for you.Please do not self-medicate -- that is dangerous. Talk to your doctor, or find a doctor who is sympathetic if yours isn't. I don't know how possible it is to find a sympathetic doctor in your area, but if you live in the US, I can try to help you find someone. (I know less about outside the US.) Others on AVEN who are in your area might be able to help, too.

That would be lovely really but I live a bit far from the US. :(

I don't know what my actual doc would say. I really have no idea...

Probably send me to a psychiatrist? Õ.o I think so. =D

@Acing-it,

I kinda like, you know, somewhat of half, sort of like, maybe get what you mean... but... what do you mean really? XD

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Not a full answer to your question but in my experience, the more you scratch an itch the more it will itch and come back to itch... if you know what I mean...

Huh. I don't think it works that way for everyone, though.

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Yes, there are drugs that can have this effect. No, you should not have to suffer through having a libido if this is wrong for you.Please do not self-medicate -- that is dangerous. Talk to your doctor, or find a doctor who is sympathetic if yours isn't. I don't know how possible it is to find a sympathetic doctor in your area, but if you live in the US, I can try to help you find someone. (I know less about outside the US.) Others on AVEN who are in your area might be able to help, too.

That would be lovely really but I live a bit far from the US. :(

I don't know what my actual doc would say. I really have no idea...

Probably send me to a psychiatrist? Õ.o I think so. =D

Is there an asexuality forum or subforum for folks in your country? People there might have resources.

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I found this website. I can't speak to the medical advice here because I'm not a doctor, but the article does give the name of a doctor who is an expert, who you might want to contact.

http://www.peoplespharmacy.com/2007/09/10/seeking-ways-to/

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Hmm.. Well thought.

I rarely use that subforum but why not? :} Thanks x3

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Holy crap. Lots of horrible answers. What the hell people? They want to calm down, not get mutilated or disabled.

MY advice is that you need other ways to release energy. You probably are too pent up chemically speaking. I get the same problem when I am sedentary. Take up running or even speadwalking. If you can't do that, weight training or yoga type exercise can help. Its healthier over all and won't make you feel dirty.

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Anti-Androgens will really lower your libido. I take spirolactone as part of my hrt regimen.

However I dont suggest messing around with hormone levels without a doctor. They control alot of other areas of your mind and body as well.

At least around here (Germany), you pretty much don't have a chance to find any reputable doctor to support you in the search of castration (chemical or surgical), no matter how much you try - they know they'd be risking their approbation. The only exception is if you're trans* and on the path towards full gender realignment surgery.

Besides, anti-androgens, if you manage to get them, can have some rathery nasty side effects (especially on the liver).

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I had similar frustrations some time ago. Being on the female end of things my libido usually peaks around ovulation and if i don't act on it, I get frustrating wet dreams that I wake up to at 5am

Nowadays it's practically non existent and I think it has something to with my depression.

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If your libido is too strong, a doctor can help you to lower it to a healthy level, but certainly not to kill it, because it requires dangerous medications or surgery. It would be unethical for a doctor to do that.

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SSRIs are potentially dangerous on long term. I experienced it. My brain is damaged, probably for the rest of my life. some people who suffer from SSRI discontinuation syndrome have it on long term, probably for life but researchers will know for sure only in several decades. I would never, ever recommend SSRIs or any serotonergic medications just for lowering libido.

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I've discovered having no internet connection for the last few months has really helped me be able to cut down!

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I'm thinking that an anti-androgenic diet may help to lower your testosterone level in a healthier way. Oriental mint tea seems to have significant anti-androgenic effects on men who drink it every day (100 mint leaves / liter of tea = about 25 leaves / cup).

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You know, anything able to keep me from having a boner at 4 am and not being able to sleep again until I jerk it off to it is good.

Also, anything to keep me from feeling like a horny bulldog in mating season, and having to masturbate every other day would also be nice.

I don't mind the extra ornamentary appendages, but that doesn't mean that I like having to dispose of genetic material because my stupid hormones can't keep themselves at bay.

Well whatever.

Thanks guys, I really appreciate all the responses, really <3

EDIT:

Also, I forgot to mention.

I used to go to the gym until a few months back, but it seemed to make it worse. Like with the exercises, more testosterone produced, the greater the urge. And a few years back, when I had my first job, which was grunt work and I had to perform strenuous physical activity all day long, well...the fatigue was worsened by the imposition of the physiological need.

So I don't know if that would work better this time round.

But let's see what my doc says, she said that my testosterone levels are normal, so I don't know what she would say.

Again, thanks everyone <3<3

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Zoloft has killed my high sex drive. It was prescribed for minor OCD.

Few side effects...

SSRIs are potentially dangerous on long term. I experienced it. My brain is damaged, probably for the rest of my life. some people who suffer from SSRI discontinuation syndrome have it on long term, probably for life but researchers will know for sure only in several decades. I would never, ever recommend SSRIs or any serotonergic medications just for lowering libido.

I've been on citalopram for over seven years now. The effect of dampening libido was rather minor, for me.

It all but killed my "romance drive", though.

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I have what I can surely regard the lowest possible level of spurts of random arousal and I just ignore them. I do not see myself as a sexual being and the arousal will pass. At times after a couple of minutes, other times after a couple of hours. It's very random and often I go months without noticing my genitalia. For me, the very clear bottom line is: I don't want to do it and so I don't. It's not different from saying no to anything else, really. It's weird to explain. First you fight the urges, then you break the habit, then you fight the urges again. Like you, I used to see it as a chore and felt terrible afterwards; depression and stomach ache, all that. It just wasn't me. And I know that this is easier said than done for most people, but Acing-It is right. The more you give in, the more your brain gets wired towards it.

I was overall very interested in the purely mental aspect of masturbation, looked into NoFap and other material critical of masturbation, porn and random sexual images. We truly are bombarded with those. Masturbation, physically, is neither healthy nor unhealthy. It's absolutely okay to do. But mentally, for some of us, it can really be devastating. Not just for asexuals, non-libidoists, trans people, survivors of assault or similar. I read of so many healthy young men who were depressed and self-conscious, addicted to either porn or masturbation. And once they stopped feeding those, they became very self confident, the entire body language and mentality changed once they stopped doing it. Obviously, those are people who had a problem with it in the first place, though.

In theory, heavy weight lifting or absolutely devastating high intensity cardio should tire you out. For me, that's never been the case and I'm a shredder. What I do, I do properly. Please do not experiment with hard drugs, especially not the shit doctor's give out like candy. If you really want to medicate yourself, as a very last resort, try a very low dose of weed. It turns some into saints, others into horndogs. 50/50. Soy, corn and liquorice are often blamed for lowering (the male) libido, but that is absolute pseudo-science. I drink soy milk like water and consume a lot of corn, they never made any difference. Neither did my depression. Castration is a terrible idea, as it does not remove the urges... Only the ability to act on them.

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For females, it obviously gets very mental very quickly. And that is also a huge part. If you let the arousal sit there, instead of consciously mentally dismissing it, you have sexual energy going on. Look, even non-libidoists told me of experiencing "blue balls". Trust me, females also are able to experience that. But it is possible to abstain from masturbation. Your release will then be found in random nocturnal emissions (again, females also have those). I know that this does not help you, but you have two drug-free independent options: You sit down and think about why you are feeling so negatively about masturbation and try and change your own perception of it and learn to do it without guilt, even enjoy it. Or you abstain from it completely. Com-forever-pletely. Both are hard, but both are fine!

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Well a lot of people have already made it clear that you can just alter the chemicals within you through various means. All of this is true, and maybe I missed it but the surefire method for success is within yourself whether you believe it or not. (resorting to other means such as exercise, weed, soy milk, etc serve to curb the desire- and further prove that only something within you is going to do the trick, never something such as exercise outside of yourself)

Suppression is not the means I refer to either. It should be something more like, shift your focus. Take your mind off of it so to speak.

Everywhere you look there is plenty of evidence of the power of the mind.

The first thing that will probably help is just get yourself super busy for a good week. Doing something you like with a lot of other people that like the same thing will be the easiest way. Anyway, if this being super busy thing works (it wont work if you pick something that you only moderately like-so go back to the drawing board and find something you really super duper do like), a week will go by and you are going to freak out that you managed not to masturbate. Then once you are convinced that you can actually do that, you will have more control over it and may not resort to suppression (or other irrational means, like cut it off is the answer, etc).

Then one day you MIGHT realize that if you wanted to, you could never masturbate for the rest of your life and you are not going to die (maybe now you have this super illogical notion that can equate to what death should feel like of what will happen if you skip out). If it helps any, I am waiting for this realization, but it has not come yet. I have also tried exercise and stuff and it helps, but seriously, is the very root of it all being addressed at all???

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Please do not experiment with hard drugs, especially not the shit doctor's give out like candy. If you really want to medicate yourself, as a very last resort, try a very low dose of weed.

Um, what?

What I'm seeing is "Don't experiment with brain chemical-altering substances ... but maybe this one will do the trick."

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