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[NSFW] Giving/receiving a BJ

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AwkwardAntelope

I have given as a compromise in my mixed relationships and did not enjoy it at all. It felt rather mechanical, one sided, and all round disgusting. There was no intimacy at all and that defeats the purpose, IMO.

I've not received because I had no desire for it, and I was firm and up front about that with my partners. In the end only two of them kept insisting on it and that was ultimately the end of those two relationships.

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Agape

I hate them, personally. Receiving one was up there with the most unpleasant experiences of my life.

Oh my god yes.

Freaks me right out...

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Member7783

I've never really understood the fascintion most men have with getting oral sex performed on them. I've had a few BJs, and they weren't anything to write home about. The first one ended suddenly when the young lady gagged herself to the point of vomiting all over me...that put me off the idea of them for about 10 years. My first wife was kind of a fiend for giving them, but I was generally disinterested enough I'd go flaccid before she could get to the conclusion.

Strangely enough though, I'm really good at performing cunnilingus. Even ex GFs and both ex-wives (all of whom would rather spit on me than talk to me) have said that they never met anyone before or since that was as good at doing that than me. I dunno...just something pretty useless in my life that I happen to have a natural talent for.

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nanogretchen4

I'm demisexual and I think my enjoyment of sex is mostly vicarious. I like giving oral sex to a partner I'm in love with, in my someone limited experience. I find it both sensually and emotionally satisfying. I'm pretty indifferent about receiving oral sex. It feels pleasant enough but no big deal. It can be embarrassing if they expect me to have an orgasm that way because that's really unlikely.

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roflysst

As long as he's 'clean' I quite enjoy giving. I feel less 'guilty' towards my highly-sexual boyfriend as he's getting his needs met without touching me in certain areas.

Plus he's much more caring and happier afterwards.

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Autumn Season

No desire, nope. I once gave and it was not a bad experience. But I was really confused about how the guy felt. Did he feel good? Or not? I still don't know, haha. But he came, so I guess it was at least OK.

And in a way I was happy to have the control in the situation instead of the guy trying to "please" me.

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Frozen Fairy

Never done it but if a bf ever asked me it would be the end of our relationship.

Good thing I'm aro.

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Graceful

I wouldn't mind giving but hell no to receiving. (I know that's kinda backwards.)

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ZombiesAndSlasherMovies

I'm very much into giving to someone I'm comfortable having sexual contact with. Over and over and over, I've literally gone all day. The idea of giving oral to someone other then a partner? ohmygodsomuchno.

As far as giving, not so much into it. Mostly because I'm self conscious.

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newMasturbator

I prefer oral sex over penetration (as of now). Both giving and receiving, because you can do many more things to genitals that way. For instance, a girl might suck on your balls, lick the head, give deep throat, use teeth, combo with handjob....so it's much more stimulating than the boring in and out of penetration ( especially if she does not participate ). I cum easiest by blowjob, and I know guys who also find blowjobs the best feeling sexually.

I also love performing oral sex on a girl because you get up close and personal with her genitals. You can suck her lips, take the whole thing in your mouth, tongue her vagina, play around with her clit, play around with her thighs, finger her anus at the same time...you can go on top of her and lick her while she stimulates you at the same time (manually, orally). Again, much more diverse than simple penetration which is just boring in most cases.

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Densoro

Just to clarify, does 'BJ' only refer to penises? xD Or is it a BJ with a vagina too?

So far, I haven't had a partner who has a penis, but as I've become more aware of trans people lately it's made me wonder if that could change. I've always been afraid of penises, but that fear became really cissexist and I've been experimenting mentally with unpacking those feelings.

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?


I've heard quite a few explanations for that.

1. Some do for some reason.
2. It's for the guy. He's more likely to get off if he thinks you're until it.
It also creates vibrations that feel good.


Oh and I know a bunch of women who enjoy it from both a submissive and dominant aspect.
Either the on your knees submissive or the "I can bite it off if I feel like it" dominant

For me, it's always been because I can't believe somebody's seeing me in that position. I'm usually very guarded, so if I trust somebody enough to lower those walls, it's because they're so kind and understanding that they can see right through me. At that point of emotional intimacy, I usually understand them really well, too, so our entire experience together is an expression of love and gratitude. When I give them pleasure, it feels like they've received my message: they're special to me and I feel safe with them. With all of that going through my head, my entire body feels tingly.

Plus, I mean, I seem to have an oral fixation, so using my mouth on my partner's body is just another expression of my self that they have the unique ability to appreciate. I've always liked making out better than PiV sex, too, because I guess I'm more attached to my mouth than my genitals xD

Though I have experimented a bit with receiving. So far, none of my partners have gotten as into oral as I do, so I still don't know if I could enjoy a really enthusiastic session. But at this point, I wouldn't be surprised if my penis is as oblivious to that as it is to everything else so far.

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scarletlatitude

I'm sure BJ can apply to both sets of sexual parts. It's essentially the same idea.

I wouldn't consider any of this at all... just here to mod. :ph34r: I don't want my mouth near anything down there... or anyone else's mouth near me. I'm not entirely comfortable with kissing, let alone anything else oral, :P I imagine I might be open to it with the right partner, but for now... nope.

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Hobbes!

I sometimes wonder if sexual guys really do like blowjobs as much as pop culture would have us believe. I mean, I've read a few accounts of guys explaining their reactions to this kind of thing, and I always get the slight suspicion that they're exaggerating somewhat. I mean, how good can body-heat and a tongue possibly feel, right?

But then, if pop culture hasn't been exaggerating much, I think I'd prefer to avoid them. It seems like being given oral sex is seen as a kind of one-way street - a present, of sorts, so if I'm sitting there only vaguely enjoying it at best then that's just going to create problems

Having now received a blowjob - now there's a phrase I never thought I'd say - I can say that it was ... well, it wasn't unpleasant. It was quite nice, though I think it was really my partner's enthusiasm that was the really enjoyable part.

Oh, and for the record it felt like affection between equals. Which is pretty awesome

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D-Ace

No to giving or receiving! I have tried both but am not interested in bodily fluids and don't like to pretend I'm enjoying something judge because the other person thinks I should be. If I need to be taken care of I know what to do myself better than anyone else. Plus it's like getting an awful gift that was very expensive so you can't say no thanks I'd rather you return it and keep the money so you have to smile awkwardly and fake the oohs and ahs and then are concerned with getting the other person an equally nice, expensive and thoughtful gift. When it comes to giving I never initiate because I hate it and am not going to do something I don't like just because someone else begs for it. It has always seemed like a gross juvenile thing that kids force themselves into before they are ready for sex because they feel like it will stave off the other partner for a while. I know some people like it and blah blah blah but no. Not for me.

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Hobbes!

Wow. I didn't realise anyone round here had missed me xD

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Cove

The two men I've been with sexually both enjoyed them, my ex-husband especially. Even after the divorce he was begging to be friends with benefits so that I would go down on him again. Apparently even when other girls have given him a bj since the divorce he "can't help but think how much better" I am at it. x-x When we were married I'd do it because I knew he enjoyed it immensely.

As for how much I enjoyed it... no thanks. I hope the next person I'm with doesn't have the same need for them as my ex does. And I flat-out refuse to let anyone perform on me. The first person I was with, I have PTSD from being abused by them. I'm mostly okay even with sexual things, but that's one thing that still will trigger flashbacks for me.

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JerJer

I have received bj's and am aware of how good they feel, but I have no desire for them and find the idea quite uncomfortable. Maybe deep into a long-term relationship, if she wanted to, I might acquiesce. But I've never cum from them, so it would be unfulfilling for the both of us. And I have two hands well practiced in the art of pleasuring myself, so I would turn down any offers for amateurish hand-jobs. Thanks, but no thanks. ;)

I would, however, quite happily spend the entire day between a pair of sexy thighs. I just can't imagine ever meeting a girl who would only want to reach second and third base and only on herself. And my anxiety levels are too high to have a sort-of "third base one-night stand," potentially making me demiromantic. Hmm.

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Keumi

Definitely something I'd rather avoid. However my current partner has a particular thing for receiving...so I'll still do it. I don't enjoy it and the ending bodily fluids gross me out. I won't initiate and he knows it's not my favorite thing to do...it always takes him a long time so I get sore haha. But nonetheless, if he's really craving it then it shall happen. The thought of receiving makes me very uncomfortable, but I've let it happen a couple times to avoid hurt feelings I guess...and I suppose I had some curiosity since it's apparently supposed to be so amazing. I just felt awkward though, having his face all up in there. Couldn't really enjoy the sensations.

Oral in general just grosses me out I guess. :P

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Prolixo

While I have been coerced into quite a few things, I've never given a blow job and that's the one thing I've actually been able to seriously set by boundaries around.

I have absolutely no desire to give oral to my current partner, potentially because of how it used to be earlier in the relationship before I really emphasised and stood up for my boundaries, and I can't imagine why I would in the future.

Mostly because I don't see the point if I'm already compromising to actually have p-in-v sex, why is it necessary for me to undergo that wholly uncomfortable, unpleasant experience just to give my male partner pleasure when he can get it anyway through another way I've already consented to doing?

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damage_case

Lol Serran nooo.. I didn't mean oral to orgasm then want sex, I mean they almost orgasm then make you stop so they can finish with sex.. that's been my experience with most of the.. well all.. the guys I've been with.. the only time I've been able to get away with *just* doing a blowjob until they orgasm is if I have my period and even then it's been hit and miss >.< if I don't stop when the guy wants me to stop oral before he finishes, and he finishes by accident before he gets to have full sex, I've had them become angry and tell me I have to wait until they are ready again and that it's "my fault for not stopping oral before they finsihed".. *sigh*

Guys love oral as a prelude to sex.. like, they want the oral stimulation then want to finish with sex.. I know porn isn't exactly something to go by but that's generally what they always do in porn too heh.. oral then full sex..and then unless it's cream pie porn they finish with oral again.

@ SMMK, some women legitimately love giving oral. Some women moan to please the man, because guys generally get off faster and enjoy it more if they think you enjoy it too, but I have known women in real life who just love giving oral sex and will happily moan while doing it :) each to their own.

EDIT: and a lot of men I have met love giving oral sex to women.. they love "pleasuring a woman that way" ..again, it's been something I've been repeatedly forced to let happen, like guys think if they don't give me oral too, then the sex hasn't been a fully rewarding experiencing for them. There are hundreds of groups with thousands of members, on FetLife, of guys who love to give oral to girls, and girls who love to give oral to guys (that's the only place I socialize other than here haha).. it's just something that some people love doing. :)

Although Ive never had any physical contact with women, I'd be very uncomfortable with a BJ. I dont have any size issues or self esteem issues... but I'd have thoughts that the woman is lowering herself by putting her mouth where I pee from.

Moreover, if I ejaculate... I'd feel really really really bad. Most women react to sperm in a terrible way... as if its stale egg juice put in their mouth... plus men can only orgasm once in a sex session... so lasting in bed is of prime importance.

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FictoVore.

Although Ive never had any physical contact with women, I'd be very uncomfortable with a BJ. I dont have any size issues or self esteem issues... but I'd have thoughts that the woman is lowering herself by putting her mouth where I pee from.

Moreover, if I ejaculate... I'd feel really really really bad. Most women react to sperm in a terrible way... as if its stale egg juice put in their mouth... plus men can only orgasm once in a sex session... so lasting in bed is of prime importance.

1) some women (and men!) find sucking a mans penis (or licking a womans genitals) extremely empowering. They love it. So it's not ''lowering'' for a woman (or man) who feels that way about it (though you still don't have to have it done to you of course if you don't want that!)

2) some women find it an empowering, amazing experience to have a man ejaculate in their mouth and to swallow that. Semen has also been shown in studies to have antidepressant properties, which just adds to some people's enjoyment of swallowing (or absorbing semen in other ways). Though that is a controversial study, I can attest to the fact that I feel really good emotionally after having consensually consumed or absorbed semen in some way, it's just like, a ''warmth'' inside, even if I had no enjoyment of the act that caused it (and I never get that ''warmth'' from any form of sex if no semen was involved).. . I never knew why until I read this so while some claim it's bullshit, it makes a lot of sense to me! Sadly though I am not interested in sex, so haven't come in contact with semen in many years and probably won't ever again (unless an ace partner would be happy to let me drink it from a cup or lick it off his hands after he has wanked or whatever)

3) some men can orgasm multiple times during one session of sex. Whether that be a short session, or an all-nighter (many sex sessions go for hours, involving repeated orgasms from both people)

4) ''lasting'' isn't necessarily that important for everyone, because sex isn't all about your penis.. there are lots of things you can do with other parts of your body, to your partners body to give her (or him) intense sexual pleasure, that don't involve your penis!

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damage_case

Although Ive never had any physical contact with women, I'd be very uncomfortable with a BJ. I dont have any size issues or self esteem issues... but I'd have thoughts that the woman is lowering herself by putting her mouth where I pee from.

Moreover, if I ejaculate... I'd feel really really really bad. Most women react to sperm in a terrible way... as if its stale egg juice put in their mouth... plus men can only orgasm once in a sex session... so lasting in bed is of prime importance.

1) some women (and men!) find sucking a mans penis (or licking a womans genitals) extremely empowering. They love it. So it's not ''lowering'' for a woman (or man) who feels that way about it (though you still don't have to have it done to you of course if you don't want that!)

2) some women find it an empowering, amazing experience to have a man ejaculate in their mouth and to swallow that. Semen has also been shown in studies to have antidepressant properties, which just adds to some people's enjoyment of swallowing. Though that is a controversial study, I can attest to the fact that I feel really good emotionally after having consensually consumed or absorbed semen in some way, it's just like, a ''warmth'' inside.. . I never knew why until I read this so while some claim it's bullshit, it makes a lot of sense to me! Sadly though I am not interested in sex, so haven't come in contact with semen in many years and probably won't ever again

3) some men can orgasm multiple times during one session of sex. Whether that be a short session, or an all-nighter (many sex sessions go for hours, involving repeated orgasms from both people)

4) ''lasting'' isn't necessarily that important for everyone, because sex isn't all about your penis.. there are lots of things you can do with other parts of your body, to your partners body to give her (or him intense sexual pleasure that don't involve your penis!

You are pretty knowledgeable about sex. Most experienced people dont know this stuff. Thats great.

I have hangups about sex so I always respect women enough not to imagine they'd go down on me. Like the movie 40 year old virgin "I respect women so much that I completely stay away from them".

And on the opposite I do enjoy the idea of going down on a woman. Women are much cleaner and beautiful so that seems appropriate to me.

Ive only seen women reacting to sperm in a bad way (in porn or chats etc). They run away from it. As if its a bullet being shot at them.

Ive heard a lot of women want guys to penetrate them and last atleast 15-20 minutes. That in itself is a chore. And a few minutes of oral sex too! That would be too much for a guy. I dont know how some men last through that.

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FictoVore.

You are pretty knowledgeable about sex. Most experienced people dont know this stuff. Thats great.

I have hangups about sex so I always respect women enough not to imagine they'd go down on me. Like the movie 40 year old virgin "I respect women so much that I completely stay away from them".

And on the opposite I do enjoy the idea of going down on a woman. Women are much cleaner and beautiful so that seems appropriate to me.

Ive only seen women reacting to sperm in a bad way (in porn or chats etc). They run away from it. As if its a bullet being shot at them.

Ive heard a lot of women want guys to penetrate them and last atleast 15-20 minutes. That in itself is a chore. And a few minutes of oral sex too! That would be too much for a guy. I dont know how some men last through that.

I have had a lot of sex, and more importantly worked in an industry where knowing a lot about everything to do with sex was important to one's own safety, and the safety of others ^_^

Cleanliness of genitals is more a personal hygiene thing than anything else, regardless of one's gender, but that's great that you respect women so much!!

Well I don't know what porn you watch, but there is a lot (like, millions of vids haha) of staged as well as amateur porn (though I only watch amateur because it's often so much more authentic) depicting people who adore swallowing semen. They are actually moaning in pleasure with their eyes rolling back while they eat it! So yeah it just depends on what you watch.

I have known a lot of guys who last 15-20 minutes naturally, and many who can hold off orgasm for a lot longer than that. So again that just depends on the guy. If a woman wants stimulation to go for 20 minutes but the guy can only last 5, he can finger her, give her oral, use toys on her etc, until she is just about to orgasm, then can penetrate her and (if they are lucky) they both orgasm around the same time, which is a really nice and bonding experience for partners (though it can be tricky to time it right, communication is as always, very important!)

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damage_case

You are pretty knowledgeable about sex. Most experienced people dont know this stuff. Thats great.

I have hangups about sex so I always respect women enough not to imagine they'd go down on me. Like the movie 40 year old virgin "I respect women so much that I completely stay away from them".

And on the opposite I do enjoy the idea of going down on a woman. Women are much cleaner and beautiful so that seems appropriate to me.

Ive only seen women reacting to sperm in a bad way (in porn or chats etc). They run away from it. As if its a bullet being shot at them.

Ive heard a lot of women want guys to penetrate them and last atleast 15-20 minutes. That in itself is a chore. And a few minutes of oral sex too! That would be too much for a guy. I dont know how some men last through that.

I have had a lot of sex, and more importantly worked in an industry where knowing a lot about everything to do with sex was important to one's own safety, and the safety of others ^_^

Cleanliness of genitals is more a personal hygiene thing than anything else, regardless of one's gender, but that's great that you respect women so much!!

Well I don't know what porn you watch, but there is a lot (like, millions of vids haha) of staged as well as amateur porn (though I only watch amateur because it's often so much more authentic) depicting people who adore swallowing semen. They are actually moaning in pleasure with their eyes rolling back while they eat it! So yeah it just depends on what you watch.

I have known a lot of guys who last 15-20 minutes naturally, and many who can hold off orgasm for a lot longer than that. So again that just depends on the guy. If a woman wants stimulation to go for 20 minutes but the guy can only last 5, he can finger her, give her oral, use toys on her etc, until she is just about to orgasm, then can penetrate her and (if they are lucky) they both orgasm around the same time, which is a really nice and bonding experience for partners (though it can be tricky to time it right!)

Wow. You really are a great teacher and its great that an asexual knows about sex so much. I think you know... I dont watch porn coz I find it too artificial. Amateur sex videos seem like a violation... as if the girls are forced to do that.

Damn I think if an opportunity came to have sex, I'd be terrible at it. Depressed me. And its funny that Im the one who sexts with these 4-5 women I talk to and dont know how to handle a woman.

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FictoVore.

You are pretty knowledgeable about sex. Most experienced people dont know this stuff. Thats great.

I have hangups about sex so I always respect women enough not to imagine they'd go down on me. Like the movie 40 year old virgin "I respect women so much that I completely stay away from them".

And on the opposite I do enjoy the idea of going down on a woman. Women are much cleaner and beautiful so that seems appropriate to me.

Ive only seen women reacting to sperm in a bad way (in porn or chats etc). They run away from it. As if its a bullet being shot at them.

Ive heard a lot of women want guys to penetrate them and last atleast 15-20 minutes. That in itself is a chore. And a few minutes of oral sex too! That would be too much for a guy. I dont know how some men last through that.

I have had a lot of sex, and more importantly worked in an industry where knowing a lot about everything to do with sex was important to one's own safety, and the safety of others ^_^

Cleanliness of genitals is more a personal hygiene thing than anything else, regardless of one's gender, but that's great that you respect women so much!!

Well I don't know what porn you watch, but there is a lot (like, millions of vids haha) of staged as well as amateur porn (though I only watch amateur because it's often so much more authentic) depicting people who adore swallowing semen. They are actually moaning in pleasure with their eyes rolling back while they eat it! So yeah it just depends on what you watch.

I have known a lot of guys who last 15-20 minutes naturally, and many who can hold off orgasm for a lot longer than that. So again that just depends on the guy. If a woman wants stimulation to go for 20 minutes but the guy can only last 5, he can finger her, give her oral, use toys on her etc, until she is just about to orgasm, then can penetrate her and (if they are lucky) they both orgasm around the same time, which is a really nice and bonding experience for partners (though it can be tricky to time it right!)

Wow. You really are a great teacher and its great that an asexual knows about sex so much. I think you know... I dont watch porn coz I find it too artificial. Amateur sex videos seem like a violation... as if the girls are forced to do that.

Damn I think if an opportunity came to have sex, I'd be terrible at it. Depressed me. And its funny that Im the one who sexts with these 4-5 women I talk to and dont know how to handle a woman.

oooh sorry I forgot you said you don't watch porn! I automatically assumed you did as you said you've seen them reacting in a bad way in porn, but I guess you meant the times you watched it before you worked out how much you don't like it, or were trying to find something you like or whatever!

A lot of amateur porn is wonderful because it's between couples who clearly love each other and are ''into'' each other, and the girl is enthusiastic and very much desires everything they do, whereas staged porn seems more to me, the women just doing it because they are getting paid. But there are good and vad of both kind! To me whats important is that both parties are fully consenting and enjoying whatever is happening ^_^

A lot of people have no idea what they are doing and are pretty bad at it until they get the hang of it! It's just a matter of using a lot of communication and being with someone you trust and feel very safe and comfortable with. In those cases it doesn't really matter if you're not very good at it, as long as you are both willing to take it slowly and experiment to work out what you both enjoy etc. Of course you have to actively want to do the sex as opposed to only doing it because you think you should or whatever. If you're forcing yourself it's very hard for you, or the other, to enjoy it. A lot of asexuals sadly spend a long time going through the ''forcing themselves'' stage before they even hear about asexuality :c .. A doctor even told me when I was 18 to just ''keep having sex until I want and enjoy it'' and I believed him *sigh* Tthis is why education and visibility of asexuality is so important!

Anyway woops I am rambling and went off topic hah.. I should probably stop procrastinating and get on with work :P

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damage_case

As long as he's 'clean' I quite enjoy giving. I feel less 'guilty' towards my highly-sexual boyfriend as he's getting his needs met without touching me in certain areas.

Plus he's much more caring and happier afterwards.

Define clean please.

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tase

Pan-you are the best. So helpful for so many.

The duration is my biggest issue. Size a close 2nd.

Sure the ultimate partner will be satisfied with fingers, toys, oral and be ok with (although you used 5 minutes as your low end example) 1-3 minutes. I'd do a fireworks show for 5 good satisfying, pleasing minutes.

In such minimal time it's hard to focus on your partner's pleasure when it's basically stroke stroke cum.

You know I'm on the exact same level with you as far as amateur only, especially if there is one camera is set up and no third party in the room. I've seen many women happily playing with their clit during intercourse. I guess some guys may take that as an insult, as in the partner needs more than his dick for pleasure and ultimately orgasm. I would love to see my partner do that. The more pleasure she can feel, the better. How could that be considered a bad thing. Just last night I saw a clip where the woman was using what I though was a huge dildo in her ass and enjoying that ride big time. I guess as in all cases and all situations, communication is key. What if she was afraid to play with her clit or use a toy on it or anus as to not make her man feel less masculine. It would just be a shame if everyone stayed quiet about what could turn out to be the most pleasurable sex ever.

Sorry for going a bit off topic, but it seemed to moving in that direction-ha

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Jade Cross

Very ignorant (for obvoius reasons) response ahead:

I dont quite understand either the mentality that the men have of having to be the ones who have to be directly responsible for pleasing their partners and subsequnetly why is this so tied to an ideal of masculinity.

As per the initial question, I wouldnt either give nor want to recieve anything. The former because, well adversion will sky rocket to repulsion (of that Im certain) and the latter because I absolutely despise having anyone touching me, much less doing anything to me

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FictoVore.

I dont quite understand either the mentality that the men have of having to be the ones who have to be directly responsible for pleasing their partners and subsequnetly why is this so tied to an ideal of masculinity.

Because for most men partnered sex is automatically pleasurable (physiologically anyway) to some extent or another. Men are more in ''control'' with the depth, thrusting, etc, and having that stimulation is just a naturally ''pleasurable sensation'' on their penis.. Whereas a womans pleasure can be a lot more complicated, as her parts are very different and it's just.. more complicated making her parts feel good and a lot more complicated making a woman orgasm than it is making a man orgasm, during any form of partnered sexual activity. It can actually be quite easy to 1) hurt her, and 2) her not feel anything good at all, if you don't put a little effort into what you are doing. It's not fair if the sex is only pleasurable for one person (the guy) and the woman is either hurt or gets nothing out of it, which is why it is viewed as ''important'' that the man actively makes an effort to help her feel pleasure and ensure she orgasms. ..Otherwise, the sex was only good for him because he (usually) gets to orgasm regardless. Ideally, both partners actively make an effort to respect the others boundaries and ensure the other is having a wonderful, pleasurable time.

Regarding the masculinity, keeping in mind that penetration especially isn't automatically physically pleasurable for most women the way it is for most men (most women often need ''warming up'' to ensure adequate lubrication, and effort focused on other parts of their genitals and bodies for them to experience pleasure) ... What's more 'manly' to you? A man who sticks his penis into a woman without ensuring she is adequately aroused (meaning she may experience pain) orgasms inside her, then goes and watches TV, or a man who attempts to ensure the woman is aroused enough for sex not to hurt her, and actively involves the woman in the pleasure and helps her orgasm too? To me, one guy is a jerk, the other is a perfect example of gentlemanly masculinity :P guess which one is which haha.

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FictoVore.

As long as he's 'clean' I quite enjoy giving. I feel less 'guilty' towards my highly-sexual boyfriend as he's getting his needs met without touching me in certain areas.

Plus he's much more caring and happier afterwards.

Define clean please.

''Clean'' just means he has washed his penis. Gone to the effort to peel back his foreskin a little and clean away.. whatever.. might be stuck there etc. Often if genitals haven't been washed (mens or womans) they can have a strong odour and rather unpleasant taste (though some people like the unwashed taste, most prefer if it just tastes like clean skin) .. Genitals, like feet and armpits, sweat. Most people would rather kiss a freshly washed, odourless armpit than a stinky sweaty one, hah. works the same with genitals. Oral is (for many people) more pleasant if they doing it on clean (meaning, washed) genitals.

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