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[NSFW] Giving/receiving a BJ

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I have not experienced sucking a "hotdog" yet but was just wondering if this has ever passed an ace's mind.

I have been reading about these on some bi message boards, some from male to male, but most are the "normal" type. They keep on talking about how good it feels, and this has been in my curiosity for ages, even well before I identified as ace. But does any other ace seem to desire to give/receive a blow?

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Smmk

Probably TMI:

I am fine giving it to my partner but only for a short period of time and not until he "finishes" because I really think that is disgusting. I don't particularly like it and don't initiate it much, but I don't mind doing it as long as I can do it my own way. :P

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My alias

Receiving it was nice it felt good but it was never needed. she would only ever do it if on rare occasion if i asked her so I assumed she didn't like doing it. Though the lack of it didn't bother me. if one person went down on another it was usually me on her.

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Steph Ace

Never experienced recieving or giving. I have no desire to recieve (As I view that as disgusting and my libido is my own responsibility) however I have had curiosity as to giving oral (Male or female bodied). Giving someone else pleasure is, well, pleasurable to me.

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truthisbest7

From a female perspective, at least this one I don't appreciate it. I find it gross.I only do it because my husband "needs" to be cared for occasionally. Otherwise, if left to me It would never happen.

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paperwishes

I have given before. Apparently I'm "the best ever" but sometimes I wonder if they just say that to everyone. I think maybe I'm a bit removed from the whole thing so I can deal with it more. It's more like a favour to me.

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CBC

I've never minded. Been a while, though.

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Kauko

I'd have to say that giving another guy a BJ is the only sexual act that I've ever genuinely enjoyed. I would be quite content to develop a relationship with a sexual guy if that was the extent of our sexual relationship and nothing more was required.

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Amnesiac

I hate them, personally. Receiving one was up there with the most unpleasant experiences of my life.

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littlepersonparadox

curious to how it works not interested in the actual thing. Stuff like this i'm meh on in terms of getting or receiving but the idea of oral sex is a bit odd to me personally.

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Serran

I can give, but I don't like it. They are NOT allowed to finish in my mouth though, yuck, hold it and let me get away then go ahead and release that nasty fluid.

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FictoVore.

TMI

I actually have a fetish for body fluids and erm.. well mild cannibalism, so I don't mind (actually quite enjoy) giving a blowjob for the body fluids involved if I'm in love with the person and if it isn't going to lead to (EDIT: vaginal) sex - which I've found is actually impossible for sexual people really..lol (my partner is ace though and is not interested in blowjobs or anything else involving his..ahem.. so that's fine!) .. I hate receiving oral though, it's awful! Ugh. But yeah, I don't mind giving because of the body fluids involved etc. It's not a sexual thing for me though, just to be clear. It's erm, more a cannibalistic thing haha. I'll stop there :o

EDIT: I have been asked before if this makes me Gray instead of asexual. I feel that it's not 'important' enough to me in any way, for it to make me Gray instead of ace.. like.. I will happily go the rest of my life not giving them, because my partner doesn't want it, and there is no way in hell I'd get with a sexual person just for the sake of body fluids haha.. no fekking way. No fetish is worth having to have sex! So yeah, I'm perfectly happy to keep it a mind-based-fetish for the rest of my life :)

EDIT2: And just to be clear, it's the fluids I have the fetish for, not the sex act lol. I'd happily just drink them out of a cup lol :p

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Eva

I like to suck, but not...that. But not because I think it's disgusting or something. I'm asexual and I just don't have the desire.

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Schrecken

I have given one time so far, and it wasn't as bad as I thought it might be. Actually it wasn't bad at all; I didn't mind doing it. And he seemed to enjoy it quite a lot, especially since it was my first time doing that. I wouldn't want him to go off in my mouth either, but luckily my bf is an older man and he is pretty slow to respond (which is fine for an asexual like me), so hopefully I'd have ample time to switch to manual stimulation before that would happen.

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Hobbes!

I sometimes wonder if sexual guys really do like blowjobs as much as pop culture would have us believe. I mean, I've read a few accounts of guys explaining their reactions to this kind of thing, and I always get the slight suspicion that they're exaggerating somewhat. I mean, how good can body-heat and a tongue possibly feel, right?

But then, if pop culture hasn't been exaggerating much, I think I'd prefer to avoid them. It seems like being given oral sex is seen as a kind of one-way street - a present, of sorts, so if I'm sitting there only vaguely enjoying it at best then that's just going to create problems

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FictoVore.

I sometimes wonder if sexual guys really do like blowjobs as much as pop culture would have us believe. I mean, I've read a few accounts of guys explaining their reactions to this kind of thing, and I always get the slight suspicion that they're exaggerating somewhat. I mean, how good can body-heat and a tongue possibly feel, right?

I know LOTS of sexual guys luuuurve oral sex as a prelude to full sex, though I have met very few who prefer it to full sex. Lots of women love being given oral sex too! and of course there are sexual people who don't like receiving oral sex at all.

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Smmk

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?

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Ricecream-man

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?

I've heard quite a few explanations for that.

1. Some do for some reason.

2. It's for the guy. He's more likely to get off if he thinks you're until it.

It also creates vibrations that feel good.

Oh and I know a bunch of women who enjoy it from both a submissive and dominant aspect.

Either the on your knees submissive or the "I can bite it off if I feel like it" dominant

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Kauko

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?

I've heard quite a few explanations for that.

1. Some do for some reason.

2. It's for the guy. He's more likely to get off if he thinks you're until it.

It also creates vibrations that feel good.

Oh and I know a bunch of women who enjoy it from both a submissive and dominant aspect.

Either the on your knees submissive or the "I can bite it off if I feel like it" dominant

As someone who gets off on power dynamics, I think the reason I love giving a guy one is that it feels really submissive on my part, that and it can just be really nice to give someone pleasure like that.

I've also always thought it was interesting, approaching this from a gay male point of view, the difference in attitudes about giving men BJs between women in general and gay men. Most women seem to be not so crazy at the idea--at least that's the impression I get--while among gay men it's just a given that oral sex is common and most gay men enjoy doing it, i.e. I've never had sex with a man that didn't involve oral sex.

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paperwishes

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?

I've heard quite a few explanations for that.

1. Some do for some reason.

2. It's for the guy. He's more likely to get off if he thinks you're until it.

It also creates vibrations that feel good.

I was going to say that, it's the vibrations.

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Serran

I sometimes wonder if sexual guys really do like blowjobs as much as pop culture would have us believe. I mean, I've read a few accounts of guys explaining their reactions to this kind of thing, and I always get the slight suspicion that they're exaggerating somewhat. I mean, how good can body-heat and a tongue possibly feel, right?

But then, if pop culture hasn't been exaggerating much, I think I'd prefer to avoid them. It seems like being given oral sex is seen as a kind of one-way street - a present, of sorts, so if I'm sitting there only vaguely enjoying it at best then that's just going to create problems

My partner likes oral probably better than intercourse and when he is in the mood for oral, intercourse can't satisfy that urge. So, some guys do like it as much as movies make it seem. Whereas, my last three partners I did it once just so they could say they had it, but they were fine with it never happening again.

And Pan - I have never had a guy get oral to orgasm then want intercourse after o.O That would be annoying. lol Well, my partner a couple of times, but he wasn't even "ready" to finish again he just wanted to go through the motions.

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Smmk

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?

I've heard quite a few explanations for that.

1. Some do for some reason.

2. It's for the guy. He's more likely to get off if he thinks you're until it.

It also creates vibrations that feel good.

Oh and I know a bunch of women who enjoy it from both a submissive and dominant aspect.

Either the on your knees submissive or the "I can bite it off if I feel like it" dominant

As someone who gets off on power dynamics, I think the reason I love giving a guy one is that it feels really submissive on my part, that and it can just be really nice to give someone pleasure like that.

I've also always thought it was interesting, approaching this from a gay male point of view, the difference in attitudes about giving men BJs between women in general and gay men. Most women seem to be not so crazy at the idea--at least that's the impression I get--while among gay men it's just a given that oral sex is common and most gay men enjoy doing it, i.e. I've never had sex with a man that didn't involve oral sex.

I do get the power dynamics thing, I actually like that as well. Still don't understand the moaning though xD

What you are saying is interesting, because it is the same thing with giving oral pleasure to women. Most men (at least from what I hear) are not very keen on that, but a lot of lesbians I know don't seem to mind.

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FictoVore.

Lol Serran nooo.. I didn't mean oral to orgasm then want sex, I mean they almost orgasm then make you stop so they can finish with sex.. that's been my experience with most of the.. well all.. the guys I've been with.. the only time I've been able to get away with *just* doing a blowjob until they orgasm is if I have my period and even then it's been hit and miss >.< if I don't stop when the guy wants me to stop oral before he finishes, and he finishes by accident before he gets to have full sex, I've had them become angry and tell me I have to wait until they are ready again and that it's "my fault for not stopping oral before they finsihed".. *sigh*

Guys love oral as a prelude to sex.. like, they want the oral stimulation then want to finish with sex.. I know porn isn't exactly something to go by but that's generally what they always do in porn too heh.. oral then full sex..and then unless it's cream pie porn they finish with oral again.

@ SMMK, some women legitimately love giving oral. Some women moan to please the man, because guys generally get off faster and enjoy it more if they think you enjoy it too, but I have known women in real life who just love giving oral sex and will happily moan while doing it :) each to their own.

EDIT: and a lot of men I have met love giving oral sex to women.. they love "pleasuring a woman that way" ..again, it's been something I've been repeatedly forced to let happen, like guys think if they don't give me oral too, then the sex hasn't been a fully rewarding experiencing for them. There are hundreds of groups with thousands of members, on FetLife, of guys who love to give oral to girls, and girls who love to give oral to guys (that's the only place I socialize other than here haha).. it's just something that some people love doing. :)

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Serran

Huh. My partner likes it as foreplay, but he also sometimes just wants it (quite a bit, honestly). And my previous partners never minded when I said no to oral and the one time I did let each of them have it, it was to orgasm and that was it. :o Your previous partners don't sound very nice.

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The Wreyck

I'm a lot more comfortable with the idea of oral sex than traditional intercourse. I have not experienced either, but I imagine that I would enjoy receiving it. I'm certainly interested in giving it as well to my partner in the future. In my mind I can enjoy it, but then that is just a vague idea and not a concretely connected to another specific person sort of thing, so who knows I guess technically.

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Kauko

Does anyone else find it weird that women in porn moan during the act of giving a man oral pleasure? Like they actually find it immensely pleasurable themselves?

I've heard quite a few explanations for that.

1. Some do for some reason.

2. It's for the guy. He's more likely to get off if he thinks you're until it.

It also creates vibrations that feel good.

Oh and I know a bunch of women who enjoy it from both a submissive and dominant aspect.

Either the on your knees submissive or the "I can bite it off if I feel like it" dominant

As someone who gets off on power dynamics, I think the reason I love giving a guy one is that it feels really submissive on my part, that and it can just be really nice to give someone pleasure like that.

I've also always thought it was interesting, approaching this from a gay male point of view, the difference in attitudes about giving men BJs between women in general and gay men. Most women seem to be not so crazy at the idea--at least that's the impression I get--while among gay men it's just a given that oral sex is common and most gay men enjoy doing it, i.e. I've never had sex with a man that didn't involve oral sex.

I do get the power dynamics thing, I actually like that as well. Still don't understand the moaning though xD

What you are saying is interesting, because it is the same thing with giving oral pleasure to women. Most men (at least from what I hear) are not very keen on that, but a lot of lesbians I know don't seem to mind.

I wonder if it comes down to there being more 'fetishization', as it were, of the genitalia by gay men (I honestly don't know enough to speak for lesbians!) which makes the idea of oral sex so much more ummm palatable (ha!). I get the impression that there is much more specific focus on the penis among gay men than there is among straight women.

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festiff

i am reminded of a question sideshow bob posed to marge in an episode of the simpsons "and he kisses you with those lips?"

i know it isn't detailed, but i don't like the idea of me partaking in oral sex.

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FictoVore.

Huh. My partner likes it as foreplay, but he also sometimes just wants it (quite a bit, honestly). And my previous partners never minded when I said no to oral and the one time I did let each of them have it, it was to orgasm and that was it. :o Your previous partners don't sound very nice.

Well I've only had one previous 'partner' (my ex of five years) and he certainly wasn't very nice heh. The other guys I have been with.. well.. it's a long story haha. It wasn't really their fault they expected so much though I guess.

TMI!

Anyway, with my current partner, I would love giving him oral because I know it's *never* going to lead to full sex, so I'd get to swallow plenty of dodgy fluids with no sex required haha - the fluids are the best part for me. Of course that just freaks my partner right the hell out because he's ace and hates receiving oral as much as I hate receiving it heh, so neither of us will be having or giving oral and that's fine of course ehe.. being ace, we just don't *need* any of that to be perfectly content with each other's love.

I found out recently that semen actually contains a natural antidepressant so I'm not surprised some people love swallowing it :P

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Wyrmcraft

I rather like the idea of giving oral to a female partner, but that isn't what is being asked so I'll skip over to the other business.

:redface:

Sorry, dangit, this is really hard.

I like the idea of receiving, to a degree. I'd feel kind of bad if I can't reciprocate, because I feel like I need to for it to be "ok". I feel like I am taking advantage of someone otherwise.

I like bodily fluids, to a degree, so I wouldn't mind sex just being oral. Especially because I have a massive libido, so that would help a lot since that seems like something that people would be ok with doing more often...

But I know it varies partner to partner.

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