To anyone identifying as hetero or homo-romantic...

[imgone]

I definitely see myself as hetero/androromantic (I'm romantically attracted to masculinity, not to penises), but I'm as much or MORE attracted to women/androgynes aesthetically, and my friendships with them are more open and easy. Part of me coming to terms with asexuality, once I'd overcome my generalized sex-repulsion, is realizing that while most people are repulsed by the idea of having sex with the gender they are not attracted to, I am not sexually attracted to either gender and experience no such preference... I am only repulsed by the idea of having sex with someone outside of a romantic context. If I were ever in love with a woman I feel I could be involved in a sexual relationship with her. I've never been in love with a woman and most likely never will, but I'm open to the possibility! If sexual orientation can be fluid on occasion, I'm sure romantic orientation can, as well.

[butterflydreams]

don't mind me being aromantic over here =P

but i prefer if I would be in a relationship, it would be with a female I guess... but then I aint opposed to being with a male instead, but well then again I ain't exactly searching for a mate, and am agendered so while I could go by the gender of my body I'm not sure if I should say I'm hetero or homo whichever, letalone if I'm whichever. oh and what if the person is neither male nor female like me, I wouldn't be bothered by that either.

its kinda odd to think, of what it would be like if I were born in a female body instead, would my attraction be more clear? would I have attraction, that is? don't mind me, I'll go my way now xD

Very good points here!

I've actually tried to imagine hypotheticals in this vein every which way. When I was younger, I just assumed I was straight, because no one ever asked. I assumed I was "just a guy" again, because no one ever asked. Now that most of that has been peeled away, romantic attraction is...what? Did I lose it that time I went swimming in that funny smelling pond? Like Teagan, I kind of figure a relationship would be with a female, but that has a lot more to do with the fact that I've always gotten along with them faster and easier (as long as they let me and don't shut me out because I'm "a guy"...I hate that). Always had trouble making friends with males.

I'm open to anything of course, but my preferences are pretty clear. I recently tried to become friendly with a trans-woman, but she balked pretty hard at my asexuality. Too bad, we had a lot in common. It's really the fact that I don't really identify with males very well that would be the limiting factor with trying to go that route.

[binary suns]

Like Teagan, I kind of figure a relationship would be with a female, but that has a lot more to do with the fact that I've always gotten along with them faster and easier (as long as they let me and don't shut me out because I'm "a guy"...I hate that).

omigosh, that's exactly how I feel too! it's always been easy for me to open up to a girl, but a guy.. maybe I am prejudiced, or maybe it was a real thing that would happen, but I always felt like if I opened up to a guy we weren't drinking together, he would close up and push off, and so I've had so much difficulty. or that time I went on the trip, the guys would talk about sports and I had no clue what it was like, I don't know sports, and the girls would talk about movies and go shopping, and I was like I wanna go, but then they were stand-off-ish and unsure why I was going with them and not with "the guys"

[Guest]

Go the other way? You mean going straight? For my I am happy the way I am having female friends. They are just friends. Some of them are more important then others but they are friends. I have no idea what I am as in str8 or gay or bi or what ever. I do not really care about that right now. I have a friend who support me that is all I really need.

[deltaX]

I'm not heteromantic or homoromantic, but I thought I'd give my two cents anyway. :P

I'm aromantic, and for the most part I can't even imagine being happy in a romantic relation with any gender. However, there is still a part of me that is open to the possibility that one day I'll meet a guy or a girl who will make me experience romantic attraction and prove me to be demi. It's very unlikely, but not totally out of the question. Since I haven't meet everyone I could possibly be attracted to, I can't really know for sure that I wont meet someone to make me switch.

[KendraPM]

I consider myself heteroromantic, but I know I could end up with a girl. It's not likely, but it's possible. I've dated a girl in the past, and actually found the relationship to be more difficult than my male ones, but it didn't make my feelings any less real. I don't think a lot of people are 100% any one thing. I'm between 80-98% hetero, (I agree with the person who said sexuality is fluid) and I get along romantically with men better, but that doesn't mean I ignore the rare woman I am attracted too.

[romantic-woman]

I consider myself heteroromantic, but I know I could end up with a girl. It's not likely, but it's possible. I've dated a girl in the past, and actually found the relationship to be more difficult than my male ones, but it didn't make my feelings any less real. I don't think a lot of people are 100% any one thing. I'm between 80-98% hetero, (I agree with the person who said sexuality is fluid) and I get along romantically with men better, but that doesn't mean I ignore the rare woman I am attracted too.

I feel somehow the same although that i decided that i want to be only with men from now on.

I have felt for both genders in the past but in my case was a little different

I was really sad cause i had seen that there weren't guys who didn't want to have sex with girls cause i didn't know about asexuality, i also had the thought that women would not ask me to do it. I was wrong of course cause sex desire has nothing to do with genders plus i don't agree with all the people who believe that men are sex maniacs and women are not, they can both want or don't want, love it or avoid it or even being repulsed

So when i found that there are real asexual guys , not only in my mind (i had an ideal prince in my mind who didn't desire sex of me haha XD) i decided that i can only stay with men. The main part was that in my mind girls didn't have same genitals as men so it would be better for me, but now i know that i can be emotionally attracted/fall in love with someone who is a guy and finally don't have to worry or feel anxious that he will ask me to have sex. Yay!!!

[Whispearl]

I identify as demiromantic, but the reason I don't identify specifically as demi-hetero is for the reason you described. I can't rule out the same gender completely because I feel like there's a possibility that I could meet someone one day that could change my perception of things, and I feel like not seeing people in a sexual way at all strengthens that possibility. And I haven't even knowingly met people of other genders in my life yet, so that's a whole other can of worms! So yeah, thanks for making me feel less weird about the reason I leave the gender preference in my demiromanticism ambiguous!

[intellitubby]

I've never felt a romantic attraction to a man. But in saying that just becasue i'm not actively seeking it i would never rule out that it COULD happen. If i did that i would miss out on the possibility of finding exactly what i want from life, which is someone to spend it with.

So as strange as this answer may be (though i've seen a few similar) I am not romatically attracted to the same sex, but i'm open ot the possibility it could happen

[Beyourownspotlight]

I did feel like that, before I knew what asexuality was. I knew I wasn't gay, but I didn't feel like I had to rule out the chance of meeting a girl that could change that. (I didn't know that bisexual, or pansexual or anything other than straight or gay was a thing until I was about 14).

Then when I realised I was asexual, I also realised the gender, and biological sex of my partner didn't bother me. I don't fall in love with someone because of their genitals or chromosomes, or because of whether they wear a dress or trousers.

And I met a girl online, who I had a long distance relationship with, then another, then I met a girl in real life (as well as boys) who I had sexual relationships with and now I'm here.

But now I'm happy to identify as panromantic, I think it's just who I am. If I genuinely enjoy a person, then gender/sex doesn't influence my feelings towards them.

[koala kid 21]

I consider myself biromantic but am far over towards the homoromantic side - girls are interesting, blokes are not

like I don't see myself dating a girl but their nice and soft plus they smell good guys are just ...... guys

[koala kid 21]

Not really. It seems like the ability to develop romantic feelings is simply naturally squarely reserved for females with me.

But it is what it is.

i totally agree

[ClaroBralis]

Many shrinks says that soccer funs are homoerotic. They hug eachother, celebrating victory together or crying together when their team lost... 50.000 men on the stadium watching legs and butts of 22 men on the field...

But, soccer fans are very heterosexual, they will beat the gays, and will not support gay rights, have chicks, and "masculine jobs". Hypocrisy? Nope, just don't think about what they do during game.

So this parody can be truth:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cIq7bEjWiNI