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Confused about my Sexuality


AaronHachi

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I feel awkward because i feel like i need to find the right labels for what i feel i am. And i'm not too sure...

  1. i feel more like a guy than a girl, i hate the female body i have.
  2. i like girls, i love girls, yadda yadda
  3. i don't feel pleasure, i don't really care about sex, but i don't mind pleasuring my partner

Seeing many definitions on the internet for Asexuality, Transgender etc... i wasn't sure and preferred to ask.

Am i considered a Transgender Lesbian Asexual ? XD

Thank you for your time.

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I'm not well acquainted with details revolving gender identity so I won't comment on that.

You say you don't really care about sex - this is kind of vague. Do you wish to have sex, do you want to share sexual intimacy with someone? If no, that would be a strong indication towards asexuality.

The lesbian issue is unsettled. The first school of thought is basically that since asexuality is orientation, one cannot be homosexual and asexual at the same time. Asexuals who want romantic relationships with same sex partners would be called homo-romantic asexual. The second school of thought is basically that asexuality isn't an orientation and is just the lack of sexuality, or some other sexual descriptor, and therefore one could be a lesbian asexual for example. Honestly, nobody here will actually care whether or not you call yourself one or the other. It will be interpreted the same way.

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shockkkk brings up some good points. Ultimately, it will up to you to decide which labels feel like they "fit" for how you want to identify. I, too, am not so familiar with the lexicon unwritten "rules" for gender identity, but we do have a Gender Discussion forum where such matters are discussed and similar experiences likely shared among the membership.

We also have a Romantic and Aromantic Orientations forum and an AVENWiki resource, both which cover terminology used throughout the community with additional information which you may find useful.

I would say Transgender (again, not terribly familiar with gender terms) Homo-Romantic Asexual is what I would be used to seeing. My initial thought is that when I see Lesbian, it is a term usually used/confused with the gay female sexual orientation and thus would present some conflict with "asexual". However, I'm not the one going to be using it. So if Transgendered Lesbian Asexual fits and feels right, then by all means use that. :) Welcome to AVEN. :cake:

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I feel awkward because i feel like i need to find the right labels for what i feel i am. And i'm not too sure...

  1. i feel more like a guy than a girl, i hate the female body i have

Same with me. I call myself homoromantic asexual trans man because I'm technically a male attracted to males (I tend to refer to people's orientations in association with their psychological gender rather than the sex/physical gender. One reason being, this is how the trans community do it). For example, I know a trans woman who is attracted to women, so she calls herself a lesbian.

However, if you're a male attracted to females, rather than lesbian, that would be you being a heteromantic asexual. Nonetheless, if calling yourself lesbian makes you feel comfortable, as Byan said, just use that.

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