bhod Posted November 12, 2014 Share Posted November 12, 2014 Hello all! I am very, very new to this site. However, this is something that has been bothering me for quite a long time... I love men. I do. And I masturbate. However, and I found myself in this situation last night, when it comes to actually getting down to "sex", it is just not something that I am into. I cannot get sexually aroused when I am with another person. It's not nerves, but part of me keeps thinking it is since I have not had sex before. I like to kiss and cuddle and share my love with another person, however the idea of sexual intercourse just turns me off. Is this asexuality? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ArcNelkul Posted November 12, 2014 Share Posted November 12, 2014 Many asexuals enjoy the physical pleasure that comes with masturbation but can feel repulsed by the sexual act itself. There are many variations to this, and since asexuality is a spectrum, you shouldn't feel left out if other aces have different preferences than you. As for the kissing/cuddling, you should read up on the different types of attraction you can feel towards an individual. There is aesthetic attraction, sensual attraction, romantic attraction, and sexual attraction, among others. Asexuality is simply the lack of desire for sexual intercourse. Physical arousal is completely natural, and if you did not feel physical arousal, you would probably identify best as a non-libidoist. Given your preferences, I would probably identify you as a heteroromantic asexual(being romantically attracted to the opposite sex, but not feeling the desire to have sex). Hope this helped. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted November 12, 2014 Share Posted November 12, 2014 Many asexuals enjoy the physical pleasure that comes with masturbation but can feel repulsed by the sexual act itself. There are many variations to this, and since asexuality is a spectrum, you shouldn't feel left out if other aces have different preferences than you. As for the kissing/cuddling, you should read up on the different types of attraction you can feel towards an individual. There is aesthetic attraction, sensual attraction, romantic attraction, and sexual attraction, among others. Asexuality is simply the lack of desire for sexual intercourse. Physical arousal is completely natural, and if you did not feel physical arousal, you would probably identify best as a non-libidoist. Given your preferences, I would probably identify you as a heteroromantic asexual(being romantically attracted to the opposite sex, but not feeling the desire to have sex). Hope this helped. Actually asexuality isn't fully about a "lack of desire for sexual intercourse" (aka sex drive); its about no sexual attraction. Sexual attraction has two components; sexual arousal caused by another person and the desire to have sex. But if someone lacks in one of these then they can be called Asexual. Also, non-libidoist is no arousal period; they do not masturbate because they cant, so this would not apply to this person. You said sexual intercourse turns you off, does this mean you feel sexual attraction for your partner prior to the offer? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Naosuu Posted November 12, 2014 Share Posted November 12, 2014 Moving this thread from The Gray Area to Asexual Q&A. Naosuu, The Gray Area Moderator Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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