Is there a term for someone who is bisexual some of the times, but heterosexual most of the times

[ChunkyDaddy]

I am new here, and forgive me if I'm posting in the wrong place. So, I'm a straight male who is attracted to males, once in oh 5 years. I've had one gay experience a long time ago. Since I'm in a hetero-monogamous relationship, I refrain from cheating on my wife, so I "make do" with cruising porn sites. I've been cruising Craigslist nowdays, and apparently I'm not the only one. Apparently there are other straight men who get a "craving for cock" once in a while

I just want to know if there's a term for this. No judgement please. My wife knows I look at porn. She doesn't want to know what kind of porn I look at. She just doesn't know I look at gay porn sometimes

[Tja]

Tourist? ;)

Seriously, though, I think Bi covers it.

[Zapstileon]

Just bisexual? I mean, the way I understand it, many bisexuals have a tendency to lean one way or the other most of the time, just not always.

Oh, and welcome to the site! :)

[Too Old for this Site]

You might be interested in reading about the Kinsey scale: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

[knout]

I feel like most people would use "bicurious" exactly in that case

[Tja]

I feel like most people would use "bicurious" exactly in that case

Excellent choice.

[ChunkyDaddy]

Thanks everyone. I've been calling myself bi-curious, although I didn;t know if the term applied to people who weren't actively looking for bi relationships.

[Guest]

I'd just go with "bisexual with a strong hetero preference". I never liked the word "bicurious" - to me, it sounds too much like just using potential opposite-sex partners for experimentation.

[aka]

some people may not be comfortable with using the bisexual label as it does come with some misconceptions and may mean slightly different things to different people

so I want to add that there is nothing wrong with continuing to use straight to describe yourself (if YOU want)... you can be a straight guy and still enjoy gay porn or even gay sex

I see a difference between the sexual orientation of a person and the sexual act itself (or fantasy) and I don't believe the sexual act affects someones sexual orientation in the slightest... I find it hard to explain but I'll try my best :) ...

• a gay/bi guy may be sexually attracted to another guy (this is their sexual orientation)
• but a straight guy may want sex with another guy for very different reasons (maybe it just feels sooo good, its a fantasy, could feel taboo for some people & a little bit kinky, bordom, convenient, etc... lots of reasons) but that doesn't always make them attracted to guys or any less straight as it could just be the convenient pleasure of sex and not their actual sexual orientation

does this make sense? I guess a lot of people would just say the straight guy in my example is actually bicurious but I don't think that is always true

anyway if you are happy with bicurious as a label then that is great... hopefully I have not confused anyone with this post hehe I just wanted to show that you get to choose what label fits you as you are the only one who knows how you feel...