So confused! Friend...romantic...am I still (grey)ace?

[xLiraelx]

Urgh, thanks for the reply, it was nice...

I am feeling really embarrassed by this post by now though, could someone please delete it??

Sorry!!

[argar]

Being asexual is something that should bring comfort to you. In the end its just a name to describe a state.

How you are particularly feeling, and what works for you is what is important. Finding what brings you comfort and maybe some joy is important.

Don't worry about the asexual label. If it makes you feel better about yourself, then great, but don't feel like you need to be trapped by it.

The bad thing about being asexual is the world will always try to put you in a sexual role. For all of us it took us a while to make our way through all the sexual conditioning, and figure out we are not like others. What works for them will not necessarily work for us, no matter how much the majority tries to pigeon hole us.

In some cases some people don't want to be asexual, but I have no problem with what I am.

Really, honestly, you have to find what works for you. In a lot of ways I view anyone who is questioning their feeling of sexuality as asexual. I thing if someone is hetero or home, they still have the primal desire to be physical with someone. In my opinion, I am neither exactly. I think if you have that feeling of wanting to be with someone, or no one, but have no physical desire, or the desire doesn't make sense in your head, you might be asexual. Like I said I think its a state. I'm not 100% sure, but I don't think hetero or home or bi folks question why they have that desire. They might question who their desire might target, but not why they have it to begin with.

I hope some of this helps.

Have a beautiful day.