SuperHorace Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 So I see these couples in school holding hands or each other in the halls, and it's just so cute! Like, I love to see it. But I tried to imagine these romantic people being sexual together, and it didn't fit. I see these people as fairy-tale characters come together, and sexual interaction is just so... disturbing... that I can't see these people doing it. Surely they must, as any regular couple would, but it seems impossible! Anybody else like this? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Romance and sensual lead to sex some times. Those couple harmless as they seem would likely end up having sex. Fairy tale people really ? My next question would be how many of these fairy tale characters are gay? These characters give out a normal for what people should act and do... BLAH !!!! Link to post Share on other sites
block.vs.storm Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I get it, lol. I see people who seem perfect together, IRL or on TV and all I can think is about their romantic relationship. Since sex is never on my mind, imagining them having sex seems completely foreign in the context of their romance and out of place to me. I mean, it's perfectly fine for them to be having sex, and I know they probably do, but it just does not add up in my brain and is a very weird concept for me to imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
bonny Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I think I know what you mean. You know, intellectually, that couples must be having sex, but it feels so strange if you actually try and imagine it! Link to post Share on other sites
Shoryu Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I've thought this too, but I've assumed these kinds of thoughts went through anyone's mind, asexual or not. Maybe I'm wrong? Either way, I often did find myself being surprised if there was a couple that had sex and/or couldn't really picture such couple being together in that way. Then again, I was pretty much out of the loop on a lot of things people around me were doing. Wasn't until 9th grade I was in for a culture shock that my peers actually drank and smoked o.o Call me Captain Oblivious! Link to post Share on other sites
Boo Cat Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I think couples are adorable, but I totally agree with you on the sex thing. It just doesn't seem natural to me. My main thought when I hear that my friends have sex is "WHY?" I swear everyone else is crazy. Why would you ruin such a cute romance with icky sex? I don't understand the need for it. It kind of blows away my faith in true love because there always seems to be that nasty bit involved - and if there isn't enough of it, the relationship crumbles. I'm like... what?! Link to post Share on other sites
Teavana Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I think it is so cute and adorable when cute couples are romantic towards each other! I always imagine them having sex. I also imagine that in my make-believe fairytales. I just can't see myself having sex or put myself in the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
cakeuu Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Oh man, I know just what you mean. You see them and you think "wow they're SO CUTE" and obviously nothing that cute could do something so...not cute... Link to post Share on other sites
llamajesus Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I think it is so cute and adorable when cute couples are romantic towards each other! I always imagine them having sex. I also imagine that in my make-believe fairytales. I just can't see myself having sex or put myself in the picture. This is basically how I feel. I personally feel no desire to have sex, but I still acknowledge the fact that other people do and have sex on a regular basis. I don't like actually thinking about it though because it's awkward for me, but it doesn't really bother me that it happens. As long as I don't know all the details, it's okay with me. Link to post Share on other sites
skyler-i-wish Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I definitely never could imagine the idea that couples actually had sex, and once I realized that it happens more often than I thought, it disturbed me a bit. With couples, being romantic in public, however, I sometimes find it cute, and other times find it annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
butterflydreams Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Oh boy do I ever know exactly what you mean. When I see couples in public doing publicly appropriate "couple" things (including everything up to but not including acts that would get them arrested for public indecency, if you catch my drift), I tend to either like it, or be repulsed by it. The latter feeling is more likely if I'm in the mood where I wish I was part of a couple doing those couple things and upset that it still hasn't happened yet. I don't tend to automatically start imagining that, hey, yeah, they probably have sex. Sometimes it pops in my head, but it always feels awkward and weird. Honestly, it's almost exactly like the feeling I get trying to imagine myself in a sexual scenario with someone (random, or someone I care about). I suppose I could wiggle around and do some mental gymnastics to make it ok feeling, but it's definitely not naturally occurring, or an easy natural reaction for me. Link to post Share on other sites
HermioneGranger Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I totally understand. I have this friend who is so cute and tiny she looks like a little doll. And she lives in this perfect little adorable doll-like house and everything about her is so cute and perfect. I think her teapots come alive and sing and tiny woodland creatures help her get dressed in the morning. Then one day she mentioned the birth control she was on and something inside my brain exploded. Link to post Share on other sites
interpol Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 It's not that it seems totally unnatural, though it does seem strange; the whole "oh I love you; let's be naked" thing. I just really don't want to picture it. Especially elderly couples. Link to post Share on other sites
MadRat Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Yes, I´m strongly sex-repulsed, so I just picture all nice people as asexuals, even if I know they are not. Link to post Share on other sites
WhenSummersGone Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 I actually don't usually think about this when I'm around people but when I do I find it odd. It just doesn't click that almost every couple or almost every single person is having sex. I tell myself "no way!" to feel better. Before learning about sexual desire I thought everyone just had sex to make babies lol, or something like that. I didn't think about it much. Link to post Share on other sites
foolishseedling Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 So I see these couples in school holding hands or each other in the halls, and it's just so cute! Like, I love to see it. But I tried to imagine these romantic people being sexual together, and it didn't fit. I see these people as fairy-tale characters come together, and sexual interaction is just so... disturbing... that I can't see these people doing it. Surely they must, as any regular couple would, but it seems impossible! Anybody else like this? I think I know this feeling... Weird... -_- Link to post Share on other sites
skyler-i-wish Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 I think once I realized that couples had sex more than I thought they did (like, not just to have a kid) I felt kind of paranoid that I'd be like that too someday, so I think about it more often than I'd like. I've been told all my life that I'd end up wanting sex eventually, and all my life I've known it's just not for me, and I'm kind of repulsed by it. So when I see a cute couple my mind starts to associate romance and sex when it shouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
PatheticGirl Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 I do know people have sex, but I can't even imagine husband wife having it. Link to post Share on other sites
apokalyptisch Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 ...good thing it's not imperative that every part of our life be "cute", eh? Bet it's real cute when they're taking a shit, too...right? :P Nobody is going to be "cute" all the time. We're not stuffed animals. Link to post Share on other sites
girltwink666 Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 it reallyyyyy pisses me off how there's such a disconnect between sex and romance in the media. Because for some people sex is a really romantic thing and very rarely there are portrayals of people having a sexual relationship that I find really romantic or cute (I can't even think of any!!! Actually I can and its a couple from my homestuck RP group) But yeah!! I do think that. I think it's more like I forget most people aren't asexual so I'm weirded out when I hear about thes things. But sex is something that is done by real people and it makes them happy so whatevs yo. Couples aren't there to appeal to you as adorable or anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Goober Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Sometimes it is best to not think about it if it bothers you. You can't tell people how to live their lives, but you can still picture them as lovey-dovey/romantic without the sex images. Link to post Share on other sites
Angeliss Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 When it first occurred to me that most couples have sex, and that most relationships lead to having sex, I kinda felt like the wind got knocked out of my sails. Like, oh my god, the world around me is full of people doing/wanting something I have no interest in. How did I not notice that before?!? I suddenly felt like I was from an alien planet. It's easier now, but there were times when I would people-watch and think to myself, "those people have had sex, and those people have had sex, and maybe those ones too..." I just couldn't compute how I fit in to that kind of world. Link to post Share on other sites
AceInhibitor Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Yep. Still freaks me out. There comes a point sometimes when I'm like 'Wait...' and I just find it really strange and try to think about something else. I think I'm in a perpetual state of confusion when it comes to that. Especially with fictional characters. I will never be able to wrap my head around the idea that Anne Shirley and Gilbert Blythe have six biological children, and all that entails.SixHarry Potter as well. BUT HARRY YOU'RE A CHILD HOW CAN YOU BE IN YOUR THIRTIES WITH THREE CHILDREN. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperHorace Posted November 4, 2014 Author Share Posted November 4, 2014 Yep. Still freaks me out. There comes a point sometimes when I'm like 'Wait...' and I just find it really strange and try to think about something else. I think I'm in a perpetual state of confusion when it comes to that. Especially with fictional characters. I will never be able to wrap my head around the idea that Anne Shirley and Gilbert Blythe have six biological children, and all that entails. Six Harry Potter as well. BUT HARRY YOU'RE A CHILD HOW CAN YOU BE IN YOUR THIRTIES WITH THREE CHILDREN. You ruined Harry Potter QnQ Link to post Share on other sites
Thunder Storm Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I don't usually think of that, but maybe now I will. Thanks a lot :P For a while I definitely thought I'd be in the "in" group at some point as I grew up and I'd understand why everyone makes such a big deal about romantic relationships (me being aromantic) and sexual relationships. I just never got there. And I don't see that suddenly happening now. Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 I always think this ^_^ And then it weirds me out so much if I find out that they do have sex and I'm like, "Wait ... but they're so romantic and cute and how is that possible???" I don't know, I guess the two are just so disconnected in my mind that I find it difficult to imagine! Link to post Share on other sites
ZenGirl Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 I feel exactly the same way! I am terribly romantic and I notice couples everywhere I go, and whether its celebrities or people I know or even just a couple I notice in the grocery store, if I like them and find there relationship sweet and desirable, the thought of them having sex just cheapens what I think they have. So I totally get this. I just don't see where sex fits in to intamacy and love. It doesn't make sense to me. Link to post Share on other sites
skyler-i-wish Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 I always think this ^_^ And then it weirds me out so much if I find out that they do have sex and I'm like, "Wait ... but they're so romantic and cute and how is that possible???" I don't know, I guess the two are just so disconnected in my mind that I find it difficult to imagine! I feel exactly the same way! I am terribly romantic and I notice couples everywhere I go, and whether its celebrities or people I know or even just a couple I notice in the grocery store, if I like them and find there relationship sweet and desirable, the thought of them having sex just cheapens what I think they have. So I totally get this. I just don't see where sex fits in to intamacy and love. It doesn't make sense to me. It's funny because there are so many allosexuals who would think that sex and love are the same thing, yet there are people out there (including me) who don't see the connection, because there isn't one. Link to post Share on other sites
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