MadamGlitch Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Hello everyone, I know that I'm not very active here, and for that I'm sorry. However, I am in need of your help to discover my sexuality. I don't really know if I'm bisexual or a biromantic asexual. Let me try to explain my situation, but it's kinda hard for me to do. Currently, I don't find any need to have sex and don't feel as though I need it. In the past (perhaps last year or so), I was interested in experiencing sex once to see how it was, but that was about it. Can anyone help me out here? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
the bumbling rotifer Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Hello MadamGlitch, I like your profile pic, is it toothless? :) It's hard for anyone else to say whether you're asexual or not, since nobody ever truly knows what other people are experiencing, and also because people's sexualities are complex things, which don't always fit neatly into any one predefined box. It's really up to you whether you choose to identify as asexual: if you feel that you can relate more to the feelings and experiences that you come across in the asexual community than you can with those that sexual people express, you may well wish to identify as asexual. But only if you want to! P.S. sorry for the woolly answer, I expect other posters will be more specific than I am :P Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Conscientious Ghost Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Yes, I agree with the explosive rotifer. Although a lot of us can suggest labels and ideas, you have the right to self-identify however you feel that fits you. Heck, you don't need to use labels if you feel like your identity is too complex or hard to pinpoint. Asexuality and sexuality are not black and white; some people identify in the gray (spelled "grey" in some countries) area between them. People who identify as gray-A can include, but are not limited to those who: do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to want to act on them people who can enjoy and desire sex, but only under very limited and specific circumstances Similarly, some people who might technically belong to the gray area choose to identify as asexual because it is easier to explain. For example, if someone has experienced sexual attraction on one or two brief, fleeting occasions in their life, they might prefer to call themselves asexual because it is not worth the bother of having to explain these one or two occasions to everyone who asks about their orientation. Here's a good place to start for your self-discovery The information I quoted is from the page is called Gray-A / Grey-A on the AVEN wiki. I hope you enjoy your quest. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MadamGlitch Posted October 23, 2014 Author Share Posted October 23, 2014 Thank you guys. I feel better getting advice from you guys. From what you've quoted Imaginary Friend, it seems as though I could possibly be in the Grade A spectrum. It makes me feel better knowing that I'm not some weirdo that doesn't know where she belongs Quote Link to post Share on other sites
the bumbling rotifer Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Since nobody else has said it yet, I'll jump back in and point out that asexual people can still want to have sex - often due to curiosity, or to satisfy a partner's needs, or because it's fun. The key difference is that asexual people don't experience sexual attraction and / or intrinsic desire for partnered sex. Say a heterosexual person was brought up in a world where there were only people of the same sex / gender. They may well want to have sex for the reasons above, but that wouldn't make them bisexual or homosexual. Hope that helps :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Naosuu Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Moving this thread from The Gray Area to Asexual Q&A. Naosuu, The Gray Area Moderator Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MadamGlitch Posted December 6, 2014 Author Share Posted December 6, 2014 Since nobody else has said it yet, I'll jump back in and point out that asexual people can still want to have sex - often due to curiosity, or to satisfy a partner's needs, or because it's fun. The key difference is that asexual people don't experience sexual attraction and / or intrinsic desire for partnered sex. Say a heterosexual person was brought up in a world where there were only people of the same sex / gender. They may well want to have sex for the reasons above, but that wouldn't make them bisexual or homosexual. Hope that helps :) Thank you, that does help out a lot Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rwkropf Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 I don't find any need to have sex and don't feel as though I need it. In the past (perhaps last year or so), I was interested in experiencing sex once to see how it was, but that was about it. Can anyone help me out here? This sounds pretty much ace to me. It doesn't quite sound like sexual attraction, more curiosity over what everyone keeps going on about. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MadamGlitch Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 Thanks guys for the help. You've been help to me Quote Link to post Share on other sites
HellaAce Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 And just to be clear about the difference between libido and attraction (just in case): Libido: Body days NOWAttraction: Body says THIS ONE Asexuals by definition don't experience attraction but some do have a libido. Hope that helped! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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