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I'm super lucky to have a sister who is also asexual and aromantic. We've always been best friends, but now have a house together, and a cat. The funniest incidences occur when people assume that we're a couple, especially since we have the same last name. :) But really - it's great to know that we'll always be there for each other.

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I have a half brother who I've never met (though I did have a phone conversation with him many years ago where he just confirmed what I already knew about our biological father and how he abandoned us) and that's it. Otherwise grew up as an only child. Sadly my family has really fragmented over the last couple of decades - older members have died, and the younger ones have moved on and away. Other than my mom, all I really have now is my cousin and his wife (he has two children but I'm not that close to them) and my aunt and uncle (the uncle is my cousin's father). But the aunt and uncle are in their late 70's, and they won't live forever. So eventually it will just be me and my cousin as far as blood relatives go, and he's a good 10 years my senior.

I do have a good friend who lives not far away, and some other friends I could possibly rely on if need be. At this time I also have a boyfriend, so I can count him amongst my friends who I can rely on. My mom also has some good long time friends who might also be able to help me as well, though one of them lives very far away.

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TheLastOfSheila

I have an older sister, and an older brother. I was the baby of the family :) They are both married, with children and grandchildren. I love them both very much, and they love me back. However, their lifestyles and beliefs are very different than mine, and I don't think they would understand if I came out to them as asexual. They think I am a little odd as it is, and would probably just think this is more "oddness" (I am 59, my sister is 66, my brother 64). However, I would have no problem coming out to my children who are all very cool people (I am widowed with four sons). However, despite our differences, I know I can always count on my siblings in a pinch.

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I did have an older brother, but as this is the older peeps forum, we know that peeps don't live forever. He died in his 50s. I gave the eulogy and planned the whole funeral service. Crap happens. I miss him.

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Me and my twin sis are very close. She's my best friend and was the closest person to me by a long shot before my bf came along (she's still probably closest to me though). We're so close that when it came time to go to college and we had different ones in mind everyone was wondering how we'd handle the change.

But I can't imagine my life without her. She's always present in my thoughts of the future and I know I can rely on her for everything. She's my other half.

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I have 2 older brothers. One is 8 years older (we shall call him C), and the other is 10 years older (he is D)...so yes, a big difference in age! But that hasn't stopped us from being best friends. Although he gets on my nerves A TON...and I complain about him a lot, C has always been the closest to me. Even though he is 8 years older, we've always been together as if we were twins. I didn't have much choice in the matter...my parents have always treated us as close in age. :P He still lives at home, and even though I say, "WHEN WILL HE MOVE OUT???" I really can't imagine life without him constantly there. And as for D, he is always a great support. He moved out a while ago, and lives with his fiancee, but he visits often. I love talking with him and hanging out with him...he is super smart and funny. We can really relate a lot to each other in many ways, and we can talk about things that I don't talk about with C...so both of my brothers are different but so much appreciated in my life. : )

I am blessed with a wonderful family. I've never been social...so having them as my best friends is not a bad deal lol!

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I'm in the middle between two sisters and we get along well, although we aren't close. I'm "out" to both of them, although my asexuality isn't something I talk about much- there's usually a lot of catching up to do during our rare get-togethers, so the discussions don't often take a personal turn. My younger sister and I are quite chummy, since we spent a lot of time together when we were young; my older sister tends to be on the controlling side sometimes, but we share a lot of interests.

Both my parents are long gone, as is an older brother. I actually think he may have been somewhere on the asexuality spectrum also, as he rarely dated and he didn't seem to have much passion in his marriage. Hard to tell, though.

I'm lucky to also have several supportive friends, as well as a collection of godsons and cousins aged between 20 and 30, who actually like hanging out with this old dude.

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Both of my parents are amazing and supportive, and I've always been fairly close to my grandparents as well (although I've only one left now, really, which is still odd and sad to think of), but my little brother is the person I'm closest to. When we were little kids, we didn't always get along as well as we could have -- mostly because I was somewhat jealous of him at that time, as people had a tendency to treat him the way I wished I would be treated -- but ever since I was eight or so, we've been very close. People I know liken it to us being best friends, but I personally tend to consider 'brother' or 'family' in general above 'friend', so that's a little odd to me. As well as generally getting along, we're very similar in many ways; I think that's why people used to think we were twins when we were much younger, as we never looked more alike than most siblings (not that most fraternal twins do either, but hey, those assumptions had to come from somewhere).

I'm super lucky to have a sister who is also asexual and aromantic. We've always been best friends, but now have a house together, and a cat. The funniest incidences occur when people assume that we're a couple, especially since we have the same last name. :) But really - it's great to know that we'll always be there for each other.

That's great! Kind of similar to my situation, too -- except that I have a brother, not a sister, which is a rather minor difference. We still live with one of our parents, but I expect we'll keep living together down the road, and it's definitely comforting to know that we'll be there for each other. I always find it kind of annoying when people think we're a couple, though, but I'm not sure whether that's more or less annoying than when they think I'm his kid sister.

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Khoshekh's Kitten

I have an older brother. We are not close. He lives in another state. I saw him today and met his new girlfriend who will probably be his third wife. He is one of those people who needs somebody, but once in a relationship he doesn't make an effort, and for some strange reason the women always think he is going to be different when they get married, but he always remains the exact same person they married. That is something I don't understand at all about marriage. He got divorced over a year ago and moved to his new apartment. I realized today he's been in that apartment for a year and I have never seen it because he has never invited me to come visit. I think I only exist when he needs something from me be it attention or something else, like watching his kids or dealing with our parents. The same is true with my parents. I don't turn to them for any kind of emotional support, I never have, not since I was a child, but they expect a lot from me. They rely on me. I don't have anyone to rely on or to turn to, but it isn't something that makes me sad. I sometimes worry about what will happen if I need to have an outpatient procedure done will I be able to stay in the waiting room until I'm able to drive or should I book a nearby hotel room and take a taxi, that sort of thing.

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allrightalready

two half brothers younger than i am and zero relationship with anyone even remotely genetically related to me. when i came out as lesbian they tossed me to the curb and said they never wanted to see me again. i never even got notified when my mother died, i found out by discovering her death on a website six months after it happened

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Autumn Sunrise

That's really terrible, allrightalready! I'm sorry that your family should have been so insensitive, and it must have really hurt to find out about your mother's death in such a way. It seems that friends will have to take the place of family for you . . . but friends can be very loving and caring! And you wouldn't be the first person for whom AVEN becomes "family" :)

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Betty Badinbed

Got a sister two years younger than me, We're really close, though she lives in my home town Auckland and I'm across the ditch in Melbourne. We write 'snail mail' to each other (being an unemployed solo mum, she can't afford an internet connection - and as a true Luddite, it's not a priority for her. Yes these people exist) But I haven't disclosed my aceness to her, or anyone for that matter. Too hard to explain, as I am very private about my true self, even to those I'm closest to.

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allrightalready

That's really terrible, allrightalready! I'm sorry that your family should have been so insensitive, and it must have really hurt to find out about your mother's death in such a way. It seems that friends will have to take the place of family for you . . . but friends can be very loving and caring! And you wouldn't be the first person for whom AVEN becomes "family" :)

thank you, it was hard but since i came out in the 80s it is something i was pretty used to, the incident just really pointed out to me how close minded they all are and it made it all the more easier to feel better about my childhood.

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