aromanticLamp Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 I'm an asexual who has fetishes. However, these fetishes change so often that I wonder if they're actual fetishes, or just ideas that I like the sound of until I realize they're gross. For example, I'll be really into one fetish for like, 3 days, in which I'm like "mmmmm yes can't get enough of this" until suddenly the fetish falls out of favour, and then I'm like "NO GET IT AWAY FROM ME!" It makes me wonder if I just like the idea of certain sexual activities until I either see it in practice or think about it too much, in which case I realize that it was grosser than I orgininally thought, and then I start feeling repulsed by it. Does anyone else experience this? Does it count as sex repulsion? All responses are welcome! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
londonfog Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 I experience the same thing, pretty much. Theres some kinks that I'll just read tons of smut with that one kink for a while then suddenly I just won't be interested and its like I wonder how I ever thought it was enticing, then after a while it'll like cycle back and I'll read a whole bunch again and think its like the best thing ever. I think its just moods really, like you don't have to be into the same thing all the time. I wouldn't call that sex repulsion (unless its helpful for you to think in those terms). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
njosnavelin Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 It is totally moods. My fetish defiantly changes in weeks months and years. There are some that I come back to visit frequently some fetishes that have dropped off my radar completely that don’t interest me. Its the fetishes I repetitively come back to I know those are my fetishes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 My fetishes don't really change, but my list of them gets longer and longer. Also, when in sex/fet mode, i don't really care if things are reciprocated. I was sex repulsed for a few months but then it went away after my epiphany. Anyway, It is still fetishism even if you don't act it out ,the thoughts and fixations are still there. It is okay if they change over time aswell. You seem fine to me, from what I know thus far at least. Just go at your own pace. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Shattered-Glass Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Sometimes I don't even really notice my fetish. I have to be in the mood to be turned on by it. That's kind of a life saver because I have a jeans fetish, and I don't want to be horny in public (although that has happened before). One time, I suddenly got horny in class and I started panicking. Getting a boner in a public place is NOT fun. Sometimes the fetish disgusts/sickens me. I guess it's all about being in the mood. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tessc Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 As the others have said, it can depend on moods, but I think it also has to do with your hormones. I can be really, REALLY into my fetishes, but once every few weeks/months, it just goes away. All of my interest in everything to do with fetish/kink just disappears. It's normal, from what I can tell. If you're not in the mood, then you're simply not in the mood :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Hmm . . . I would still describe these as fetishes, even if they are only temporary, because for a time you do enjoy them. Unless I'm mistaking what I'm reading. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Antonnotna Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 It really does depend on my mood. Sometimes I don't even notice them, while other times I'm pretty into them. I don't have many fetishes though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Nor particularly phases for me no, but fetishes are often much better kept in thought and fantasy. One example, one can have a major and powerful fetish fantasy for scat, consuming someone else's vomit or even getting violently attacked, raped or treated like a baby or child. Real life reality of the above could be or is often much different, a lot of fetish could go out of favour when the realities are discovered. Often that's why me and many others just stick to fantasy, virtual communities and written roleplay not to spoil the sexual thrill, spoiling it with the reality of the situation. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WünderBâhr Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 Here is a link to an interesting thread that may be useful, where fellow AVEN members discuss Kink, BDSM and (of course) cake! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
apokalyptisch Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 I like food analogies... basically...my fetishes are like food in that 1. There are some foods that I am fine with eating no matter how often I eat them - similarly, there are some fetishes I always like regardless of how often I explore them. 2. There are some foods that I get sick of if I eat them too often, or only want once in a while in the first place - similarly, there are some fetishes I only want once in a while. 3. It does very much depend on my mood - I don't always want to eat an entire pint of ice cream, but sometimes I do (like when I has a sad). Similarly, some of my fetishes are directly derived from extreme emotions, and all but require those emotions or states of mind to be present to engage in. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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