SuperHorace Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Anybody think anything that makes so much more sense now that you realize you're asexual? I once had an idea for a story about a guy who couldn't see physical beauty. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 My one brother came out as gay. My other brother told me he was surprised I didn't. I hate sex scences in movies. I've never dated or feel any internal pressure to. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
alpacaterpillar Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I thought long and hard about sex and really couldn't imagine any way I'd actually want to have it. I initially theorised everybody was culturally pressured into it with relationships, but then I remembered that prostitutes and one night stands are a thing... Also, I thought it sensible that asexuality existed (why isn't everybody bisexual?), but it was only when I actually looked it up that I learned about the grey area and romantic orientations. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
EmotionalAndroid Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I hate sex scences in movies. I've never dated or feel any internal pressure to. Same here. Actually, I'd never even thought about dating. I've never had any desire whatsoever, and nobody ever asks about my personal life. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I hate sex scences in movies. I've never dated or feel any internal pressure to. Same here. Actually, I'd never even thought about dating. I've never had any desire whatsoever, and nobody ever asks about my personal life. I think a funny thing is learning that skill of getting people close to you to know better than to ask, just by showing a little bit more of what you think on the subject than what you would with other people, but not enough to give it away. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ace of Cakes Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I went to a Christian high school and teachers would sometimes talk about the importance of abstinence, and people thought it was such a big temptation and stuff, which always confused be because I didn't see why anyone would want to have sex, especially before marriage. I'm demiromantic, which totally explains why I never had crushes to share at slumber parties and such. I was always confused when people would say, "But you have to like someone." I'd just be sitting there like... "But I don't...." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleKoolaid Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 haha yeah, when they would be preaching at church about the struggle for abstinence I didn't understand how it was such a big deal, like you just don't look for sex (obvi I did realize that some people had 'urges' lol). ..In pg rated movies/shows when they make out and then just end up cuddling (cutting out the insinuated sex part); I thought that that was actually what happened, I didn't realize that there was supposed to be sex in between :P ..my idea of a crazy wild passionate night with someone was just kissing them. basically I have loads lol I can't believe that no one else saw it but me (I always felt like a broken sexual) but I figured that maybe I just had religiousness ingrained or inborn in me haha Quote Link to post Share on other sites
thatotherguy57 Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I always thought I had excessively high standards. In fact, until recently, I always claimed when asked that I just hadn't met the right person. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
butterflydreams Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I used to tell people in high school that there weren't any girls I was interested in because it would feel like dating my sister. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Xavy Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I found porn to be boring and I always found myself getting easily distracted by other completely unrelated things in the middle of the "hottest" sex scenes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Veranna Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I used to think that people my age (time around when all my friends were hitting puberty) were just succumbing to some sort of social standard. As I got a little older I used to joke around with my friend who was sorting out her own sexuality that I was nonsexual or something. I never really meant it that seriously, but looking back on it, I suppose I should have known. But coming from a Christian background, it's almost imperative to say that you're straight--whether you know your sexuality or not. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eoria Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I always thought I just wasn't ready or something. Even after I knew I wasn't interested, I still never considered being asexual because I watched a lot of porn. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SuperHorace Posted October 14, 2014 Author Share Posted October 14, 2014 I always thought I just wasn't ready or something. Even after I knew I wasn't interested, I still never considered being asexual because I watched a lot of porn. This is interesting. I'm repulsed--I've always thought sexual intercourse between actual people was just... gross. For a while, before I met my sweet (She made me full asexual somehow with her divinity even before I'd really talked with her), and during my "pon farr," I was attracted to people, and I "took care" of myself solely on imaginary images of people. Never those acts. I never even had any interest in the... shall we say "lower" female body parts? I just thought some people were like that. Can anyone relate? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SMW22792 Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I knew something about me was different when I noticed everyone around me become interested in dating, and other similar activities. Even when I was in (what I thought was) a romantic relationship, I didn't get the concept that sex was an expectation. This was before I found out about asexuality, so I never separated romanticism and sexuality. Then I started wondering what the big deal was with sex. Soon after that, I stumbled upon asexuality. The shoe fits to this day, and it's been a pleasant learning experience exploring my sexuality. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AceInhibitor Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 I told everyone 'I hadn't met anyone I liked enough to sleep with' before I realised it was probably because I just don't feel that towards people ever.I write asexual/aromantic characters as default but then made them romantic or sexual because I thought it was expected. But my favourite character (although I have yet to finish the story, or even properly start it) I've ever written about is asexual and aromantic, and I based a lot of her on myself. I've never written a sex scene in my life (I put it down to lack of experience), and I've very rarely written about the physical aspect of romance, it's nearly always characters talking and a few awkward glances.I thought people were just being melodramatic when they complained about not having sex in weeks/months/whatever.My friend and I often talk about our lack of interest, she seems even less interested in it than me, and I suggested she might be asexual, and once or twice I joked that I might be, and then dismissed it because I didn't know the difference between sexual and romantic attraction.And I've never watched porn. Never felt the need. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Elderberry Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 I finally understood why my parents laughed at me when I bet my sister $200 (more than my life savings at the time) that I would never date anyone at the age of 13. I'd wager that most kids would not do anything of the sort. I'm not the gambling type, either, so the fact I was willing to bet that huge sum of money speaks for an absolute kind of certainty. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Greyt Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 I wondered why I would sometimes go for years without being attracted to anyone... and why I would have crushes which weren't really crushes. That sort of thing. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mayonasium Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Well, let's see. This is actually something my mother told me was a "sign" but I never really thought of it as one. I never liked being touched. Other than that... I've only ever been on a date once (both our parents came and the whole thing ended quickly when I got upset over the idea that people thought we were in a relationship) and I felt a lot of anxiety when we covered sex ed in high school. Honestly, I chalked a lot of it up to my family moving every 3-4 years. How could I form a relationship if I wasn't ever going to stay in one place? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 I finally understood why my parents laughed at me when I bet my sister $200 (more than my life savings at the time) that I would never date anyone at the age of 13. I'd wager that most kids would not do anything of the sort. I'm not the gambling type, either, so the fact I was willing to bet that huge sum of money speaks for an absolute kind of certainty. . . . Did you get $200 yet? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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