jksummer Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 One more here. I also am happy reading and watching movies, or working on mathematics problems. I am seldom lonely or bored. I describe myself as gray romantic but it has been so long that aromantic might be more accurate. Link to post Share on other sites
That asexual guy Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 Fits me Link to post Share on other sites
PatheticGirl Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 Till I had friends around I was never lonely. But now since all my friends are married and busy with their lives I feel left out Link to post Share on other sites
Lalee77@aol.com Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 I also am an asexual introvert but I am not content. I'm actually very lonely. I am divorced because my husband cheated on me because I just could not keep forcing myself to have sex with him despite staying drunk most of the time to try and have some sort of "normal" relationship. I also read a lot of books, mainly because I feel some sort of connection to either the author or the characters but I don't have to respond to them. Link to post Share on other sites
cheeringselenator Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Thats me too! I don't get lonely either, being alone doesn't bother me in the least! I love spending time with my family, or just relaxing watching a movie, or reading a magazine, or listening to music by myself. Link to post Share on other sites
PatienceMarx Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 If I never saw the light of day and had a computer with internet access for the rest of my time on this planet, I would be totally fine. Honestly I'm content with just staring at a wall. I actually get slightly annoyed when people try to talk to me when I didn't initiate it or they insist after I said no. Small talk is just nonsensical rambling to me, though I try just to be nice. I don't like jobs where I have to talk to many different people everyday. Which is about everything I am qualified for at this point in my life (Sales/customer service). Asexual and introverted, I'm cool with it even if others aren't. I do have a GF though, that was a major push on my part, right out of my comfort zone. Link to post Share on other sites
JessieJay13 Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I know I'm asexual, and I'm really very introverted, but I'm not sure about my (a)romanticism yet. I'm in a romantic relationship at the moment, but due primarily to scheduling conflicts I only see him once every two weeks or so. He's been really good about my asexuality--checking in regularly and asking if I'm comfortable and being generally just really conscientious--and he tries to be accommodating about my introversion as well. He asks if I'm too overwhelmed with socialization to go out, recognizes when I've had a busy week or two and offers to reschedule, we even have a code word for when he texts me and I'm just not in the mood for conversation with anyone. But even once every two weeks seems like too much for me. I spend days and days without ever seeing another person and really that's how I'm most comfortable. While I have school and work, having someone that I'm sort of obligated to spend time with feels like a huge burden. And considering I'm not actually sure that I'm not aromantic, it doesn't really seem like it's worth the effort I have to put out when in his presence. Not that it's really that much, but it's enough to drain me pretty quickly and make me just want to be alone again. Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Another introvert ace here! (And mostly aro...) I don't like small talk, and although I do like talking to people and meeting new people, I have to feel "ready" for it in my mind before I do, I can't just do it straight off. And being in social situations really tires me out quickly. I love spending time on my own or with my close friends/family; I hardly ever feel lonely. Most of my friends are introverts too so it doesn't matter if we're in each others' presence without talking to each other. That's good or otherwise it could get awkward like it does with other people. And my close extrovert friends know me well enough not to bother me when I'm daydreaming or whatever ^_^ I read looooads, and books, movies and internet are basically my life right now ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Thunder Storm Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Yup that's me. Although I do get lonely sometimes. I really enjoy hanging out with one or two really close friends. This gets difficult when they end up in relationships. Or in the case of guys sometimes they get a crush on me and that can complicate things... Link to post Share on other sites
Laurenmaru Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Yep, I'm definitely an introvert. I love my alone time. I'm often told I should be out socializing and become even more outspoken, but I've tried in the past and that kind of behavior just isn't for me. Link to post Share on other sites
saffikeagan Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Book loving shelterer of two dogs, two cats, too many fish to count, and a revolving door of foster dogs. I have two close friends that I see once a week or once every few weeks. I try to only see my Mom once a month or so (she's one of those extroverted people who has no concept that not everyone should be exactly like her social extroverted self). I think the longest romantic relationship I've had lasted 3 months, and I've only had about 4. The last one started wanting to see me one day during the week, and I didn't want to see her that often. I finally figured out that I was feeling jealous that she wanted to steal my "me time" away from me. I'm rarely/never lonely, as a good book is always nearby. I don't think I'd mind finding someone to share my life with in an asexual semi-romantic relationship, but it would have to be a fellow introvert who could slide into my life as I like to live it (including the fact that I sit around the house naked or in my undies most of the time). Link to post Share on other sites
Netoutcast Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Count me among the introverts. It never ceases to amaze me how my cousin, who goes to the same college as me, would act as if I signed my soul away not living in one of the on-campus housings/dorms (I have my own apartment off campus by a couple miles, and it is AWESOME!!) and being a commuter instead. Lo and behold though, I'm not the one who got kicked out of his major (which required a certain GPA). Since I've discovered myself to be an aro-ace, I sometimes have worried about not having anyone to talk to outside work (when I get a job, I'm a college senior by the way). On the other hand though, I realize that most of my worry there comes from what other people think, at least to a large extent. But I know somehow where I see myself moving to, I'll probably end up having a new friend or two by default, and I'd be more than completely satisfied. Link to post Share on other sites
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