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Am I asexual or not?


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This is a question I've pondered with for sometime now. Weather or not I'm asexual.

I think about sex, but not with anyone, I just think about the act of sex and I think to myself how weird it is. I analyze it. I find it generally interesting how powerful sexual energy is in that it can get two complete strangers to undress in front of each other. I think sex is weird but an important part of what it means to be a human.

I'm a sophomore in college now. I've always struggled to find a reason to engage in sex. There was this girl that I found myself spending a lot of time with. She was pretty, and interesting. All the while hanging out with her I couldn't image myself having sex with her. I was only able to image myself taking her out on dates, making out with her, buying her things, but never sex. Even when we were in my room alone I just couldn't get myself to think about having sex with her. My friends asked me why I never made a move and I always thought it was because I was shy, but sexual energy is so powerful that it doesn't matter weather or not your shy, I think it was just because I wasn't interested in sex. But oddly enough, I did get erections around her.

Lastly, I do get horny and I do masturbate, sometimes to porn, but I can never imagine myself having sex with a beautiful girl I saw or a girl I might be talking to or interested in.

I'm I asexual?

Sorry for the wild shatter of thoughts!

Thanks for reading!

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verily-forsooth-egads

Of course no one can tell you how to identify etcetera but it sounds very much like you fit the definition of asexual. I suggest you do some more reading on the site if you're still unsure.

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Yes, nobody can tell you how to identify, but it does sound like you are somewhere along the asexual spectrum. As HTM said, have a good look around here and see what has you thinking 'yes, that makes sense to me' or feels familiar to you. Ask more questions. You're very welcome here.

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I'm a sophomore in college too! It's for you to decide but you fit the definition for asexual, demisexual or gray area. By the way, I also masturbate to porn but I can't imagine myself having sex.

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I would say that you sound asexual to me, but that is for you to decide. We even have topics up for just porn and fetishes here: liking those doesn't make you sexual unless you actually feel a desire to go and have sex. Otherwise it could just be a libido thing.

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