Sundance_ Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I want to call a girl food terms or science terms. You're my little wasabi pea. You're my quark. I am the same. I think because my mom uses terms like that often (my spaghetti, milkshake), they come most naturally to me. Although usually I like to make it weirder. You're my breakfast sandwich, my little cabbage flower, my flavored sports drink. Link to post Share on other sites
Sundance_ Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I don't mind the term boyfriend or girlfriend, its words like love, babe etc that are yucky to me. Yeah. Babe is a bit odd. I thought I disliked babe, but then I found myself saying it to my virtual Skyrim wife all the time. So maybe I like it more than I thought. "No, babe! You're all glitched out!" in response to her walking backwards glitch. So Sad. Link to post Share on other sites
prof mags Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 i dont hate the terms boyfriend girlfriend per say but i do find them a bit awkward to use ive only ever used them when asking or referring to a friends partner never actually having had one myself (well technically i have but i really dislike counting it for reasons stemming from my own insecurity's) and besides that ive always thought it a shame i cant call my friends my girlfriends to get across the point i have friends who happen to be girls and not romanticly involved with which would make some conversations go by easier when im talking about my friends with someone who doesnt know them personally Link to post Share on other sites
Squirrel Combat Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I don't like those terms. They sound like terms middle schoolers use when they're in their first relationship. Heck, I even got my brother and his SO to see my point of view. And now they have cut back on the use of the terms. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Member74140 Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 The only problem is you find yourself calling friends that or other people calling them that. My dad won't stop calling my friends girlfiends, it gets annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
H@wkeye Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I always did like neutral terms like partner more than boyfriend and girlfriend, not just for being gender-exclusionary but also kind of immature in the way of connotation. I'm aro and probably won't use any of those terms myself, though. I do really like this new thing of calling QP's/Platonic life partners vegetables! I know two people who call each other "zucchini," which is adorable and much healthier than honey and sweetie. Link to post Share on other sites
wrendering Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I am like this as well. I actually feel really uncomfortable and physically cringe and wave my arms around when I think of most pet names. Some of them are fine, but things like "sugar bear" or "honeypoo" or any of that stuff actually freaks me out. I can't even explain it, but it's almost terrifying. I'm not the biggest fan of "boyfriend" and stuff, but it's not nearly as bad as some of the pet names. I think the thing for me about boyfriend and such is that it seems really silly and not nearly as personal as such a relationship should be (in my mind). So, like the whole "will you be my girlfriend" process just seems so meaningless and silly (I actually almost laughed one time someone asked me out because of how ridiculous it seemed). Link to post Share on other sites
Whispearl Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I actually don't mind those terms at all, really. Actually, I quite like the terms boyfriend and girlfriend; they're simply terms that people use when they're in a romantic relationship and I don't see the harm in them at all. They're actually quite nice. As for pet names and things, I'm not one to judge. It's up to the people in the relationship. For me, the only time I could see it bugging me is when they use pet names so often that they barely even use the person's real name. But even then it's not my place to judge a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Suma Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I refer to my male romantic partner as "Nerf Herder" or "Laser-brain" given how big a Star Wars fan he is. Anyway, I tend to show affection through moderate insults, he just got a particularly relevant nickname. I do like shipmates though... Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 If I ever had a girlfriend....I'd just call her by her name. Or I'd call her something outrageous like " you my bed warmer", "you my shower hog", " you my wallet", etc...... Or is that offensive??? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 wallet? :o what would that mean for you? I have only ever heard that term used by girls (though I imagine their are guys too) who are in a sexual relationship purely for their partners money (an actual arranged relationship like that I mean.. for example old guy with beautiful young girl, she gives him sex, he gives her dosh -not all old/young relationships are like this, that's just an exanple) .. they refer to him as their wallet because he is the one who provides them money.. Nothing wrong with relationships like this of course as long as both people are consenting :) Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 Oh....mmmmmm...if I called a girl my wallet it would be because she would most likely be having to pay for my broke minimum wage ass while I was waiting on funds....so yeah she would be my actual wallet....plus if I was with a girl she'd be in total control of all the money and everything. I'll just take whatever my allowance is from her and try not to use it all up too quickly. But if I did she'd have to help me out maybe. Is that a little messed up? That is what seems like the normal thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
lunadoon Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 Oh Marki :lol:, you're cracking me up. What if your bed warmer also is in need of a wallet? Regarding the OP, I tend to think boyfriend and girlfriend sound a little juvenile. I do really like this new thing of calling QP's/Platonic life partners vegetables! I know two people who call each other "zucchini," which is adorable and much healthier than honey and sweetie. Yeah, zucchini is a lot more nutritious than honey or sugar fo sho! (sorry folks it's late over here, I'm loopy right now) Link to post Share on other sites
Petticoats and cuddles Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 I call my 'boyfriend', my dear or my heart. It's a bit more personal than boyfriend Link to post Share on other sites
PatheticGirl Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 Doesn't matter to me. Though I don't really understand how will be a boyfriend different from boy friend and girlfriend from girl friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Oh....mmmmmm...if I called a girl my wallet it would be because she would most likely be having to pay for my broke minimum wage ass while I was waiting on funds....so yeah she would be my actual wallet....plus if I was with a girl she'd be in total control of all the money and everything. I'll just take whatever my allowance is from her and try not to use it all up too quickly. But if I did she'd have to help me out maybe. Is that a little messed up? That is what seems like the normal thing to do. If that's what you are both happy with then of course that's fine :) I plan on being the main financial provider for my partner and I (we are in a distant relationship at present so money doesn't matter right now) but when we live together he'll be making my life easier by cooking, cleaning etc, sharing a lot of the responsibility for housework, being my cuddle-slave :p etc.. so I don't mind helping him out/supporting financially. If he was one of those peoe who just sit on their butts and expect me to cook and clean I'd say he has to get a job or start studying (and get a student allowance) so he can pay rent/board money :) Link to post Share on other sites
Winnie_A Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Lol. Two of these suggestions have some reactions in my brain. Quark: The Ferengi from Star Trek:Deep Space Nine, who is not at all someone I can imagine being a "boyfriend" Wallet: The song by Regina Spektor. Good song. Very sonder. Link to post Share on other sites
TXartgal Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Wow, I am fascinated by so many people preferring the term "partner". I have never liked that term because I feel like it implies the person means less to you than a girlfriend or boyfriend. But I have never dated anyone, so maybe my viewpoint would change if I did. Either way, "Partner in Crime" is totally kind of cute. ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Wow, I am fascinated by so many people preferring the term "partner". I have never liked that term because I feel like it implies the person means less to you than a girlfriend or boyfriend. But I have never dated anyone, so maybe my viewpoint would change if I did. Either way, "Partner in Crime" is totally kind of cute. ^_^wow I never heard anyone say that before :o heh. I think many people think Boyfriend and Girlfriend are like, teenager terms .. that's how I feel anyway. I feel like boyfriend or girlfriend implies its just like, a temporary fling until you move onto the next person, but partner is more permanent. a partner is (to me) someone you intend to spend your life with, or at least someone you have been with for a long time.You often hear the term life-long partner, but I personally have never heard anyone say life-long boyfriend or life-long girlfriend heh. plus, what also seems weird to me about Boyfriend and Girlfriend.. is that boys and girls are kids haha.. like.. shouldn't it be Manfriend and Womanfriend? or Malefriend and Femalefriend? then there are all the gender issues that arise with those.. I hate being referred to as a girl or a woman .. I know I have a female body.. but I don't *feel* like anything..so being called woman makes me feel pretty much as awkward as I would feel if I was called a man.. I just don't.. *feel* like those things heh .. I prefer the term Person heh. Anyway, that's why I like the term Partner. no gender references in the term, every one knows we are talking about adults (how many teenagers say partner?) and it implies something a lot more permanent. that's just my opinion though Edit: and yea partner in crime is a neat term :p EDIT2: OH MY GOD I just re-read that.. I said 'like' so many times haha *blush* maybe I should start calling my partner my boyfriend if I'm going to be talking like a teen :o heh Link to post Share on other sites
Valeeka Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 I have been in a relationship with my best friend, and "soul mate" for soon-to-be 3 years (tomorrow will be 3 years, woot), and I've never liked introducing him as my "boyfriend". I prefer calling him my partner, or best friend (even though we are "more" than friends). I don't really like the term girlfriend, either, but that's what he calls me when he needs to introduce me. Link to post Share on other sites
Petticoats and cuddles Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 I introduce my Dear as 'boyfriend' because it's universally accepted and understood, but I've never said that he's my boyfriend after the introduction. eater it's 'my Dear Mitch' Or 'My Dearest'. Link to post Share on other sites
KayleeBear Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 I use partner when talking about E in social settings such as work. I like to think about him as my Smizmar. From Futurama when Kif calls Amy his Smizmar, the one who inspires true feelings of love. Shipmates sounds cool as does partners in crime. I also use other half. I dislike the terms boyfriend/girlfriend as they sound temporary and are confusing with the whole girls having girlfriends and guys not having boyfriends and all that jazz, stupid English language with strange slang. I also work at a private girls high school so hear alot of boyfriend/girlfriend talk very teenager. Link to post Share on other sites
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