Ficulnean Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I know it was designed in 2010. I was wondering how widespread it is. My specific concern is that I have found two nice asexual flag scarfs, which I would love to wear. I'm fine with the vast majority of the public knowing, plus I love the colours and scarfs. . . but am wondering at the chances of my family stumbling across what it means unless I were to tell them. I do also want to know more about the basic question I asked though, because I know that a rainbow flag is hard to miss. This is made more complicated by the fact that I would need to makes sure they didn't see the item name when it was delivered. Thoughts on that, as well? P.S. Both scarfs are segmented width rather than length wise as well, making it less recognizable even if someone just stumbled across the colours. Also, as a scarf length wise simply doesn't appeal to me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Xavy Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 From my personal experience, I would say that no one would connected wearing an ace flag colored scarf to you being sexual, even people who know what asexuality is wouldn't connect it automatically. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
raguzama Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 Probably not as recognizable as the gay flag. I think only asexuals would make the connection. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member4445 Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I think this is because asexuality isn't very well known/ publicised. Know the group, know what the flag means -> easy as that. We're only as visible as our visibility attempts. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
little Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 How does the flag even look like? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted October 9, 2014 Author Share Posted October 9, 2014 How does the flag even look like? THIS answers my question. Black Stripe, grey, white, purple. Arranged horizontally. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
deltaX Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 As others have said, a lot of people don't even know asexuality exists, so of course those people wouldn't be able to recognize the asexual flag. I would say a lot of people wouldn't even notice that the colors in a scarf are supposed to be the ace flag. Even if your parents do see the connection ask about it, you can always say you just brought it because you liked the colors (the asexual flag is actually in my favorite colors, and I think they look good together regardless of whether they're representing asexual pride or not). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Contrarian Expatriate Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I know it was designed in 2010. I was wondering how widespread it is. My specific concern is that I have found two nice asexual flag scarfs, which I would love to wear. I'm fine with the vast majority of the public knowing, plus I love the colours and scarfs. . . but am wondering at the chances of my family stumbling across what it means unless I were to tell them. I do also want to know more about the basic question I asked though, because I know that a rainbow flag is hard to miss. This is made more complicated by the fact that I would need to makes sure they didn't see the item name when it was delivered. Thoughts on that, as well? P.S. Both scarfs are segmented width rather than length wise as well, making it less recognizable even if someone just stumbled across the colours. Also, as a scarf length wise simply doesn't appeal to me. Could you post photo and a link to the merchant who sells them? I posted a scarf from the site ETSY recently but they are too small. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted October 9, 2014 Author Share Posted October 9, 2014 @Blace. I'm having difficultly with my iPod. It's on Etsy as well. The one lady makes one thin long type and one circular type. If you type asexual pride scarf then her's is in the first page. I know there are two other ones: one arranged horizontally with the stripes, and a 30 dollar one that is vertical but had colour segments shorter than they are long. I hope you didn't already know there are four there! I told my mom today about finding a nice scarf online: with etsy they let you buy gift cards. Which is great because as yet I don't have a credit card, so I usually pay some family member actual money and get them to do the transaction; they usually earn money off this. I save money overall because spending it is complicated. Nonetheless my mom did the reasonable thing and asked to see some pictures ... which are titled. So I'm going to do some pro pretending that their are no pictures. And obviously request that the maker just ships them as scarfs. I have wanted a handmade scarf forever though-- I even tried learning how to knit. This is worth all the effort. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SilverPin Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 I highly doubt it since the there is hardly any people that even know that much about asexuality. To many people, we don't even exist. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BusTotem Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Anybody who recognizes the flag is safe to be out to, I'd think. Basically a bunch of aces active in the community and general pride activists might notice, nobody else is likely to. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Elluna Hellen Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 I don't think a lot of people will recognise it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 unless your parents are acephobic, AND know all about asexuality, then it should be fine, the only people who know about are sexuality are pretty much all asexual, that and, PURPLE! its PURPLE! purple is a great colour, it should be fine Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JustanotherTobigirl Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 The only people likely to notice the ace flag symbolism is other asexual people. I mean, think about it, how likely are the average people going to notice the transgender flag, the bisexual flag, the pansexual flag, etc. Can you list all of the flags? The only well known lgbt+ flag is the rainbow flag, so I highly doubt anyone will notice. On top of that, the colors are pretty common to mix together, so most people will just see it as a normal scarf even if they know the flag. ) (this almost became a really bad post as my l key is not pushing down so easy, good thing I proofread this) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GhostPrince Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 the asexual tag on etsy has a lot of really neat stuff. no one around my area recognizes the flag. shows how invisible we are haha *edit: and i live in the sf area Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PurplePr1nc3ss Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 Some kids at school wear the ace colors but I'm not sure why. I'm scared to ask Cuz they may be like me in that their favorite colors are those on the flag. Oddly enough the colorsnon the flag became my favorite colors before I began to identify as ace the asexual tag on etsy has a lot of really neat stuff. no one around my area recognizes the flag. shows how invisible we are haha *edit: and i live in the sf area I live in sf too Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Retronaut Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 The first person I came out to, who described herself as someone very interested in people and all the different ways people can be, was actually aware of the Aven triangle, she knew about it being white / grey / black and there being purple in there somewhere. I was astounded and delighted! But she was as I say a very aware lady with a naturally enquiring mind. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mycroft is Yourcroft Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 My marketing lecturer recognised my ace flag armwarmers, totally out of the blue. It was such a wonderful surprise to me, I love it when the visibility pays off :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NudistOnStrike Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 The background for my laptop is the ace flag and so far the only person to notice was one of my (ex)friends who I had come out to. My parents and teammates have probably seen it a hundered times and are completely oblivious, they probably just think it's a bunch of pretty colors Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Glyn Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 As many people have already mentioned, I don't think it's widely known. To give an example, my bank once offered a service where you can have a picture or design of your own on your bank card. There were a number of conditions attached, including no copyrighted material, nothing offensive - and no flags. My sister wanted to put the rainbow LGBT flag on her bank card, and the design got rejected, as it was recognised as a flag. However, after a few of my own designs for one of my bank cards got rejected, I chose the asexual flag - and it got accepted! Now one of my bank cards looks like this: I've even had one of the bank clerks ask about the design. I'm not comfortable discussing my sexuality with everyone, so I left it vague enough while still telling the truth. I told her that it represented a design for a group of people I know who helped me through a difficult time in my life a few years ago. I wanted to show the design out of a sense of gratitude to them (the truth of the matter is that while I was questioning my sexuality, everyone here on AVEN was the most supportive out of the people I spoke to. My friends who I spoke to were, in fairness, doing thier best to be supportive, but it was clear that they didn't understand how I felt). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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