Sarah bbf Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 I knew from a young age that sexuality is an ever many layered thing that has dealt with a lot of confusion and bigotry. I have understood my orientation for a while. I am heterosexual with a small attraction to certain women. But it isnt until a few years ago that I find out about asexuality. It seems to fit me better than anything else has. But I still dont understand what Im reading. I found two different categories. Either people say, asexuality is zero sexual attraction period end of story or there can be some varying degrees. I have always had the romantic attraction and even some sexual attraction in the past. I always knew my urge to have sex was very low, but as Ive gotten older, my urge has gone next to zero. This is a big problem in my marriage. I Love my husband so much and love being intimate with him, yet Im telling him all the time that Im not in the mood to have sex. He tries very hard to be understanding, but it is starting to take a toll on our marriage. He is hurt by my lack of interest and when I speak to doctors about my low attraction they assume its because of my hypothyroidism and that some of my medication may be to blame. I also have body image issues that make me subconscious whenever I am naked. Could it really be a medical problem/body image problem or could I be grey asexual or all three? Im just so confused and dont know how to make things better or know anyone that can help me understand. I dont live where this type of help is available. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Sheka4 Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 Well from readig your post it definetly sounds like you're gray-ace. About the body issues, I think you should take steps in loving your body, if that means becoming comfortable in your own skin then do it, or even if that means changing your body to fit whatever i lideal you want it to be in order to become comfortable in your own skin its your decision and you can do whatever you want with your body. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 This thread has been moved from Asexual Q&A to The Grey Area. Heart Asexual Q&A Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
thatotherguy57 Posted October 8, 2014 Share Posted October 8, 2014 You definitely sound like you may be grey asexual. Take it from a grey, I can identify with much of what you're saying quite easily. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah bbf Posted October 20, 2014 Author Share Posted October 20, 2014 My husband understands asexual better than Gray asexual. His best friend is asexual with sex repulsion. It's cut and dry for him. So he's confused about how the all stars align and I become sexually attracted to him, but all the other times I'm not. The grey scale doesn't make sense to him. He thinks he's unattractive and maybe I just don't love him as much as he loves me. I just don't know how to explain it better. I'm still trying to figure it out myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.