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Just how fluid is (A)Sexuality?


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I here it all of the time. "Sexuality is not fixed and can change over time", or something to that effect. I do not deny that could happen, but like what are the odds? I personally feel like I have always been Ace and that I will always be Ace. If it does not turn out that way I guess I will roll with it, but considering how hard I tried to be "normal" before finding out about Asexuality I just do not think that it could change. Is their anyone who has experience a shift in their sexuality? Is this more like to happen with people under the ace umbrella?

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Mycroft is Yourcroft

I have always been asexual, and I expect that that won't change. However, I also know that sexuality can change, and if circumstances make that happen to me I'll 'roll with it' too :)

I hope I stay asexy forever though :redface:

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averylongwalk

I actually consider my sexuality to be very fluid. The fact that I'm neither attracted to guys or girls has always given me an objective view about most people. Also, should I find myself wanting to be in a relationship, it's a lot easier to find someone since it doesn't matter to me what they look like.

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Well, I've misidentified my asexuality as maybe being bi-curious, because I didn't realize that I was only wanting relationships without sex with people. So, I think it is fluid, but that part of this fluidity is based on how one understands their own orientations. I would have said I was somewhat fluid only days ago. Now, not so much because I know that I actually fit somewhere.

Short: Fluidity is based on self perception. The stronger your sense of self is, the less fluid it is. Unless that sense of self is fluidity, of course.

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I don't feel that orientation is fluid. I base that not only on my own lifelong experience (experience of one doesn't equal everyone's experience) but on the long, long experience of homosexuals being led to trying to be heterosexual because society treated them like crap.

I think the "orientation is fluid" mantra mainly applies to very young people who haven't the experience yet to determine who they are .

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scarletlatitude

I too feel like I've always been asexual. I just never had a word for it. I mean, thinking back now, I never cared to go to teenager or college parties because I knew the point of most of them was sex and drinking/drugs. I am interested in neither of those things. I think I have always really been this way, but I didn't realize it. I have also always been attracted to men only, although I can appreciate some women.

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I'm with @Ficulnean on this one. I thought I was fluid until a few days ago, and then I had my lightbulb moment of 'Aha! Asexuality!' And now I realise with hindsight that this is how I've always been, but just didn't know it.

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