siriuslylauren Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 I've been thinking about this a lot lately, mainly because my straight friends all suddenly have Tindr and are going on all these dates and I'm mega jealous. Wouldn't it be really cool if we had an app like that? That paired us up with local(ish) aces. I know there are less of us so it might not be super local, but it would be fun, no? Basically a dating/talking app for us! Not that I'm against cuddlr or anything, but it just seems sketchy and a little like some straight people would be hoping for it to lead elsewhere. (And personally, I think cuddling with strangers would be weird... but that's just me.) Does anyone know anyone with the ability to make an app like that? I know roughly zero things about technology, so I would have no idea how to go about the specifics. I just know it would be a fun thing to have! Link to post Share on other sites
A_Star Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 I think that would be really cool, seeing as how I don't have any Ace friends, it would be helpful. But, I'm with you in regards about knowing almost nothing about technology Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 I haven't heard of any of these sites before and can't really offer much in the way of helping out with a project like this, however, it sounds like a cool idea. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Hrm, well, I know the BASICS of making apps but not enough to make one like that. I doubt there is one already. But, probably wouldn't be too hard to develop, if someone took an interest. Link to post Share on other sites
JaySexual Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Maybe it could be called Acer..er wait thats a computer *and* app makers don't like 'e' so Acr ?? I wonder how difficult it would be to make up a Grindr-ish app for Ace's ?? What programming language are apps written in, etc? (obviously there would be one big difference in what people were looking for - something like Grindr for example is for hookups/sex (or so I have heard from multiple sources) with an 'ace app' you just wouldn't have that issue) Link to post Share on other sites
gner0 Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 There is Acebook which is not an app but a dating site for Aces technically. It's not super fancy or anything and can take a page a while to load but there's a good amount of people on there. The problem is a lot of aces aren't always looking for relationships so it gets harder to actually find a high amount of people who want to join things like that which means it reduces your chances of finding people close by that are Ace. I like the idea of the app though at least for talking and if someone made it, I'd download it. Until then I would recommend Acebook. Link to post Share on other sites
SithLord Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Heck, I'd be cool with an AVEN app. One that just leads to the forums or chat room, idc. It would be cool to me. But that would be an interesting app to make. It could just be to make friends over, though we'd have to make it pretty exclusive and obvious to stop it from just being another Tindr or Grindr Link to post Share on other sites
Astrochelonian Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 It kind of already exists. I've never tried it, but I read an article about Cuddlr. Link to post Share on other sites
Anonamousey98 Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 It kind of already exists. I've never tried it, but I read an article about Cuddlr. That is so cute :3 Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleKoolaid Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 haha what? cuddler is a thing? well i've officially seen everything lol and i'm not technologically well endowed(?) haha but i use Whisper [which does have a lot of horny people on it] but you could message only the people that post asexual related 'whispers'/posts and the whole thing is anonymous and NOT linked to Facebook for once :). Link to post Share on other sites
Robin L Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 If you're talking about the dating features, then there are the existing communities Acebook and Asexualitic, maybe someone can create an app for them. If you're thinking of the social aspects, then it's a pretty good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Tercy Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 I think the idea in the OP is an app specifically for finding local (or as local as possible) aces to go and hang out with. Sort of like Cuddlr but without the danger of meeting someone with ulterior motives. One advantage to an app would be if it's able to match people based on their exact location (GPS), so people who are travelling/holidaying/daytripping could find people who happen to be nearby at any given time. I have the skills to make such an app, fyi. I'm skeptical that it would work so well given that the population of "available" (i.e. local, single, (a)gender-compatible, not suffering from crippling social anxiety or other psychological obstructions, etc) aces seems to be quite low. That's just the impression I get from using Acebook for a few months and speaking to others on there about their experiences also. There's also no guarantee it wouldn't be abused by sex pests in the same way that ace sites sometimes are. This reminds me that I need to download Cuddlr. (feel free to PM me for random cuddles) Link to post Share on other sites
Melorian Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 I have a feeling that an app like this could be badly abused. I've heard people say that when they've been on dating sites and have written that they are asexual that they end up with loads of nasty sexual messages. I could imagine some nasty guy pretending to be asexual but having ulterior motives when meeting people with it. I don't feel that this would be a very good idea. I certainly wouldn't use such an app. Link to post Share on other sites
FOXracingfan Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 My friends are obsessed with tindr and use it all the time. It is really neat (but also really creepy) how it can tell you "So and so is 2 miles away from you" Like someone before mentioned, it would be great when traveling. Sometimes it's hard to do a meet up [last minute] via AVEN. And if someone were traveling they could just check the app and see that there is someone close by and shoot them a message. Though I do agree with Melorian, the chances that someone sexual will get on there and claim to be asexual is probably pretty high. Link to post Share on other sites
byanyotherusername Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 I could see something like that being useful, just because it's hard sometimes to believe that there are any aces out there. Most of us, especially those who live in dense areas, are probably not far from others, even though it doesn't feel that way. I think it would be cool just to meet more local(ish) asexual-spectrum friends, even if we wouldn't be compatible for any kind of partnership. They don't have established meet-ups in a lot of areas, and for some people it might be less intimidating than an organized meet-up.Yeah, non-asexual people could get on and abuse it, and one should always be careful with anonymous matching services, but it would still be pretty useful. What do Grindr or Tindr cost? Are they free? I know a little about them, but I don't actually know anyone who uses them. I'm just thinking that a small fee for the app would probably filter out a lot of trolls. Link to post Share on other sites
mari Posted September 26, 2014 Share Posted September 26, 2014 If you're talking about the dating features, then there are the existing communities Acebook and Asexualitic, maybe someone can create an app for them. If you're thinking of the social aspects, then it's a pretty good idea. I never could join acexualitic. I wrote a lot to them and i had no answer. Has anyone had problems with it? Link to post Share on other sites
Relz Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 That's a good idea. Even Cuddlr is a bit too much for me, since I'm very averse to the idea of cuddling strangers. It would be cool to have an app for platonic meetups, without the expectation of physical touch. A buddy app--find someone to get coffee with, or whatever. :) And if it's geared toward aces, that would be even better. Link to post Share on other sites
DivinePrince Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 The AVEN team should make an Official AVEN dating site/App to use. I dont have an ipad/ipod/cellphone. i only have desktop so it should be PC compatible. More people know about AVEN than things like Acebook so maybe more people would come. And we should have lots of search options for romantic/grey/nonromantic orientations. Some Search options/filters: Sex-positive/sex-negative options, fetish friendly, sensual/non-sensual filter options ect..... Link to post Share on other sites
Goober Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 It would be really cool, especially if there is an option to look for friends only. I think the asexual community would be able to come closer if we were able to find other aces in our areas and be able to be friends with them and share interests and support Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 It'd be really great to have an app like this when visiting a new city or traveling in a different country. Link to post Share on other sites
Sennkestra Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Yeah, non-asexual people could get on and abuse it, and one should always be careful with anonymous matching services, but it would still be pretty useful. What do Grindr or Tindr cost? Are they free? I know a little about them, but I don't actually know anyone who uses them. I'm just thinking that a small fee for the app would probably filter out a lot of trolls. Grindr and Tindr are both free. It kind of already exists. I've never tried it, but I read an article about Cuddlr. Yeah...unfortunately, from what I've heard Cuddlr is unfortunately full of guys who pretend to want to cuddle but are actually just trolling for casual sex. And I've heard attempts to make more female-focused versions of grindr have the same problem. I like the idea of an ace app - maybe the asexual part would dissuade casual sex seekers? Might invite trolls though... The hardest part of making an app would be setting up the geolocating and any social media syncing. I think you'd need a lot of work from someone experienced in making apps to do that. Still, if there was an app like that I'd totally use it! Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Sex should be an option though. Person A and B both don't experience sexual attraction but are horny. A agrees to Bs advance so long as they watch Doctor Who after. This is a deal breaker as b favors Star Trek. I really hope this makes someone laugh and that it is not deleted. Link to post Share on other sites
Frac Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 It would be really cool, especially if there is an option to look for friends only. I think the asexual community would be able to come closer if we were able to find other aces in our areas and be able to be friends with them and share interests and support Friendzonr? :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
h_langley Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 It would be really cool, especially if there is an option to look for friends only. I think the asexual community would be able to come closer if we were able to find other aces in our areas and be able to be friends with them and share interests and support Friendzonr? :lol: How about Cakeshare Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I'd love an app to meet up and share cake with fellow AVENites! ... especially when traveling and/or visiting different cities/countries. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Good idea! I've heard about those applications before and was convinced it was rather about finding friends but when I read it's more with finding a sexual partner I just thought' not my cup of tea'. It would be nice if aces had sth like this. Link to post Share on other sites
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