Archived Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 A lot of my friends call me cute and mean it, but it's mostly the girls and it's more of an "adorable" cute, like a pet, lol. "Pretty" is nice and so is handsome. I have no problem being called pretty and calling others pretty or handsome is a compliment to their appearance. "Hot" and "sexy" seems kinda weird if they mean it in a way to hit on you. My friends and I (okay, mostly I) call each other hot and sexy as a joke, but I do think they are aesthetically attractive people. Like, I'm not attracted to them, but when it comes to looks, they're good. I call people beautiful a lot, people don't know when I'm not joking because I joke around a lot, but I really do mean it. Beauty is something from within, something only we can deprive ourselves of. Link to post Share on other sites
chankun Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 i much prefer softer non sexual compliments (like cute, pretty,gorgeous) vs overly sexual to me at least (hot,sexy,fine) because of the underlying innocence to the first set Link to post Share on other sites
Zash Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 Bad pretty much across the board. Sexy, hot and pretty are because I don't want people to be attracted to me. Cute just feels a bit diminutive, and feels like the speaker is talking down to me. I have started working out to be healthier. The biggest demotivator for me is people telling me how much better I look. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
2905628976159850821 Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 I dislike it to be seen in a sexual way a lot and that’s why I can’t stand being neither called ‘sexy‘ nor 'hot‘. It makes me uncomfortable and if there are other things added it irritates/angers me. As for ‘cute’ and ‘pretty’ I don’t mind people saying that but I don’t really care either. There are only a few specific circumstances under which ‘cute’ and ‘pretty’ create a good feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Ten-Eight Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Sexy and hot are both bad. "Cute" I very much like because I usually hear applied to me in the same context as calling a baby/small child or a group of ducklings cute ("Oh, look at widdwe Tommy! I just want to pinch his cheeks!), because I'm still very much a small child at heart and the people I love know that full well. As for pretty, I don't really care much about how pretty I am (but not in a "true beauty is on the inside way", I just cannot muster the energy to care), so I'm fairy indifferent to that. Link to post Share on other sites
bleegiimuus Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 I really depends on who says it. If it's a complete stranger, hot and sexy are creepy. If it's a friend, all are compliments (or jokes, haha). Link to post Share on other sites
AmyLuna Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 On one hand i would feel good to be called those as they are compliments but on the other hand i would also feel intimidated if someone called me sexy or hot (mainly sexy, hot isn't too bad) as i would worry that the person saying it would expect something from me or try to get me to be in a relationship with them or anything like that. If a female friend (or male gay friend) called me them i would just take it as a compliment, but if it was a (hetero) guy saying it i would probably feel intimidated as i have this weird thing where i often feel really creeped out if a guy is attracted to me/fancies me/sees me in any way than just a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
nicknack12 Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 I think there should be something in this poll to distinguish gender, because different words have different meanings depending on the gender of the person they describe. For example, a guy calling a girl "cute" tends to be more benign than a girl calling a guy cute. Personally, I only get nervous if I think that whoever is complimenting me has an actual interest or if I think they might try pursuing me (in the relationship sense, though other types of pursuit can be scary as well). If someone just means it as a compliment, I don't care too terribly much Link to post Share on other sites
Valiant Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 I feel very uncomfortable when complimented on my appearance. I think my outward look does not match my inward perception of myself, therefore any recognition to looking anything from nice to hot is instantly met with a feeling of distress. I feel more uncomfortable with the word sexy than the others. It's a massive NOPE for me, and might encourage me to board the train to Nopeville. I still haven't figured out why, but I think it's a mix of my gender identity (I'm often seen as something I don't identify with), my sexual orientation (still a bit WTF about that) and my perception of myself (which is mostly negative). *Shrugs* On the other hand if someone compliments my writing (a hobby I absolutely love spending time on), I'll fall over myself in a mix of embarrassment and pride. Link to post Share on other sites
EmpathyAce Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 I just really really hate compliments about my appearance whatsoever. It's not like I chose to look this way; it was genetic. All I really get to choose is my clothes and hairstyle, so if someone wants to say something like that, sure. But otherwise, it just doesn't seem right to be complimented on something I didn't really do myself. And I try to make myself as unattractive as possible, anyways (mostly to males). So when someone, particularly a dude, does compliment me, it feels as though my efforts have been for naught. I really don't want anyone to be attracted to me ever ughhh Link to post Share on other sites
LazyAfternoonTea Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 It's very uncomfortable when someone compliments my appearance because that generally means they're fixing to ask me out. I then feel guilty because I have no interest in any sort of relationship whatever. Even if they obviously have no romantic intentions, I just don't know how to respond. A simple "thank you" makes one seem shallow, yet declining gives others the impression of a needy attention-seeking girl. Who is, of course, shallow. There are times when I'm frightened to look people in the face for fear they'll comment on my appearance. Link to post Share on other sites
Valja Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 I have a problem with this, when guys call me pretty, beautiful I start to argue cause I don't think it's true, even with my friends, they are always careful and sometimes get mad at me cause I don't allow them to compliment me. I don't remember being called sexy, but when guys on the street tell me I'm hot it feels so bad, I feel dehumanized :(. On the other hand I don't know how to respond to the people I know and they say I'm cute/pretty, they're trying to be nice and maybe I'm impolite, but I don't know how to react (a little help would be appreciated ). Link to post Share on other sites
Anyina Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 I don't usually like being complimented. For me, it is either unnecessary (because it is obvious to me and/or I think it is just the way things are so there is no need to point it out) or it is unrequired (it is another person't opinion on a subjective matter and it makes me wonder what my answer to it should be). Hot and sexy are things I just don't get called a lot, thankfully, but when I do it makes me feel very selfconscious and unsure about what my response should be: compliment back?, just say thank you and move on?, feel annoyed [which I do]?, wonder if they really mean it or if there is some ulterior motive for saying so?... I get honestly confused there. I get called cute so very often though I don't usually mind anymore. Also, most people who call me cute is in a very loving way, so it makes me feel good and loved. That I do like. Pretty just leaves me indifferent: I consider myself pretty (my personal opinion), so when people call me that for me it's just stating the obvious, which I do not know why somebody would do. To me it's like coming up to me and telling me: hey, the t-shirt you're wearing is purple; well, eh... I did know that but thank you for telling me, I guess? o.O Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 I feel offended when someone call me sexy/hot, don't ask me why, I guess it is disgusting to me? Pretty/cute is more....like...I dislike it, but I dont feel disgusted, I find it silly. Link to post Share on other sites
speedyhobbit Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Hot and sexy make me immensely uncomfortable because those both have connotations with their wanting to bed me- ummm... NO. Unless it's a close friend joking, not cool. Link to post Share on other sites
VindicatorPhoenix Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 I like being called cute, pretty, or beautiful. I chose "neutral" for being called both hot and sexy since when I hear either of those words, I'm thinking: "Thanks for the compliment, but I don't like where this is going..." Link to post Share on other sites
Plectrophenax Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I'll refrain from voting since I've only ever been called genericly 'attractive' by a very select amount of people, and then too very rarely [with the exception of my mother, but I don't take her word for it]. Even so, I would respond to all of them with 'bad', even though I find all of them complementary and essentially flattering, and very few people are completely immune against flattery. I would find it inadequate or inappropriate, but even so the notion of being flattered alone is somewhat flattering. But that's about all the good I can say. The main reason would be that I don't give a rat's behind about appearances, and I don't even fully undertsand the means in which they are evaluated. So whenever someone mentions appearances it reminds me of this weird factor that is seemingly quite essential to many and that I will most likely never understand [like sexuality], and though I've gotten immunised against the unpleasant feeling this triggers it definitely isn't 'good' and still not entirely 'neutral'. Additionally, I find it reductionistic. Saying "X is pretty!" is like saying "X has long hair!" or "X had a B- in biology!" only with the addition of being subjective. And it doesn't help that most positive assessments of looks tend to be highly sexual [and sometimes rhetorically manipulative too] and most negative assessments of looks tend to be highly spiteful. In general, I dislike negative assessments as much as positive ones, and I find it strange that the 'good' ones are acceptable and encouraged while the 'bad' ones are not. You can't use one without implying the other. [saying "you are good-looking" sounds to me a lot like "thank goodness you aren't bad-looking".] I also find it interesting that most respondants to this thread seem to dislike 'hot' more than 'sexy'. 'Sexy' is a word I have heard used in many non-sexual contexts [heterosexuals calling members of their own gender sexy, for example], while 'hot' is, in my experience, uniquely linked to sexual arousal. But I guess that's just my experience and perhaps not reprsentative in the least. I think there should be something in this poll to distinguish gender, because different words have different meanings depending on the gender of the person they describe. For example, a guy calling a girl "cute" tends to be more benign than a girl calling a guy cute. Perhaps only if you think of stereotypical gender roles. But I have witnessed the word 'cute' being used on men/boys of basically any description, from scrawny to muscular and also from thin to fat. I can't say how 'benign' it was, but it seemed like a positive assessment of their overall looks [or, perhaps more correctly, their overall impression] nonentheless. Link to post Share on other sites
Xavy Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I just realised how much I hate being called any of those things . Link to post Share on other sites
aussiekirkland Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I don't like sexy because the thought of someone thinking about me sexually makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
Kuebiko Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 call me naive but it's their way of offering a compliment and i appreciate that. besides, hardly anyone knows i'm ace so it's hardly offensive although i think i'd mind if someone i'd come out to called me sexy with subtext, but usually it's my friends who address me as such and i know they aren't sexually attracted to me so i'm fine with that cute is a no bc i'm really not that young? it sounds kind of creepy tbh Link to post Share on other sites
Larien Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 This poll is being locked and moved to the read-only Census Archive for 2014. As part of ongoing Census Forum organization, and in an attempt to keep the demographics of the polls current with the active user base at the time, each poll will last for one year. However, members are allowed and even encouraged to restart new polls similar to the archived ones if they like them. Census Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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