What do you think is the reason you are asexual?

[jennybunny]

I think for me, at least, a big part of it might be genetic. Although she's never come out, I'm pretty certain my paternal aunt is asexual (I've never known her to be in a relationship). My father, mother and maternal grandmother all have very little interest in sex as well.

[Whispearl]

I don't think there's any real reason I'm asexual. I think that's just how I was born. But I was sort of raised in a sexually sheltered environment, and I think that innocence and lack of knowledge of sexual stuff for a while (and even still a bit now) contributed a lot to my sex-repulsion, but not my asexuality itself. Which is ironic because my parents disapprove of it all, meanwhile they're the cause of a big part of it, haha.

[kasghie]

I think I was probably just born this way. I really noticed the difference from about Yr 4, which is when friends started to notice boys. This never happened for me. I have always sort of felt bemused by the whole concept :P I have been romantically attracted to three people - two women and one man, based on personality and enjoying spending time with them. My parents were pretty young and had a loving and sexual relationship, we were not religious, my brother is 'sexual' (although a little closed off emotionally). Oh, and I have felt the 'biological urge' for children (at about 25 yo), but it might have been subliminal messages through the TV because it coincided with a cute diaper commercial :P

[loomborn]

I don't think my asexuality may be influenced by the environment as my sexual and romantic mentality has been on a second plane during all my life. Like one could be able to smell my asexuality within a 10-year long radius in my personal lifetime if they know what it is on a first place. I discard the hormonal issue completely too: many asexuals, myself included, never had problems with hormones and are still 100% aros - and the idea of irregularities during the puberty development, such as one's age at their first menstruation, would not be, in my opinion, a factor (rather probably a possibility of a secondary consequence).

Furthermore, asexuality is a rare sexual variant that also appears at least in other mammals such as goats or mice, so the asexuality being a socio-culture thing is an absolute nonsense.

Could it be related to something genetic? Since there are not many serious studies about this (as to say none), it could be either. I personally think there could be some influence, like the personality tendence to be like this or that, which doesn't mean one is literally going to be exactly what their DNA predicts but perhaps have a higher chance to develop similarly. This could explain why there is so much range in both asexuality and sexuality.

Another option is on how the brain is formed during the womb. There could be some of external factors, not in the social field, but first in a biochemical level, then in a neurochemical one, since too many variables are presented during the reaction of life that make it relatively impredictable. In this case, the brain would receive the sexual hormones but would be unable to interpret them in order to unchain the desire of a sexual intercourse with a partner, or a individual image. How this could work with sexual people who are not straight may be a problem to explain since I've not got myself informed about that, so it's very probable I'm not exactly right - although it clearly has to be with neurology and biochemistry.

With this I don't mean that the several sexual orientations are "brain defaults that have to be cured", of course, because it's not something that harms us physically or psychologically. The a/sexuality of every one of us is part of our personality, in the sense it's who we are, different. And I think if we changed that, we wouldn't be ourselves anymore.

[SirDork]

It's probably just the way I developed before I was born, which was fairly abnormally. I just so happen to fall into that 1% of the world's population that's all like "sex? nah bruh lol"

[Guest]

I don't know. I'm currently identifying as demi (sorta tentatively), but up until recently I would have thought I was a normal sexual, I think. (I have a positive view on and even a definite interest in sex, so in many ways would say I have more in common with sexuals, but can't say that I've ever desired it with anybody in particular.)

Growing up in church, chastity and dressing "modestly" and saving yourself for marriage is not only very much accepted, but taught as almost essential. So in not lusting after other people, I've always just thought I was very good at following my beliefs.

Do my beliefs and upbringing have a bearing on my sexuality? Maybe, who knows.

Just for info, since it's kinda sorta related maybe, I was sexually assaulted as a child, but...it actually didn't affect me very much and I doubt that has any real bearing on my sexuality.

[Lost247365]

I think I am asexual because I have no interest (and am slightly repulsed by) sexual acts :P

Seriously though, it is my understanding that homosexuality is caused by a combination of genetics, genetics, and hormonal environment when one is developing in the womb. I suspect that it is probably something similar for us.

Similarly, I believe that there is a some research correlating the ring finger to index finger ratio with androgen exposure while the fetus is developing in the womb. Women, generally have longer index fingers while men have longer ring fingers. The research also shows that transgender and homosexual people tend to have a finger ratio more in line with the opposite sex.

Like all things in biology there is never a perfect correlation and tons of exceptions but supposedly the correlation is significant enough to separate it from random chance. I myself, have almost perfectly equal ring and index finger lengths...whatever that means.

There is also supposed to be a correlation with hair whorl patterns as well.

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i just assumed i was born / hard wired this way, never really questioned it tbh

[zoidberger]

I don't see any reason why I shouldn't be sexual. I've always felt quite different from my peers, but so do a lot of people. Sexuality was never a huge openly shared topic in my home I guess (if we're reaching).

[Tanzanite]

I never had much of an interest in sex to begin with. All 3 of those health classes I took did nothing but confirm my disinterest.There's also my cynicism and lack of trust, but that was after the confirmation.

[Elluna Hellen]

Heh, I don't know. I was probably born this way, like other people were born straight or gay, or *insert other sexual orientation here*

[RatherBeReading]

I think I have always been this way. However, when I first started dating my boyfriend, I was curious and up for trying it when he suggested it enough times, but only because I thought that's what being in a relationship meant, and it was all new experiences for me, so I thought 'Why not?'. And after I tried it, I was like, 'That's it? This is what people spend their whole lives chasing after? Sure it feels kinda nice sometimes but I'd never actively chase it.' and that's when I knew for sure, at least subconsciously. It never reached my conscious mind until I found out about asexuality and this website about 7 or 8 months ago. I have never been interested in initiating sex, porn grosses me out, and when my boyfriend wants to have sex it feels more like a waste of time than anything else.