nerdzx Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 So I found out about AVEN a few months ago, and found out loads about asexuality. The only problem is- I'm still confused about my orientation, I mean sometimes I see pictures of women or men and find them really attractive, I could imagine having sex with them and enjoying it, I sometimes masturbate and I find it quite good, not amazing not horrid, but I like it enough. But any way, I only see people as attractive if I know them, I don't have to know them personally or even know them very well, but I just need to know who they are. I can't see random people and find their aesthetics good looking. Finding someone attractive only happened once or twice with a real life person, for the most part it's fictional characters. However I have never identified with being heterosexual, I have sometimes identified with Homosexual and sometimes Pan sexual. But, the main thing is, I would NEVER WANT to have actual sex. I don't think it's wrong or dirty. But the idea of me ACTUALLY penetrating or being penetrated with another person does not sit with me. I have tried being intimate with someone, whom I really like, but I hated it. I don't think I'm celibate, because it's not a choice, it's who I am. Romantically speaking, I very rarely feel romantically attracted to a real person. But if anyone could help me, I'd really appreciate that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member54880 Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 Welcome! Some asexuals have sexual fantasies; they can imagine themselves having sex, but have no intrinsic desire to actually have sex with others. Masturbation has to do with satisfying libido, which is separate from sexual attraction. There are some people who find fictional characters more easy to be attracted to than real people. That feeling of strongly not wanting sex, because it doesn't sit well with you, may be sex-repulsion, which isn't part of asexuality itself, though it is common among asexuals.I can't say what your orientation is, but you don't consider your celibacy to be a choice suggests that you could possibly be somewhere on the asexual spectrum. Some asexual or gray-asexual people who are celibate consider it a choice they made (like I do), and identify with it, while others don't. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdzx Posted September 2, 2014 Author Share Posted September 2, 2014 . That feeling of strongly not wanting sex, because it doesn't sit well with you, may be sex-repulsion, which isn't part of asexuality itself, though it is common among asexuals. Hmmm, please do tell me more, I don't find sex repulsive, I mean I'm not big on seeing naked people, but I don't feel repulsed, I just don't personally find it appealing directed towards myself. What does that make me? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member54880 Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 . That feeling of strongly not wanting sex, because it doesn't sit well with you, may be sex-repulsion, which isn't part of asexuality itself, though it is common among asexuals. Hmmm, please do tell me more, I don't find sex repulsive, I mean I'm not big on seeing naked people, but I don't feel repulsed, I just don't personally find it appealing directed towards myself. What does that make me? I misunderstood a part of your post. You could still not want sex at all for other reasons, without being physically or emotionally repulsed by it. There is the term 'sex-indifferent', for people who aren't repulsed by sex, but don't care for it either. Do you think that fits you? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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