Bear91 Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 Hi everyone,I know its another am I asexual but this is my first post so be nice :)I'm really struggling with the idea of being asexual and I'm not sure if i am. I just want to know if anyone has similar experiences to me.Ok so to start off I'm 23, I find men attractive but dont actually want to take it any further than chatting. I've kissed a few people and fooled around as you do but it did nothing for me. I dont want to have sex, the idea just doesnt appeal to me. So i'm thinking well maybe I am asexual but it's the finding people attractive thats confusing me :S Any response will be helpful, I cant really talk to my family/friends about this just yet. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hooded_Crow Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 Hi bear! Welcome to Aven! :) Finding people attractive doesn't mean you're not asexual. Finding people sexually attractive does. From what you're saying, it seems you're not interested in anyone sexually. So yeah, asexuality is certainly a possibility here. What do you mean by 'I find men attractive'? Do you mean visually? Xx Crow Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bear91 Posted September 2, 2014 Author Share Posted September 2, 2014 Hi Crow :) Yep I just mean just visually, i never really seem sexually interested :S Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hooded_Crow Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 Then yes, I would say it's fair to call yourself asexual if you want. :) Although, of course, I'm not supposed to label you etc etc. You must find your own way, young apprentice. Use the Force. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The-Snowlion Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 Yup, from your description I would guess you are asexual. Finding aesthetic appeal in someone, being romantically attracted, and being sexually attracted are all different things. As Crow said, the label is entirely up to you. You might find gray-ace or demisexual to be better descriptions for you. Best of luck to you in figuring things out. =) Oh! And welcome to AVEN! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Arf Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 Some asexuals define their identities as being uninterested in sex, which is totally valid, so maybe that's you! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bear91 Posted September 3, 2014 Author Share Posted September 3, 2014 Thanks guys, this has actually helped clear things up :D x Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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