So I tried a dildo....

[Squeakbox]

Yeah.... let me say first off, it was homemade, and it was small. I found a few websites and videos underlying the concept of making a quick homemade one.

At first, I was thinking "well no... that's too weird for me", then I thought "hey, maybe it will give a different response if I make it small enough" because the normal size dildos worry me...

But let me underline the issue that this was based on after I found the site, and just had a weird thought that maybe I'd trigger a different reaction than with masturbation.

Boy was it not what it's hyped to be...

I don't know what it's like for a sexual, but when I tried it.... eh... it was void of any gains.

Not only did it fall lower than me just masturbating on the surface (I am a libidoist after masturbating a lot as a teenager, trying to force a sexuality from myself) like I usually do, but the stupid thing... GRRRR, how does anyone think a dildo is BETTER?!?

I just had to test it out to see.

1. yes I got an orgasm

2. it was less responsive, faded in and out

3. I know I did it correctly because I triggered a response each time

4. wth was I thinking?!? This thing left a feeling that my crotch dried out...

This was a weird experiment... I remember doing something similar, but when I was younger, it wasn't fully in. Plus, it was a marker, and it was uncomfortable.

I will say, since it was soft, it wasn't as awkward as my first attempt when I was younger.... weird? Yes.

Why did I do this? To be sure what the result would be... I'm a bit of a nerd, a geek, and I like to test things. I like to experiment and KNOW things. So no, Asexuality isn't in my head, I know that... and this affirms it more.

I just wanted to open up about this, because the feeling of it was practically nothing compared to just masturbating when my libido reacts badly. I tested this in the circumstance of when this occurs, and it occurred just recently.

I can probably describe it best as... movement and... pressure.

It's the most ridiculous thing anyone can do for pleasure to me, and I don't mean to insult anyone sexual over it... but the concept of it to me is baloney. I can't relate to this dildo concept, at all... and I noticed there were Asexuals (here I think?) that used sex toys. I guess I was also thinking it would be a way to relieve the libido better, but nah... it doesn't feel like it did anything for me.

[passionatefriend61]

Most people with vaginas only have clitoral orgasms, not vaginal orgasms. It's pretty normal not to feel much genital pleasure from penetration alone, if you've got a vagina. In fact, some sexual people with vaginas prefer not to be penetrated or at the very least, rank penetration far below other sexual acts.

[Guest]

You are supposed to use lube with toys, which is probably why it felt dry. But, yeah... most women I know use either external only or a vibrator with an extension outside to get double stimulation. No one I know uses just penetration.

Not that I get the appeal of any of it, being non-libidoist. Just been around while girls at college discussed their favorites. Lol

[njosnavelin]

Interesting subject. Look you tried. There isn't anything wrong with confirming your pleasures to see if you would like it or if you have changed.

I do have some toys to see if I like it. My answer is yes I do like them because I was curious. I don't use them all the time but they are fun to use once every month or so to change things up. I did recently get a vibrating one. I can't say I am that impressed from the non vibrating ones. It is still early to judge.

No matter what body entry point lube is key.

Thank your for this topic. I love reading and trying to relate myself to the thinking of female.

[Squeakbox]

You are supposed to use lube with toys, which is probably why it felt dry. But, yeah... most women I know use either external only or a vibrator with an extension outside to get double stimulation. No one I know uses just penetration.

Not that I get the appeal of any of it, being non-libidoist. Just been around while girls at college discussed their favorites. Lol

Well that could be... it's not something I would try again, but yeah. Does explain it a bit.

Definitely wasn't anything other than it wasn't much otherwise... but thanks for the insight.

[Archaewok]

Like others have said, the statistic is around 70% of women can't orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone, so your results aren't surprising. I believe I have heard that having something large enough to make oneself feel "full" inside can increase the pleasure of a clitoral orgasm. Though being a guy, I haven't been able to test the theory. Have you investigated g-spot stimulation yet to see if that is different or if you are able to ejaculate?

[ShyFeather]

All that time spent making a dildo when you could have been making a cake instead...

I think most dildos have an extension for the clitoris too and that's why they work well. I wonder if having pressure inside really does increase pleasure from the clitoris too. I've never heard of that before.

[SquirrelCat]

I'm a bit of nerd as well so I like to experiment and test things out, I'm aslo a libidoist and a very creative masturbator.

As far as dildos go I've tried a lot of things, mostly homemade, different objects, sizes, shapes... temperatures...I managed a vaginal orgasm once! ​It's insanely hard to achieve. Most women I know and speak to about this stuff uses external vibrators for clitoral stimulation, because it takes too much time and energy to try and get a vaginal orgasm, or they combind a dildo with a Butterfly.

[Hobbes!]

If I remember my anatomy correctly, what you can see of the clitoris is the external part of a much larger organ. I think - think - that penetration stimulates the internal side of the clitoris, explaining how it's possible but more difficult to get a vaginal orgasm

[Squeakbox]

Well researching into it, the Nerves of Walsh are attached to the prostate, where the prostate is your "valve" for urination, but also stimulates the Nerves of Walsh for sexual pleasure. From the diagrams I pulled up, the walls of the vagina have to be pressed towards the belly to stimulate it, which is what I attempted.

Maybe, though, because of some things I read up... I had the impression, from testimonials, that women who used dildos experienced better pleasure.

Perhaps it is, as ShyFeather mentions, the ones that have the clitoral stimulation does it best. The prostate is hooked up with the urinary tract, which would explain why the clitoris works best.

I also assumed I would have a different reaction, via what I've seen portrayed on the web. Seems like I was lied to.

It also didn't feel painful, but the fact remains it didn't exactly feel right to me.

As for ejaculation... I don't really get that myself for whatever reason, but there is an increase in fluids after the "relief".

[Kanenas]

Doctors, scientists, researchers and avid masturbators :D are still discussing to this day whether there even is a thing such as a vaginal orgasm. I wouldn't know from personal experience, but this is a huge discussion among lesbians. Most straight women don't seem to enjoy penetrative sex as much, if they even enjoy it at all. Without sounding offensive, no penis was "designed" to bring great pleasure to a woman. I guess sexually active lesbians are a little more informed and concerned about G-spot stimulation and the likes. Word on the street is that full body orgasms or plain vaginal orgasms are only possible through that, whether the stimulation comes from the fingers or an object.

[Guest]

I do not enjoy stimulation, so I can't say anything about if penetration increases pleasure. It's actually quite UNCOMFORTABLE for me to be brought anywhere near orgasm and verges on painful to have one. Not a sensation I want, at all. But, penetration and pushing "up" towards the belly while something outside stimulates does increase that uncomfortable feeling that I try to avoid. So, if that is the thing that most consider pleasure, it may increase the pleasure sensation to have both. I know many women love the "rabbit" vibrator because it can do both and supposedly produces a lot of pleasure for them.

But, from everything I have read/heard, what is the most pleasurable about sex and masturbation are things that are very personal. So, what is more pleasurable for say, my friends at college won't be for you. And vice versa. I would say, just do whatever it is YOU enjoy and if you want to keep experimenting, do so, but don't worry about what MOST people are supposed to feel from this or that. :)

[soMeRandoM670]

No such things as vagina orgasms. Everything do with orgasms is clitoral, even so called G-sport, just branch or roots of clit being stimulated,
Hahah I don't want penetrate women but seems a lot, want that. At least intimacy it brings. Penetration never needed for women orgasm.

I done similar things, I was not to keen about it. Tried edging, other stuff. So I have experimented.

Honestly I don't understand why guys chase after, ejaculation Guess maybe I just don't get what they get But that is alright too.

On unrelated note. It should be alright for me pursue relationship with I guess she hyper sexual, nymphomaniac. Just I got another one those talks again from guy, this time ironically celebrate agnostic. Perfect logic, don't want disrespect sex. Tell someone that fact he not interested in sex, his relationship he purses are invalid. So, I had deal with that. Wasn't best thing, deal with.