Philip027 Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 Yes. When I first heard about asexuality (almost 4 years ago now) I thought it referred to the complete lack of any sort of sexual experiences (not just things that happen with other people, and not necessarily just physical experiences but mental ones as well... meaning no libido, no other sort of sexual inclinations) Turns out it's not like that, and the definition of asexuality is much looser (loose enough, imo, to the point that it loses any sort of practical significance in my eyes). There are many self-proclaimed asexual people here that from my point of view still seem like very "sexual" people, which honestly continues to flabbergast me and makes me wonder why they would bother identifying that way for any potential reason other than to confuse others. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
New Strawberry 8 Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Definitely had misconceptions. It's not really a talked about orientation, so I didn't really even know about asexuality until I heard the term in high school, but it was usually paired with words like "nerd" or "freak." I also didn't really understand the differences between sexual orientation and romantic orientation, so I thought since I liked boys and wanted to date them, I must be heterosexual. Honestly, since I grew up with people who didn't know what asexuality is, or didn't believe it was a normal orientation like all the others, I ended up believing boys like sex, and girls don't but pretend to in order to make boys happy. Obviously I was way off base, but I went on believing that in the back of my mind until the end of high school when I realized it wasn't getting better for me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 I used to think asexual meant aromantic as well. I also didn't realise that sexuality was as fluid as it is. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The Wreyck Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 The biggest misconception that I had, which led to much confusion for me, and delay in identification, was aesthetic attraction. I kept thinking that because I admired certain people, areas, positions, some which have sexual context amomg the general public, it meant that I was experiencing sexual attraction. It was a long time before I understood what aesthetic attraction meant. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MadRat Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Yes, I thought asexuals have no libido and don´t masturbate. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
(Deleted) Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 That asexuals were also aromantic? (back then I hadn't even heard of the term aromantic. So I thought it was just about not having any sort of feelings for anyone at all) Probably because of the ignorance and the fact that some people had their opinions at the ready without being educated, which let me to believe something that wasn't true.Another misconception was that I thought all asexuals would be repulsed by the thought of sex. I mean, I am. But only for myself? And at first I thought that meant that I couldn't be a real asexual. Because I could still read about it in books or fics or see it on shows without being bothered, it just wouldn't do anything for me. Just as long as it wasn't the focus point I was fine with it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
eched Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Funny story. I think about 5 years back or so I was on a message board on IMDB and a guy had started a thread about himself being asexual. The guy was actually clearly a troll as his post was full to the brim with offensive ideas(IE. he said that he knew he was ace because he didn't like having sex with his brother. :() Me, being a guy out for a fight called the guy out on trolling. One of my comments was, asexuals don't feel any attraction so you wouldn't want to marry a dog!(once again, massive troll. One of the most messed up threads I've ever responded too.) He responded saying asexuals felt other forms of attraction. He sent a link to an info site on asexuality which actually was legit(it might even have been this site!). I read over it and read about the different forms of attraction REALLY quickly as I wanted to go back and put the guy in his place. When I responded back I said, "going off of that site an asexual could still feel romantic attraction and still be attracted to others. That's such a broad definition that EVEN I could be ace! That's just silly!" :D :D :D :D :D :D So, I guess trolls are good for something. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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