Can someone describe and explain nonbinary genders to me?

[Amatista]

I don't know much about the different types of genders so I'd like to get a better understanding of the gender spectrum. I know there's neutrois, agender, genderfluid, etc but I'm not entirely sure what they mean. & What does it feel like to be non binary?

[Kanenas]

Gender has so many facets. Non-binary means that we acknowledge that there are not only males and females. Concerning biological sex, there's also intersexed people. Concerning gender... Males, females, half and half, uneven mix of this and that, static, fluent, trigender, no gender at all, third sex, fourth sex... And so, so many more. It's basically like sexual orientation - Everything you can imagine exists.

I'll leave it to the folks who identify as agender, neutrois, etc. to give you a bit of a definition of that. There have been very confusing definitions posted by users about identities and they, to be honest, all differed from each other. While not having a gender identity would lead me to use the word agender, I never wholeheartedly agreed with the definitions others made and the experiences and feelings they had and so I don't use that word for me. Then some people argued whether agender and nongender should have the same meaning or not. Repeat for neutrois and neutrum. Genderqueer is much, much better for me personally. But it is an umbrella term and so you, again, never know the details until somebody tells you.

In the trans community, a big discussion is what the difference between transsexuality and transgenderism is. Or if there even is any. Such a discussion is almost never fair and often leads to accusations of internal transphobia and bigotry. My personal stance is that there is a difference indeed, even if I am making myself unpopular with it. And that is that transsexuals seek affirmative surgery. We all know male to female and female to male, but female to neutrum is of course also affirmative. Every transsexual is transgender. But not every transgender is transsexual. Transgender is an umbrella term and denotes anybody whose biological sex and gender do not align. Some people like the pronouns of their biological sex, others like neutral ones, some other ones like those the trans community invented. Some people seek affirmative surgery, some are indifferent to, others repulsed by their anatomy. Those are all personal experiences though and we cannot really speak for each other too much.

My personal experience as someone who is incredibly indifferent to gender is that I have a very diverse and broad range of hobbies and interests, which were always countered with "But you're a girl, you can't do that" or "You're pretty good... For a girl". Most of those people are simply incredibly butthurt and limited in many ways, have a scratch in their ego or a dent in their world view. But it does leave wear and tear after all those years.

it irritates me beyond belief when people reduce me to my anatomy or have expectations based on it. I am not a vagina on two legs, you know. I do not owe anybody to be worse at sports than they are and I do not owe anybody sex, either. It starts with the whole blue for boys, pink for girls crap, assorted toys and hobbies. Many times I had my godmother tell me "You cannot wear that! It's from the men's section, oh my god! People will think you're a crossdresser!" Yeah, am I? My entire wardrobe is from the men's section, simply because I like the fit and simplistic design better and I don't feel like either a clown or a doll wearing what's in the women's section. Quick, call the circus, it has lost me on it's way out of town ;)

[Certified Cake Decorator]

I identify as Neutrois.

I see it more as, not male or female, but not a mix and not without a gender. So it is like a third gender. Sorta if someone used the words Nerd or Pokemon fan to describe their gender. That's how i feel Neutrois is. A mix of not usually gender terms that ARE my gender.

So if football is a male sport, and volleyball is a female sport, i play ping-pong. Does that make sense? Where, it's not neutral, but it is definitely not male or female

[Palovana]

My gender identity is something like "demi-neutrois femme-guy" or whatever. I don't really have a definite term for it because I don't really fit anywhere. I guess you could call me non-binary. For me, it's a sense of "otherness". I'm not a girl or a guy. I don't view myself as being inherently masculine or feminine, though mentally I'm a lot more masculine and people online mistake me for a guy about 90% of the time. My personality is more masculine. I've trained myself to speak with a lower, more resonating tone to make me sound more masculine. I like sports and I like cars. But I also do things that are considered "feminine" - I love makeup, I wear skirts sometimes, and so on. But I'm not "both" and I'm not "a mix of the two". More like, my gender itself is "neither", but the way I express myself is an ambiguous mix of masculine and feminine and it's not really conscious. I never, ever wore makeup to "look feminine" or to attract people; I wore it because I like it and it's an artistic thing that I enjoy. I'd probably still wear makeup had I been born male. Some days I feel more masculine or more feminine, but I still retain this feeling of being "other" or "neither" or "third gender".

[Bronte]

I'm female and have never really felt uncomfortable with being female (other than when others might see me in a sexual way), but mentally I am more masculine and in the way I relate to others. My likes/dislikes are a mix, but not typical of one or the other and I don't feel to be either. I hope this is making sense ..haha.

But really I am just me, and in terms of gender I could say I was non-binary with androgynous appearance.

[Fire & Rain]

I currently identify as agender (I'm a bit fluid, I switch between agender and demigirl) and I have a hard time trying to understand what "gender" is when I feel agender. I don't associate myself with any gender. Agender for me is genderless. I don't feel male or female and when I try to look deep into it gender-wise, I also feel a disconnection with my biological sex (female). I feel like the female genitalia doesn't belong there but I do not want male genitalia either. Ideally, I want to be sexless.

My appearance is stereotypically feminine to other people at this moment although I don't see myself that way. I could say that I'm gender blind too and I don't usually recognize what is masculine or feminine. I just do whatever I like and how I feel inside is what matters the most to me.

Sometimes I feel like I'm a female but not 100%. That's when I identify as demigirl. Demigirl is feeling partially (not wholly) female. If you ask me, I don't know how being a demigirl felt like because I'm agender right now lol It's weird and complicated.

[KokoroKitty]

For me, as an agender person, gender, gender roles, expectations and stereotypes - they all don't make sense to me. It's more than not liking them. I literally don't understand why the husband is expected to be the breadwinner, for example. When kids in the playground went around and asked each girl whether she was a "girly girl" or a "tomboy", I never understood how certain clothing habits and behaviours made you more masculine or feminine, and I still don't. As Phoenix Incarnate said, it's a sense of otherness.

I wear plenty of skirts and dresses, and as an AFAB person (assigned female at birth) most probably see me as a cis girl. However skirts and dresses are simply more comfortable to me than trousers and I categorize clothes only by colour and details, never by "boy's/men's" or "girl's/women's" clothes.

[katbees]

im nb because i although i dont feel any sort of rejection of how i look and of feminine things i dont really get what it is to be a ‘girl’ and whether they are actually things. like obviously im not gonna stop other people identifying as ‘boys’ or ‘girls’ but the idea of you having to be one or the other or even that you have to be something in between them as if they are some sort of extremes is absurd to me. like where did they come from who put those there leave me alone to be a person in peace without any of your preexisting conceptions of who i should be. what the hell are girls and boys.

[Amatista]

Thanks everyone :)