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Did someone notice you might be asexual before you considered it yourself?


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My best online friend noticed actually, which goes to say how smart she is. ^.^ I've known her a few years, becoming friends through WoW. I'd always tell her how I feel about things in my life and when talking about a problem relationship I was in at the time, she suggested asexuality. I looked into it and realized it was the missing part of my puzzle. :)

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a few of my friends brought up the possibility i might be asexual to me before i knew it myself actually if they hadnt said anything i probably still wouldnt know i was asexual and im greatfull that they did as it was thanks to them i looked into it properly and find out i was which was a really uplifting experience for me ^_^

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I've gotten different responses, though many people didn't know much about asexuality, so it was always put into other terms...

I had a friend who at first thought I might be gay, since I didn't really seem to have physical attraction to boys.

I've also had people say that they thought I "just wasn't ready to date" because I wasn't interested in much physicality in relationships.

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nerdperson777

I had to find out myself. I was and still am that odd weird kid in the class with not very many friends. Even then, I wasn't very close to them. According to my friend, the way I act shows that I've obviously been bullied previously so people don't know if what they say will hurt me. No one will ever breach the subject with me. My friend will also never talk about it because we don't talk about so called "awkward" topics. She thinks that when I tell her in the morning there's drool on my face, it's already too TMI. I find that people of my time are a bit lazy in searching for information. I take it as they're not curious enough. I, on the other hand, am way too curious so I will go off looking at articles about anything that interests me or I want to find an answer to. So I don't think very many of my peers know about asexuality.

My mother finds me very tomboyish and I have never dated so she thought I was gay, even though I told her sometime ago that I wasn't. I just see people as people. What else is there? The world is really black and white to me in that sense. I'm just not interested in people in that way.

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butterflydreams

I've gotten different responses, though many people didn't know much about asexuality, so it was always put into other terms...

I had a friend who at first thought I might be gay, since I didn't really seem to have physical attraction to boys.

I've also had people say that they thought I "just wasn't ready to date" because I wasn't interested in much physicality in relationships.

I'm going to have to agree in large part with this. My dad always used to tell me (mostly jokingly I'm sure, but less so over time) that he kind of just assumed I was gay. At least until I gave him reason to think otherwise. Quite a bit different from assuming your kid is straight, but hey, I was always kind of a weird kid. My parents were always super supportive of whatever I did though and whoever I was. Including when I was just starting school and insisted that I get a particular pair of shoes. The fact that these shoes were girls shoes was irrelevant to me. And I rocked them, parental support and all.

Friends never really talked about that kind of thing with me. Sure they knew I was "inexperienced" but in younger days, that could be attributable to any number of things. I was able to pass as straight pretty easily all that time (because I assumed I was, even if I was horrible at it). Now though, I'm older, and I've got a word for it, and I'm tired of passing.

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Maestro's Muse

For me, sort of.

I have always been pretty "meh" when it came to how attractive a person was. Like, I can say whether or not a person is objectively attractive, but it doesn't do anything for me. For example, I can say Taylor Lautner is attractive, but it doesn't register with me as anymore than a "yeah, and?".

As a girl and a young teen, my parents had no problem with this, because hey, I wasn't boy or sex crazed. Within the last year or so, though, my mom thinks it's totally weird. Not that my folks exactly want me to hook up with every guy in sight, but the fact that I don't care whether or not someone is physically attractive. "Sooner or later you're going to have to make a snap judgement based on looks!"

That, and my mom has always said she thinks a lot of gay people are actually asexual, so the word has been in my lexicon and I finally decided to look into it.

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Umm, I discovered asexuality on my own, but once I got here someone suggested I may be aromantic. Despite my knowing the term, I never would have applied it to myself untill untill someone else made me notice who and what I am.

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