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I took the BDSM test, but so many of my responses were neutral due to the context of the questions (referring to sex or a partner) that the results didn't really seem to make any sense. Anybody else find they defaulted to neutral/no answer responses on a lot of the questions?

I did on some stuff, but I pretty much just ignored the sex in the questions. So like if it asked whether I liked to order my partner around during sex, I just answered it for kinky activities in general I.e. I don't want to order anyone around in the bedroom

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I took the BDSM test, but so many of my responses were neutral due to the context of the questions (referring to sex or a partner) that the results didn't really seem to make any sense. Anybody else find they defaulted to neutral/no answer responses on a lot of the questions?

I ignored the sexual part where it was possible. If the gist of the question was 'do you like being tied up' then I answered accordingly.
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96% Bondage Receiver

93% Experimentalist

89% Switch

80% Submissive

77% Primal (Prey)

75% Degradation Receiver

75% Masochist

73% Primal (Predator)

70% Bondage Giver

70% Sadist

70% Slave

66% Dominant

66% Girl/Boy

65% Degradation Giver

65% Master/Mistress

64% Pervert

55% Brat

54% Daddy/Mommy

54% Exhibitionist

54% Non-monogamist

49% All-Rounder

49% Brat Tamer

45% Voyeur

16% Vanilla


Way too much emphasis on sex. The only way I could take the survey at all was to substitute "BDSM activities" for "sex."

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I took this one:http://www.humansexmap.com/showmap.php?mapid=map54bf44ec2cc787.13335883

According to that, it looks like I'm pretty damned boring and tame....as there were very few places I could put pins in any category. However, despite the complexity of the map there was a lot of fantasy-only stuff I had to leave out simply because there was nothing similar enough to mark.

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Wow, I had a lot of catch up on in this forum. Sorry, real life has been hectic, lots of change. (Not that was overly involved in this forum before, but oh well.)

I took the test just to see and

89% Degradation Giver
84% Bondage Giver
82% Brat Tamer
79% Dominant
77% Primal (Predator)
75% Bondage Receiver
71% Daddy/Mommy
66% Master/Mistress
63% Degradation Receiver
60% Primal (Prey)
58% Experimentalist
58% Sadist
55% Masochist
54% Switch
44% Brat
38% Vanilla
36% Voyeur
30% Submissive
25% Girl/Boy
20% Exhibitionist
18% Pervert
11% All-Rounder
8% Slave
0% Non-monogamist

Brat tamer? Never heard of that one. Some surprises, but mostly I kind of figured most of them.

Out of curiousity, am I the only sexual on this forum? I know this is a site for asexuals, but I'm curious if I'm the only one active in this forum.

And for anyone else who was wondering about how someone could be into BDSM and not have it be abuse, speaking from a sadists POV, if I hurt my partner and they didn't want/enjoy it, I'd feel horrible. That's why there are safewords, so that if your partner isn't enjoying themselves, they can tell you to stop.

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Kendra wrote: And for anyone else who was wondering about how someone could be into BDSM and not have it be abuse, speaking from a sadists POV, if I hurt my partner and they didn't want/enjoy it, I'd feel horrible. That's why there are safewords, so that if your partner isn't enjoying themselves, they can tell you to stop.

Any responsible and considerate player, top or bottom, abides by SSC. I don't have very wide experience and I've never played in a personal relationship, but there's a difference between abuse and a consensual agreement to extend or test limits, and nobody I've been with has tried to move me beyond my comfort zone without my consent.

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Feral_Sophisticate
96% Bondage Receiver
93% Experimentalist
89% Switch
80% Submissive
77% Primal (Prey)
75% Degradation Receiver
75% Masochist
73% Primal (Predator)
70% Bondage Giver
70% Sadist
70% Slave
66% Dominant
66% Girl/Boy
65% Degradation Giver
65% Master/Mistress
64% Pervert
55% Brat
54% Daddy/Mommy
54% Exhibitionist
54% Non-monogamist
49% All-Rounder
49% Brat Tamer
45% Voyeur
16% Vanilla
Way too much emphasis on sex. The only way I could take the survey at all was to substitute "BDSM activities" for "sex."

That's totally understandable. In surveys like this, my girl tends to substitute as you do. To her, the kink/fetish stuff is sex.

Wow, I had a lot of catch up on in this forum. Sorry, real life has been hectic, lots of change. (Not that was overly involved in this forum before, but oh well.)

I took the test just to see and

89% Degradation Giver

84% Bondage Giver

82% Brat Tamer

79% Dominant

77% Primal (Predator)

75% Bondage Receiver

71% Daddy/Mommy

66% Master/Mistress

63% Degradation Receiver

60% Primal (Prey)

58% Experimentalist

58% Sadist

55% Masochist

54% Switch

44% Brat

38% Vanilla

36% Voyeur

30% Submissive

25% Girl/Boy

20% Exhibitionist

18% Pervert

11% All-Rounder

8% Slave

0% Non-monogamist

Brat tamer? Never heard of that one. Some surprises, but mostly I kind of figured most of them.

Out of curiousity, am I the only sexual on this forum? I know this is a site for asexuals, but I'm curious if I'm the only one active in this forum.

And for anyone else who was wondering about how someone could be into BDSM and not have it be abuse, speaking from a sadists POV, if I hurt my partner and they didn't want/enjoy it, I'd feel horrible. That's why there are safewords, so that if your partner isn't enjoying themselves, they can tell you to stop.

No, you're not the only one. I'm active here, and am sexual, and in a mixed sexual/asexual relationship.

Brat tamers are the D types who like to engage with the more bratty-type submissive (those that like to fight back, or act out, usually). I enjoy a degree of that, but too much of it becomes tiring quickly.

And I agree 100% with what you say about sadism, though I would like to clarify it from my POV. I'm a nurturing sadist, and I enjoy hurting my girl. Harming her, on the other hand, is not something that I enjoy (and, if it comes to that, I call full stop, even if she hasn't thought to drop the safe word).

And I'll contribute my own BDSM quiz results: https://fetlife.com/users/742603/posts/2708029

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== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==

91% Experimentalist

89% Bondage Giver

84% Switch

80% Girl/Boy

74% Bondage Receiver

70% Dominant

70% Sadist

68% Non-monogamist

67% Primal (Predator)

63% Daddy/Mommy

63% Primal (Prey)

54% Brat Tamer

54% Exhibitionist

54% Master/Mistress

54% Submissive

50% Degradation Giver

45% Brat

45% Slave

43% Masochist

41% Pervert

33% Voyeur

30% All-Rounder

21% Degradation Receiver

20% Vanilla

See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=68028


Ok, well some of that is surprising, but not all :)I'd have thought sadist and bondage receiver would have been a lot lower!

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Omg omg omg! So this might be a little bit TMI for a few, but I had to share with someone! I totally just ordered my first toy from Bad Dragon. Super excited and hopefully it's worth the money I dropped on it. They're supposed to be super high quality, so I'm not that worried, but dang it was expensive.

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Omg omg omg! So this might be a little bit TMI for a few, but I had to share with someone! I totally just ordered my first toy from Bad Dragon. Super excited and hopefully it's worth the money I dropped on it. They're supposed to be super high quality, so I'm not that worried, but dang it was expensive.

Isn't bad dragon the company that makes toys based on sci-fi characters/creatures? I've seen some pictures and they look pretty awesome.

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Never heard of them but I just checked them out and now I want. And yes, they're pretty expensive.

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Omg omg omg! So this might be a little bit TMI for a few, but I had to share with someone! I totally just ordered my first toy from Bad Dragon. Super excited and hopefully it's worth the money I dropped on it. They're supposed to be super high quality, so I'm not that worried, but dang it was expensive.

Isn't bad dragon the company that makes toys based on sci-fi characters/creatures? I've seen some pictures and they look pretty awesome.

Yep, that's them. You can even send in designs to be voted on for their next toy. It's a pretty awesome place to browse.

Never heard of them but I just checked them out and now I want. And yes, they're pretty expensive.

Hell yes they're expensive. Under the "Adoptions" link on their page, you can find their defects that they'll sell at a lower price. That's how I bought mine. I basically saved $12 on the toy (which I ended up having to pay for shipping). Speaking of, their cheapest shipping rate is $12 and some change for 1-5 business days through FedEx. That gave me pause at checkout.

On the plus side, they're really discreet, even your bank statement for the purchase is nondescript.

P.S. These things can be HUGE. Read reviews on size and such if you ever decide to order one.

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Note to self: too autistic for Littles Night. Regressed to nine years old, but nearly melted down from the crowd. Had to pull myself out of it not even an hour in.

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Top 10 Kinkiest Cities in America + a cool infographic at the end: http://www.50skillsofgrey.com/stateoftheunion/page2.html#body

Granted, the link was funded by a porn site (link is mostly SFW, don't worry) and it is pretty much a subtle add for "Kink University's 50 Skills of Grey" (whatever that is... Not sure I want to know), but an entertaining read full of fun facts.

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Um...hi. I'm not certain I fit here, my thing is a little weird...I get, aroused a bit, by writing/imagining, well, torture and/or rape. More torture than rape...

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Everyone fits in here! And just because you imagine those things, doesn't mean you would actually do them or want to be in them. That's what fantasies are for!

I have other thoughts, but I can't organize them right now.

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Um...hi. I'm not certain I fit here, my thing is a little weird...I get, aroused a bit, by writing/imagining, well, torture and/or rape. More torture than rape...

This is the place! Right now, the thread is a mish mash of everyone and everything, but next month, we are up for review to see if we merit our own forum where it would be easier to find others with similar interests.

Anywho, welcome! :cake: Do you have a role in your imaginations (torturer or torturee) or are you more of a third person/watcher?

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Thanks :) It's something I realized really recently. I was writing something for a rp and I noticed it. It wasn't the first time it happened, it was just the first time I made the connection. Curious, I tried to read some similar stories and it didn't do anything for me.


Um, I'm sually the one being tortured or raped.

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Thanks :) It's something I realized really recently. I was writing something for a rp and I noticed it. It wasn't the first time it happened, it was just the first time I made the connection. Curious, I tried to read some similar stories and it didn't do anything for me.

Um, I'm sually the one being tortured or raped.

Your own mine tends to know you better than anyone else's imagination can. My own fantasies tend to be more powerful/erotic to me than any sort of adul fiction... Reminds me of the time I was reading a romance novel and was so distracted by thinking of making a tuna sandwich that I missed an entire sex scene. Lol... Rape fantasies actually aren't that uncommon. I've had one or two myself, but would feel very uncomfortable and would probably safeword out if I actually tried to act it out with a consenting Top. I guess the torture fantasies sort of depend on what you mean by torture... Are we talking flogging/whipping/minor blood loss, mental torture/humiliation, or torture like ripping off fingernails/broken bones/extreme blood loss, or an amalgamation of all or some of these? A lot of vanilla people see most bdsm practices as a type of torture, so it really can get confusin. Lol.
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GwendolynAngel83

vanilla?

Um, well my torture is...rather grafic. It generally tends to involve some sort of nonexistant potion that makes it so a person can't die except from a certain way (generally a dagger to the heart), knives/daggers, poisons, ect.

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vanilla?

Um, well my torture is...rather grafic. It generally tends to involve some sort of nonexistant potion that makes it so a person can't die except from a certain way (generally a dagger to the heart), knives/daggers, poisons, ect.

Interesting. Not that it's intended to be a sexual story but have you ever read the short story "I have no mouth and I shall scream", or some very similar title?

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No I haven't, though I did try to look up some torture/rape stories to see if I got a similar reaction.

My...little stories tend to tie tortue into rape, where they're torturing my charater while they rape them. One of my most common one when I was younger was my character being captured and 4 men had her in a locked/soundproofed room. They draw straws/take turns on other girls, to decide their order. Basically they all rape and torture her. 1st ets a good deal if their victim is a vergin, but they can't do too much torture, the 2nd could do a bit more, the 3rd, more, and the 4th could kill the vicitim. My characters usually ended up dying or being rescued just before they'd be killed.

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Sorry guys, I don't have much to talk about right now... My package came and I've been busy... Yeah... Busy... /////blush/////

ANYWHO, here's a link (sorry, it's on fetlife) to some funny asexual puns: https://fetlife.com/users/1630079/pictures/35332585

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Sorry guys, I don't have much to talk about right now... My package came and I've been busy... Yeah... Busy... /////blush/////

ANYWHO, here's a link (sorry, it's on fetlife) to some funny asexual puns: https://fetlife.com/users/1630079/pictures/35332585

Thanks for the puns and the awesome graphic. Keep up the good...busyness.

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