aliveinwords Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I took the BDSM test, but so many of my responses were neutral due to the context of the questions (referring to sex or a partner) that the results didn't really seem to make any sense. Anybody else find they defaulted to neutral/no answer responses on a lot of the questions? I did on some stuff, but I pretty much just ignored the sex in the questions. So like if it asked whether I liked to order my partner around during sex, I just answered it for kinky activities in general I.e. I don't want to order anyone around in the bedroom Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 20, 2015 Author Share Posted January 20, 2015 I took the BDSM test, but so many of my responses were neutral due to the context of the questions (referring to sex or a partner) that the results didn't really seem to make any sense. Anybody else find they defaulted to neutral/no answer responses on a lot of the questions?I ignored the sexual part where it was possible. If the gist of the question was 'do you like being tied up' then I answered accordingly. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eva Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 96% Bondage Receiver 93% Experimentalist 89% Switch 80% Submissive 77% Primal (Prey) 75% Degradation Receiver 75% Masochist 73% Primal (Predator) 70% Bondage Giver 70% Sadist 70% Slave 66% Dominant 66% Girl/Boy 65% Degradation Giver 65% Master/Mistress 64% Pervert 55% Brat 54% Daddy/Mommy 54% Exhibitionist 54% Non-monogamist 49% All-Rounder 49% Brat Tamer 45% Voyeur 16% Vanilla Way too much emphasis on sex. The only way I could take the survey at all was to substitute "BDSM activities" for "sex." 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Schrecken Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 I took this one:http://www.humansexmap.com/showmap.php?mapid=map54bf44ec2cc787.13335883 According to that, it looks like I'm pretty damned boring and tame....as there were very few places I could put pins in any category. However, despite the complexity of the map there was a lot of fantasy-only stuff I had to leave out simply because there was nothing similar enough to mark. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KendraPM Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 Wow, I had a lot of catch up on in this forum. Sorry, real life has been hectic, lots of change. (Not that was overly involved in this forum before, but oh well.) I took the test just to see and 89% Degradation Giver84% Bondage Giver82% Brat Tamer79% Dominant77% Primal (Predator)75% Bondage Receiver71% Daddy/Mommy66% Master/Mistress63% Degradation Receiver60% Primal (Prey)58% Experimentalist58% Sadist55% Masochist54% Switch44% Brat38% Vanilla36% Voyeur30% Submissive25% Girl/Boy20% Exhibitionist18% Pervert11% All-Rounder8% Slave0% Non-monogamist Brat tamer? Never heard of that one. Some surprises, but mostly I kind of figured most of them. Out of curiousity, am I the only sexual on this forum? I know this is a site for asexuals, but I'm curious if I'm the only one active in this forum. And for anyone else who was wondering about how someone could be into BDSM and not have it be abuse, speaking from a sadists POV, if I hurt my partner and they didn't want/enjoy it, I'd feel horrible. That's why there are safewords, so that if your partner isn't enjoying themselves, they can tell you to stop. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RoninA Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 Kendra wrote: And for anyone else who was wondering about how someone could be into BDSM and not have it be abuse, speaking from a sadists POV, if I hurt my partner and they didn't want/enjoy it, I'd feel horrible. That's why there are safewords, so that if your partner isn't enjoying themselves, they can tell you to stop. Any responsible and considerate player, top or bottom, abides by SSC. I don't have very wide experience and I've never played in a personal relationship, but there's a difference between abuse and a consensual agreement to extend or test limits, and nobody I've been with has tried to move me beyond my comfort zone without my consent. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Feral_Sophisticate Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 96% Bondage Receiver 93% Experimentalist 89% Switch 80% Submissive 77% Primal (Prey) 75% Degradation Receiver 75% Masochist 73% Primal (Predator) 70% Bondage Giver 70% Sadist 70% Slave 66% Dominant 66% Girl/Boy 65% Degradation Giver 65% Master/Mistress 64% Pervert 55% Brat 54% Daddy/Mommy 54% Exhibitionist 54% Non-monogamist 49% All-Rounder 49% Brat Tamer 45% Voyeur 16% Vanilla Way too much emphasis on sex. The only way I could take the survey at all was to substitute "BDSM activities" for "sex." That's totally understandable. In surveys like this, my girl tends to substitute as you do. To her, the kink/fetish stuff is sex. Wow, I had a lot of catch up on in this forum. Sorry, real life has been hectic, lots of change. (Not that was overly involved in this forum before, but oh well.) I took the test just to see and 89% Degradation Giver 84% Bondage Giver 82% Brat Tamer 79% Dominant 77% Primal (Predator) 75% Bondage Receiver 71% Daddy/Mommy 66% Master/Mistress 63% Degradation Receiver 60% Primal (Prey) 58% Experimentalist 58% Sadist 55% Masochist 54% Switch 44% Brat 38% Vanilla 36% Voyeur 30% Submissive 25% Girl/Boy 20% Exhibitionist 18% Pervert 11% All-Rounder 8% Slave 0% Non-monogamist Brat tamer? Never heard of that one. Some surprises, but mostly I kind of figured most of them. Out of curiousity, am I the only sexual on this forum? I know this is a site for asexuals, but I'm curious if I'm the only one active in this forum. And for anyone else who was wondering about how someone could be into BDSM and not have it be abuse, speaking from a sadists POV, if I hurt my partner and they didn't want/enjoy it, I'd feel horrible. That's why there are safewords, so that if your partner isn't enjoying themselves, they can tell you to stop. No, you're not the only one. I'm active here, and am sexual, and in a mixed sexual/asexual relationship. Brat tamers are the D types who like to engage with the more bratty-type submissive (those that like to fight back, or act out, usually). I enjoy a degree of that, but too much of it becomes tiring quickly. And I agree 100% with what you say about sadism, though I would like to clarify it from my POV. I'm a nurturing sadist, and I enjoy hurting my girl. Harming her, on the other hand, is not something that I enjoy (and, if it comes to that, I call full stop, even if she hasn't thought to drop the safe word). And I'll contribute my own BDSM quiz results: https://fetlife.com/users/742603/posts/2708029 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tessc Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 == Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ == 91% Experimentalist 89% Bondage Giver 84% Switch 80% Girl/Boy 74% Bondage Receiver 70% Dominant 70% Sadist 68% Non-monogamist 67% Primal (Predator) 63% Daddy/Mommy 63% Primal (Prey) 54% Brat Tamer 54% Exhibitionist 54% Master/Mistress 54% Submissive 50% Degradation Giver 45% Brat 45% Slave 43% Masochist 41% Pervert 33% Voyeur 30% All-Rounder 21% Degradation Receiver 20% Vanilla See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=68028 Ok, well some of that is surprising, but not all :)I'd have thought sadist and bondage receiver would have been a lot lower! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 23, 2015 Author Share Posted January 23, 2015 Omg omg omg! So this might be a little bit TMI for a few, but I had to share with someone! I totally just ordered my first toy from Bad Dragon. Super excited and hopefully it's worth the money I dropped on it. They're supposed to be super high quality, so I'm not that worried, but dang it was expensive. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
aliveinwords Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 Omg omg omg! So this might be a little bit TMI for a few, but I had to share with someone! I totally just ordered my first toy from Bad Dragon. Super excited and hopefully it's worth the money I dropped on it. They're supposed to be super high quality, so I'm not that worried, but dang it was expensive. Isn't bad dragon the company that makes toys based on sci-fi characters/creatures? I've seen some pictures and they look pretty awesome. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eva Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 Never heard of them but I just checked them out and now I want. And yes, they're pretty expensive. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Lauren+Bear Posted January 23, 2015 Author Share Posted January 23, 2015 Omg omg omg! So this might be a little bit TMI for a few, but I had to share with someone! I totally just ordered my first toy from Bad Dragon. Super excited and hopefully it's worth the money I dropped on it. They're supposed to be super high quality, so I'm not that worried, but dang it was expensive. Isn't bad dragon the company that makes toys based on sci-fi characters/creatures? I've seen some pictures and they look pretty awesome. Yep, that's them. You can even send in designs to be voted on for their next toy. It's a pretty awesome place to browse. Never heard of them but I just checked them out and now I want. And yes, they're pretty expensive.Hell yes they're expensive. Under the "Adoptions" link on their page, you can find their defects that they'll sell at a lower price. That's how I bought mine. I basically saved $12 on the toy (which I ended up having to pay for shipping). Speaking of, their cheapest shipping rate is $12 and some change for 1-5 business days through FedEx. That gave me pause at checkout. On the plus side, they're really discreet, even your bank statement for the purchase is nondescript. P.S. These things can be HUGE. Read reviews on size and such if you ever decide to order one. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 24, 2015 Author Share Posted January 24, 2015 Note to self: too autistic for Littles Night. Regressed to nine years old, but nearly melted down from the crowd. Had to pull myself out of it not even an hour in. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Lauren+Bear Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 Top 10 Kinkiest Cities in America + a cool infographic at the end: http://www.50skillsofgrey.com/stateoftheunion/page2.html#body Granted, the link was funded by a porn site (link is mostly SFW, don't worry) and it is pretty much a subtle add for "Kink University's 50 Skills of Grey" (whatever that is... Not sure I want to know), but an entertaining read full of fun facts. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 EDIT!!! Here is a link to PAGE1 of the Top 10... Blah blah blah....: http://www.50skillsofgrey.com/stateoftheunion/index.html Sorry! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GwendolynAngel83 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Um...hi. I'm not certain I fit here, my thing is a little weird...I get, aroused a bit, by writing/imagining, well, torture and/or rape. More torture than rape... 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
aliveinwords Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Everyone fits in here! And just because you imagine those things, doesn't mean you would actually do them or want to be in them. That's what fantasies are for! I have other thoughts, but I can't organize them right now. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 Um...hi. I'm not certain I fit here, my thing is a little weird...I get, aroused a bit, by writing/imagining, well, torture and/or rape. More torture than rape...This is the place! Right now, the thread is a mish mash of everyone and everything, but next month, we are up for review to see if we merit our own forum where it would be easier to find others with similar interests. Anywho, welcome! Do you have a role in your imaginations (torturer or torturee) or are you more of a third person/watcher? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GwendolynAngel83 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Thanks :) It's something I realized really recently. I was writing something for a rp and I noticed it. It wasn't the first time it happened, it was just the first time I made the connection. Curious, I tried to read some similar stories and it didn't do anything for me. Um, I'm sually the one being tortured or raped. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 28, 2015 Author Share Posted January 28, 2015 Thanks :) It's something I realized really recently. I was writing something for a rp and I noticed it. It wasn't the first time it happened, it was just the first time I made the connection. Curious, I tried to read some similar stories and it didn't do anything for me. Um, I'm sually the one being tortured or raped. Your own mine tends to know you better than anyone else's imagination can. My own fantasies tend to be more powerful/erotic to me than any sort of adul fiction... Reminds me of the time I was reading a romance novel and was so distracted by thinking of making a tuna sandwich that I missed an entire sex scene. Lol... Rape fantasies actually aren't that uncommon. I've had one or two myself, but would feel very uncomfortable and would probably safeword out if I actually tried to act it out with a consenting Top. I guess the torture fantasies sort of depend on what you mean by torture... Are we talking flogging/whipping/minor blood loss, mental torture/humiliation, or torture like ripping off fingernails/broken bones/extreme blood loss, or an amalgamation of all or some of these? A lot of vanilla people see most bdsm practices as a type of torture, so it really can get confusin. Lol. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GwendolynAngel83 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 vanilla? Um, well my torture is...rather grafic. It generally tends to involve some sort of nonexistant potion that makes it so a person can't die except from a certain way (generally a dagger to the heart), knives/daggers, poisons, ect. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GwendolynAngel83 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 so, acting them out is kind of...a bad idea XD Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lycanrising Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 vanilla? Um, well my torture is...rather grafic. It generally tends to involve some sort of nonexistant potion that makes it so a person can't die except from a certain way (generally a dagger to the heart), knives/daggers, poisons, ect. Interesting. Not that it's intended to be a sexual story but have you ever read the short story "I have no mouth and I shall scream", or some very similar title? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GwendolynAngel83 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 No I haven't, though I did try to look up some torture/rape stories to see if I got a similar reaction. My...little stories tend to tie tortue into rape, where they're torturing my charater while they rape them. One of my most common one when I was younger was my character being captured and 4 men had her in a locked/soundproofed room. They draw straws/take turns on other girls, to decide their order. Basically they all rape and torture her. 1st ets a good deal if their victim is a vergin, but they can't do too much torture, the 2nd could do a bit more, the 3rd, more, and the 4th could kill the vicitim. My characters usually ended up dying or being rescued just before they'd be killed. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 Hey guys! For anyone interested, I found a great deal on decent quality hemp rope on etsy. You can even get it dyed any color you want. https://www.etsy.com/listing/186662740/custom-length-color-hemp-rope-shibari?ref=fp_item&aref=27152154933 And I finally broke my hematite ace ring... So was thinking of getting this as my new one: https://www.etsy.com/listing/217891310/tibetan-gemstone-ring-boho-white-metal?ref=favs_view_6 And I NEED these: https://www.etsy.com/listing/206134101/white-dragon-skin-black-claw-gauntlets?ref=favs_view_23 Sorry, I'm a bit of an etsy addict. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GwendolynAngel83 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 That ring is gorgeous! and those gloves are pretty cool :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lauren+Bear Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 Sorry guys, I don't have much to talk about right now... My package came and I've been busy... Yeah... Busy... /////blush///// ANYWHO, here's a link (sorry, it's on fetlife) to some funny asexual puns: https://fetlife.com/users/1630079/pictures/35332585 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eva Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Sorry guys, I don't have much to talk about right now... My package came and I've been busy... Yeah... Busy... /////blush///// ANYWHO, here's a link (sorry, it's on fetlife) to some funny asexual puns: https://fetlife.com/users/1630079/pictures/35332585 Thanks for the puns and the awesome graphic. Keep up the good...busyness. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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