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Serran
3 hours ago, BumbleBri said:

By the way, I'm bumbly-bee on fetlife. We had so much fun! I got tied for the first time and I got suspended 😍 there were so many things to try! I really liked the wax, and they had a table with violet wands and a bunch of furniture and cupping... We think we're going to go again sometime :3

Glad you had fun! :)

 

The parties are a good way to learn and meet people who can teach you. 

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Copal_0
On 11/5/2017 at 4:14 PM, Arthur/Artie said:

I do... My girlfriend and I both do (both asexual)... She likes being tickled and tickling me, and I quite enjoy her holding me down while she does it... Add to the fact that we're both ageplayers, and we're domestic kink bliss... I mean full on littles here... I have a big dollhouse and she has littlest pet shop, and we play with them every time we're together... We also each have a pacifier, and often take turns "babying" each other when we're not playing together... Nothing sexual about any of it.

That does sound really amazing!

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lobisomem

I have a thing for tentacles. I don't mean animals, but monsters like the Kraken or some Lovecraftian one that is able to give consent. I'm not sure if it's sexual. I wouldn't like being wrapped in tentacles and get pleasured, I just would like to be wrapped in tentacles, period. It's the same for bondage. I like the idea of being immobilized and having the person doing whatever they want with me, but not in a sexual way. I actually get more gratification seeing someone else wrapped in tentacles (or ropes), but it's not sexual either. It's... aesthetic, I think?

 

I would very much like to be at someone's mercy with no sex involved, but I can't think of a way to do that without spanking and humiliation, which are both very hard nos for me. Related to that, I would like to have someone to take care of me. Not babying, more like roleplaying, I guess? And it's more emotional than physical - a "I've just gone through a trauma and I need comfort" type of thing.

 

Idk, these are just things I'm into non-sexually.

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Jabitw

👀

 

Very interested in BDSM and some branches of urophilia, also exploring some other fetishes (including some where I seem to be the only person with them) but repulsed by a lot of considerably more “vanilla” sexual practices. Thought I’d say hi. 👋. 

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manicmanner

Question: how do people deal with being asexual in the public scene? I'm a relatively active member in my local community and although I'm listed as asexual on fetlife, many folks don't realize I'm ace and I have a hard time with wanting to tell them. But sometimes I want to address it when an assumption about my sexual/play practices comes up. Should I bother coming out to people or is it more trouble than it's worth.

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