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I'm into vorephilia. Although it's a very uncommon type of vore. (Also, vore has zero to do with cannibalism, that is a different fetish. So don't make assumptions)

 

This fetish grays in with a few others like possession/mind control, absorbtion etc.

 

I also know why I have this fetish(s). I find the psychology intriguing around it. 

 

As for others, I don't know anyone, but I do know what's out there. Tis a vast ocean.

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All the guys I'm in touch with are not asexual but share the same kinks with me. It sometimes bothers me that the things we do together are seen as sexual to them because they aren't to me. How common do you think fetish play is in the asexual community.?

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I've heard it's actually very common, particularly BDSM, I'm not into it so I don't know a lot about it, but I've seen questions about it on various forums and I heard of some groups but that's as much as I know.

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I'm wearing some kind of a harness today. my bf had the idea and I agreed xD he even placed some part of it on my thigh so I could carry a knife there.

he definitely enjoys dressing me up as the futuristic soldier. :lol:

 

Oh but I have mentioned it that I have a thing for guns, gas masks, respirators and knives?

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5 hours ago, alpha decay said:

I'm wearing some kind of a harness today. my bf had the idea and I agreed xD he even placed some part of it on my thigh so I could carry a knife there.

he definitely enjoys dressing me up as the futuristic soldier. :lol:

 

Oh but I have mentioned it that I have a thing for guns, gas masks, respirators and knives?

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look what i found on etsy and each for only like $40-ish

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4 hours ago, Peachyy said:
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look what i found on etsy and each for only like $40-ish

they are absolutely awesome *.*

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On 17/06/2017 at 2:24 AM, Maou-sama said:

I'm into vorephilia. Although it's a very uncommon type of vore. (Also, vore has zero to do with cannibalism, that is a different fetish. So don't make assumptions)

 

This fetish grays in with a few others like possession/mind control, absorbtion etc.

 

I also know why I have this fetish(s). I find the psychology intriguing around it. 

 

As for others, I don't know anyone, but I do know what's out there. Tis a vast ocean.

I'm a vorarephile too, I want to consume life-essence, ceIIs, and genetic code through body fluids :wub:

 

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look what i found on etsy and each for only like $40-ish

Might have to get me some of those, they'd look great with my ample bust :ph34r:

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On 16.6.2017 at 2:42 PM, Riddley said:

So we all know about sadism-masochism which are most talked or known about.What are some of the bizarre fetishes you experience/have heard or known someone to have?? Though I am an asexual and don't like being touched , I would like to know about it so kindly share and enlighten.

I know (not personally) some people who are attracted to being cross-eyed and to medical casts. I have no idea why. 

 

I also have some fetishes that are really weird. Like seriously weird. Not weird in the sense like enjoy-ripping-the-flesh-of-people, but things were you just ask yourself "how in ANY WAY is this sexual????". But I won't say these ones openly xD 

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12 hours ago, Kelpie said:

I know (not personally) some people who are attracted to being cross-eyed and to medical casts. I have no idea why. 

 

I also have some fetishes that are really weird. Like seriously weird. Not weird in the sense like enjoy-ripping-the-flesh-of-people, but things were you just ask yourself "how in ANY WAY is this sexual????". But I won't say these ones openly xD 

I met someone here once who had a fetish for people sneezing their brains out their noses (he'd draw pictures of it happening for him to 'enjoy', ehe) ..I love the random fetishes you could never think people would actually get off on, those are the best ones to learn about :D :cake:

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This really makes me wonder how exactly some fetishes develop. I can make educated guesses about a few turn-ons for me but others are just completely weird. 

Would be really interesting if one day they could find out a definitive answer. 

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4 hours ago, Kelpie said:

This really makes me wonder how exactly some fetishes develop. I can make educated guesses about a few turn-ons for me but others are just completely weird. 

Would be really interesting if one day they could find out a definitive answer. 

 

-WARNING this might be a bit TMI for some as it's a little strange!-

 

Actually I wonder the same! I grew up in a small village without much TV for many of my early years, and i read a lot of children's fantasy (ie Narnia) and spent my time drawing and adventuring in the forest etc. I never had much interest in 'boys' and didn't have sex or a boyfriend until I was 18. I hated sex but kept having it because I thought it's what I had to do to be 'normal' and to keep my partner happy - never once enjoyed it or wanted it for my own pleasure and only ever had vanilla sex. Fastforward to 2013 and i discovered asexuality.. I couldn't believe it was possible that I could be in a loving, romantic relationship without any need for or expectation of sex if I got an ace partner! I was so happy that I cried lol. Anyway what's weird is, once I embraced this amazingly positive 'sexlessness' I slowly began to discover that I have really extreme sexual/intimate cravings that go beyond a genital or bodily desire for any normal sexual connection. Mainly to consume the body (especially sexual) fluids of another person, to consume them alive through their fluids and so have their cells integrate into my body through my stomach, the ultimate act of love and ownership. I can't really imagine a deeper or closer form of romantic intimacy. There are other extreme fetishes I'm into as well, which I won't mention because I don't want to get too freaky haha, but they all bring varying levels of sexual and intimate pleasure for me which is why I dont ID as asexual anymore. I've been celibate for 6 years now so sadly haven't actually been able to experience this with anyone important to me yet, but what I'm getting at is that I have absolutely no idea how something so strange developed devoid of any remotely sexual leanings growing up. I have read that fetishes spring from subconscious roots that developed in childhood, but my childhood was so free from any 'influences' like tv or grown-up books or people who could have influenced me, I just don't know! It's very interesting to think about though :):cake:

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On ‎6‎/‎16‎/‎2017 at 8:42 AM, Riddley said:

So we all know about sadism-masochism which are most talked or known about.What are some of the bizarre fetishes you experience/have heard or known someone to have?? Though I am an asexual and don't like being touched , I would like to know about it so kindly share and enlighten.

I know gainer/feederism can be seen as a weird fetish/lifestyle.

 

On ‎6‎/‎16‎/‎2017 at 10:24 AM, Maou-sama said:

I'm into vorephilia. Although it's a very uncommon type of vore. (Also, vore has zero to do with cannibalism, that is a different fetish. So don't make assumptions)

 

This fetish grays in with a few others like possession/mind control, absorbtion etc.

 

I also know why I have this fetish(s). I find the psychology intriguing around it. 

 

As for others, I don't know anyone, but I do know what's out there. Tis a vast ocean.

A lot of people in the weight-gain/feederism/furry communities are into vore. Me included.

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5 hours ago, TheFatDrake said:

A lot of people in the weight-gain/feederism/furry communities are into vore. Me included. 

 I think Maou meant that the type of vore they are into is quite uncommon! I also haven't met anyone else with my type of vore (a desire to have my lover literally inside me through integrating their cells into my body through my stomach) but vore is one of those things that comes in so many different shapes and sizes (like most fetishes I guess!) that many vorarephiles I've met have vore-desires I've never encountered before :) I watched a documentary about female gainers and their male feeders once, very interesting! I'd love to be loved and worshipped unconditionally forever like that - though without the weight gain as that's not something I personally desire :3 

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1 hour ago, FictoVore. said:

 I think Maou meant that the type of vore they are into is quite uncommon! I also haven't met anyone else with my type of vore (a desire to have my lover literally inside me through integrating their cells into my body through my stomach) but vore is one of those things that comes in so many different shapes and sizes (like most fetishes I guess!) that many vorarephiles I've met have vore-desires I've never encountered before :) I watched a documentary about female gainers and their male feeders once, very interesting! I'd love to be loved and worshipped unconditionally forever like that - though without the weight gain as that's not something I personally desire :3 

That's beautiful in a way to have part of your lover literally become part of your body. When you described it before elsewhere I just thought of the, "ick" factor because I'm disgusted by bodily fluids. 

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*Tries to slip in quietly/ INCONSPICUOUSLY  :ph34r:*

 

I was thinking..... I'm switch- that makes sense to me.

I wouldn't be afraid to take someone's pain and it could potentially turn me on... 

but beyond slight things like lip biting or light things I wouldn't want to inflict pain to my partner/ I would be too paranoid of hurting them so I wouldn't enjoy it..... so it'd make me an ineffective/bad sadist lmao....

 

...😅:ph34r:

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3 hours ago, m4rble said:

That's beautiful in a way to have part of your lover literally become part of your body. When you described it before elsewhere I just thought of the, "ick" factor because I'm disgusted by bodily fluids. 

Hah yes, I should have explained better previously. The very reason I have that fetish to consume body fluids is because of the deep, almost incomparable intimacy of literally having that person become a part of me as their cells assimilate into me through my stomach. That person is literally becoming alive inside of me (because their cells are still living when they enter me). TMI - that's why semen is, to me, the most sacred fluid. It doesn't just contain the other person's cells, but the literal material to create future generations of humans on earth.. millions of potential people that one person could have created, all containing his DNA. Not just the life essence of the person he currently is, but also the life essences of genetic lines that would have continued hundreds of years into the future. And as the receiver of that fluid, all of that is becoming a part of me. And all this without actually hurting or damaging the person the way you would if you truly cannibalized them. They're still alive and living, while also living inside you. To me personally, that's the ultimate act of love and intimacy :) :cake:

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Got a full femboyist/furry tail, female roleplay, collar and leash pet play for me for activities with the boyfriend, its usually quite central for romantic development and arousal.  Quite different between online yiff porn/alternate virtual reality thing I have going with a fictional escorting business catering to all fetishes.  The kinks, fetishes and porn preference of others are astounding and varied.

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I'll be honest I haven't read all of this topic I just clicked the test as I find them fun.

 

Well, I got 100% exhibitionist and 100% voyeur which I'm a little surprised by but hey ho xD

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9 hours ago, RainbowKisses said:

I'll be honest I haven't read all of this topic I just clicked the test as I find them fun.

 

Well, I got 100% exhibitionist and 100% voyeur which I'm a little surprised by but hey ho xD

I didn't like that test, it gave me something like 15% non-monogamous which is just ridiculous! One of my biggest fetishes *is* total, endless, complete monogamy haha. The test didn't seem to think monogamy could be a fetish or a turn-on though :P I probably was taking it way too seriously when I got all offended by the results heh.

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I didn't really see many questions even relating to monogamy, (i think there was maybe one? and i noticed some questions seemed to be repeated) so I think the results maybe make assumptions based on your other answers so not very accurate, but it killed a few minutes :D

 

 

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I got 0% non-monogamous and this is actually accurate, same as being 100% switch :o

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Hello, all.  It's great that I have found a forum that would allow me to talk about BDSM plus ace.

 

For me, I like the control and pain components of BDSM (i.e. BD and SM) but not the dominance-submissive power exchange.  It is just to satisfy my emotional need for being physically controlled and exerted physical pain.  I love the sense of helplessness when being restraint, the formal ritual involved in the disciplinary processes, and the excitement comes from the pain during SM.   Being psychological submissive or dominant in face of others, on the other hand, is a definite TURN-OFF for me.

 

However, I am not attracted to the person no matter emotionally or sexually.  I would consider the other(s) within the BDSM scene as play partners, and we are there to seek for the things that give us psychological satisfaction.  I don’t WANT to be sexually involved with my play partners, and I cannot make sense why BDSM is associated with sex at all.  (This is very personal, I think.)  For me, it is just a physical experience, just like sport or something else.

 

Again, nice to speak to you all!

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I love BDSM for the sensation of it! I'm a playful masochist; if I'm not having fun then I don't see much point in continuing the activity. I also love me a sadist with a great sense of humor! Most scenes I finish with someone are with a hearty laugh and a hand shake of thanks. I don't require any of that emotional aftercare crap (I'm rather repulsed by that).

 

The next heavy scene I'm planing with someone will be fun! I'll be suspended by flesh hooks and then whipped by single-tales (maybe only two people) until I bleed. Then I'll be lowered and the hooks removed. I have whips that I am blood-bonded with (everyone asks), so it's safe. I'm very excited about it!

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so... idk i feel awkward just saying this aloud but i have read a lot of smutty fanfic trying to feel something (back when i thought i was just broken)... nothing ever did it for me, and in fact just trying to imagine myself in the smut was enough to make me gag almost, but then i found bondage/orgasm denial fics and i felt... well, not a lot, but a little bit? ugh i feel really awkward talking about this... tl;dr sex is gross but i could totally see myself tying someone up and yeah...

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I've been really frustrated over everything recently, and did the BDSM test just for the sake of having something to do. The results were interesting and got me thinking of a few things.

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== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
74% Switch
60% Vanilla
55% Non-monogamist
55% Submissive
49% Dominant
44% Rigger
42% Daddy/Mommy
41% Master/Mistress
40% Masochist
38% Rope bunny
38% Brat
37% Sadist
36% Experimentalist
30% Primal (Hunter)
29% Voyeur
21% Exhibitionist
20% Pet
7% Slave
6% Primal (Prey)
4% Boy/Girl
1% Owner
1% Ageplayer
0% Degradee
0% Degrader
http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=5139622

 

I'm not surprised at how vanilla I am, but the "switch" got me thinking. It fits me so well that I think the percentage really should be even higher. And it fits everything about me in relationships: I like having clear, strong roles but they must be interchangeable. One day I want to be the one taking care of my partner, the next day I'll be the one being looked after in all things. I am highly sensual, and sometimes prefer being the more active partner and sometimes more passive. I am almost obsessed with being 100% in control of everything that is happening in my life and in every situation I end up in, but find it horribly stressful at the same time (as I do not have the self-confidence to believe that me being in control in all things is a good idea). The idea of holding someone down is intriguing, but so is the idea of being held down myself (as long as there is strong enough trust in my partner). I don't want to hurt anyone or be hurt in a intimate context, but have to admit that I do love the way skin tingles after a good slap. I guess that's where the 40% masochist comes from... But the 0% degradee and degrader I completely understand, as any kind of humiliation on anyone's part is pretty much the worst thing I can imagine in anything.

 

Now if I just had a partner I could explore things with... I'm starting to think I'm a sort of a demi-everything, needing a really strong bond to do anything that is intimate in any way. Playing with power and trust is definitely something I couldn't even try with someone I'm not in a relationship with.

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On 6/16/2017 at 8:42 AM, Riddley said:

So we all know about sadism-masochism which are most talked or known about.What are some of the bizarre fetishes you experience/have heard or known someone to have?? Though I am an asexual and don't like being touched , I would like to know about it so kindly share and enlighten.

Some people don't like what is typically considered play (the crops, floggers and whips most people think of when you say sadism or masochism, although it can get real creative) but a lot of people are into the power plays, just Master/slave or Dominant /submissive. They may, touch and they may not, because it is about the submission and service between the two. I love a good healthy power exchange relationship. 

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