IvoryStardust Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 3 hours ago, Serran said: One thing with fetlife, is, it can be rather explicit. So, it might not be the best place for people who may be a little 3 hours ago, Serran said: Fet is a good source, but it can be quite explicit, you do have a very valid point there. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ChillaKilla Posted May 9, 2017 Share Posted May 9, 2017 Kind of a funny story regarding kink/fetish that occurred not an hour ago I had gone to TJ Maxx (it's a discount store, they take overstock/damages/old product other stores have phased out and sell em for cheap) and bought $15 worth of skincare stuff (don't judge okay) and I had this text exchange with my friend about the whole thing: Me: "how do I stop treating myself" Her: "?? imagine that the vice of gluttony is slowly consuming you whole like a jawless worm?" Me: "that's my kink" Her: "dude wtf " I was only partially joking. Never try to frame being devoured alive as a bad thing to a vorarephile! 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelpie Posted May 9, 2017 Share Posted May 9, 2017 I love joking about having a kink and than actually having that one. Whispering to myself they'll never know. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ptxsigma Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 Hi y'all. I definitely identify with the fetishist part. Omorashi's my kink, but I've only ever explored it in fantasy (aka porn videos or omorashi.org). Never seen it happen irl, and I don't know if I would want to. Also, I'm still trying to figure out what asexual term fits me the best. Right now I'm up between graysexual, demisexual or self-sexual, but I've also been flip flopping lately. With me, my mind wants sex eventually, but I've never had a physical desire to have sex with another person, and I don't know if that will ever change or not. But then again, I don't know if I want to find a partner into omorashi. Idk, it's sorta *my* thing, always has been. Anyway thanks for listening 👍🏼 👍🏼 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 37 minutes ago, Mystery828 said: Hi y'all. I definitely identify with the fetishist part. Omorashi's my kink, but I've only ever explored it in fantasy (aka porn videos or omorashi.org). Never seen it happen irl, and I don't know if I would want to. Also, I'm still trying to figure out what asexual term fits me the best. Right now I'm up between graysexual, demisexual or self-sexual, but I've also been flip flopping lately. With me, my mind wants sex eventually, but I've never had a physical desire to have sex with another person, and I don't know if that will ever change or not. But then again, I don't know if I want to find a partner into omorashi. Idk, it's sorta *my* thing, always has been. Anyway thanks for listening 👍🏼 👍🏼 Welcome! Urine for a good time here then! (sorry that was awful). It often happens that a person can have a kink but not want others to partake in it, so if you do feel like you aren't comfortable with it, then you shouldn't feel pressured to do it with anyone! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ptxsigma Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 13 minutes ago, Ricchan said: Welcome! Urine for a good time here then! (sorry that was awful). It often happens that a person can have a kink but not want others to partake in it, so if you do feel like you aren't comfortable with it, then you shouldn't feel pressured to do it with anyone! Fucking hell 😂😂😂 but yeah. Also need to keep reminding myself that sexuality is fluid, that whatever identity I give myself now, it could 100% change. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted May 11, 2017 Share Posted May 11, 2017 19 minutes ago, Mystery828 said: Fucking hell 😂😂😂 but yeah. Also need to keep reminding myself that sexuality is fluid, that whatever identity I give myself now, it could 100% change. Indeed! Never be scared that you might not feel the way you do now! Easier said than done, but sounds like you have your shit together 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
urcute08 Posted May 15, 2017 Share Posted May 15, 2017 On 5/1/2017 at 2:16 AM, Serran said: Are you looking for a resource that doesn't go into sexual details? Doesn't have nudity? Or just will only teach you the casual BDSM, without going into more extreme scenarios? If we knew what exactly you were trying to avoid, we may be able to more easily provide resources that match what you're seeking. Casual - yes, nudity - only drawn, not animated or photos/videos, sexual details - not really. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzy_Bee Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 I am interested in BDSM, though it's more for the clothes to be honest. In fact I'm into a lot of things just for the fashion. I do find the BDSM lifestyle very intriguing and interesting. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Just Me! Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Hello! So relieved to find this thread- I thought I was the only one! I'm into bondage, dom/sub, roleplay, and sadomasochism from an emotional rather than sexual perspective, and might have a few other fetishes people are better off not knowing about 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 3 hours ago, Just Me, Myself and I said: Hello! So relieved to find this thread- I thought I was the only one! I'm into bondage, dom/sub, roleplay, and sadomasochism from an emotional rather than sexual perspective, and might have a few other fetishes people are better off not knowing about Welcome and enjoy the... specialised cake Spoiler Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nonAlloyed Posted May 24, 2017 Share Posted May 24, 2017 Hi. This is my first time making an account/posting on one of the AVEN forums even though I've been scrolling through them since i was in middle school. It makes me really happy and inspired to read from other people who are ace identifying and do things in the BDSM community. I have some questions that I dont know how to address and I just wanted to see if anyone has had similar experiences or any advice for me. So I am a person who, up until very recently, identifies as a panromantic asexual (i may very well be a demisexual). I recently started dating this non-binary beauty who is the love of my life and we share many things with each other. They were my first kiss as well as as the first and only person I've had sex with (it was/is terrifying XD but its also fun and I like it that way). Prior to this, we both knew each others' kinks to a large degree: I have been interested in topping/domming and mild sadism since i stumbled across it in my early internet browsing days. They have much more experience than I do in both having vanilla sex and doing BDSM stuff and are really into being a sub and intense masochism. A few weeks ago we actually started doing D/s stuff together (tied to the bed, asking for permission, things like that) with me as the top and we have done it a few more times before now. I like it alot but we also caught a few snags and we misread each others body language as was wont to happen eventually. So while we both ended up enjoying the decision to play around, it often ended abruptly with one of us, usually my partner, feeling confused, neglected or pushed too far. A part of the reason this keeps happening is that we both get hung up on the fact that I'm not seeking any overtly sexual pleasure from these interactions. I also get scared during it and worried that I will do the wrong thing or make them hurt too much. I keep replaying in my head what happened the last time we played around and I feel extremely guilty even though I know they had a good time despite my fuck ups (not balancing the pain w/ pleasure). In general I just feel like I dont know what i'm doing with their body and that I'm going to be a disappointing sex partner in comparison to the other people they've known in their life. I dont know how to get over this feeling. Have you ever felt like this after playing around/doing a scene and how do you get over it all and actually improve on how you top/dom your sub? Where does the confidence come from? Everyone says experience but what do you do in the mean time before you have that? sorry for randomly gushing here and if i wrote this in the wrong forum thread please help me TuT. Basically any advice or help is appreciated. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
chair jockey Posted May 24, 2017 Share Posted May 24, 2017 I don't have a kink, I'm not interested in BDSM, but there's something I've been thinking about for a while. I'm strongly aversive to dominance. Even in work situations, a dominant person just makes me want to be anywhere else except around them. Really strong personalities feel toxic to me. (I know they're not, but they feel that way.) So what's that called from the perspective of people who know about the kinds of things discussed here? (If replying please quote or tag me so I'll know. ) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 lol I'm tempted to do the same now. XD *doesn't know what to do with his life* anyways the only reason why I'm here is that I'm not *entirely* an ace and I have a thing for respirators. this is serious. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lady.Lizard Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 9 minutes ago, UVB-76 said: lol I'm tempted to do the same now. XD *doesn't know what to do with his life* anyways the only reason why I'm here is that I'm not *entirely* an ace and I have a thing for respirators. this is serious. I'm not entirely Ace either, and the results I got from the kink test were strangely accurate, thing is I have no idea what to do with them now Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 9 minutes ago, UVB-76 said: lol I'm tempted to do the same now. XD *doesn't know what to do with his life* anyways the only reason why I'm here is that I'm not *entirely* an ace and I have a thing for respirators. this is serious. Do it! Also that's a cool one. Does that lead into breath play, or is it the aesthetic you like? (don't feel obligated to answer cause I know it's personal ) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 3 minutes ago, Ricchan said: Do it! Also that's a cool one. Does that lead into breath play, or is it the aesthetic you like? (don't feel obligated to answer cause I know it's personal ) aesthetic it seems, that's why I'm fond of cybergoths But that's quite strong 4 minutes ago, Lady.Lizard said: I'm not entirely Ace either, and the results I got from the kink test were strangely accurate, thing is I have no idea what to do with them now *is more tempted to try* 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lady.Lizard Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 On 27/03/2017 at 4:51 PM, Lady.Lizard said: Hi - Lizard here. Wondering how you knew you were kinky aces? I'm wondering if that might be what I am and sorta looking for other people's experiences. I did bdsmtest.org and these are my results...I do feel they're accurate, but have no idea what to do about them 91% Dominant 83% Primal (Hunter) 76% Vanilla 74% Rigger 56% Switch 54% Master/Mistress 40% Rope bunny 39% Brat tamer 38% Primal (Prey) 28% Brat 26% Sadist 26% Submissive 25% Experimentalist 16% Masochist 14% Degrader 12% Exhibitionist 11% Owner 6% Voyeur 5% Daddy/Mommy 2% Ageplayer 2% Degradee 2% Girl/Boy 2% Non-monogamist 2% Pet 2% Slave This is mine from back when - also, I literally just said the same thing twice about not knowing what to do with them. So I don't think having done the test helps with that Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 okay so did it. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Switch 79% Master/Mistress 68% Owner 66% Dominant 66% Boy/Girl 66% Masochist 65% Rope bunny 62% Sadist 61% Submissive 60% Primal (Hunter) 59% Degrader 53% Vanilla 53% Rigger 50% Degradee 48% Experimentalist 46% Pet 46% Brat 44% Primal (Prey) 43% Daddy/Mommy 40% Slave 8% Ageplayer 0% Exhibitionist 0% Voyeur 0% Non-monogamist ...life is hard. XD 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tainted Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 Difficult to answer some of these questions as they talk about sexual stuff but I do find power dynamics can be fun to explore. Anyway, results, mostly unsurprising. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 98% Submissive 79% Slave 75% Pet 73% Rope bunny 69% Primal (Prey) 65% Degradee 60% Masochist 54% Primal (Hunter) 53% Experimentalist 51% Brat 50% Rigger 42% Daddy/Mommy 42% Vanilla 37% Boy/Girl 7% Sadist 1% Ageplayer 1% Dominant 1% Master/Mistress 0% Exhibitionist 0% Voyeur 0% Degrader 0% Owner 0% Non-monogamist 0% Switch 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 ...I feel weird now. XD 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelpie Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 I tried the test but the first questions were nothing for me and I didn't want to check "no" every time. *is sad Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 == Results from bdsmtest.org == 96% Vanilla 72% Dominant 63% Master/Mistress 61% Primal (Hunter) 59% Switch 57% Rigger 50% Submissive 47% Brat 45% Boy/Girl 42% Daddy/Mommy 41% Rope bunny 41% Owner 23% Experimentalist 15% Primal (Prey) 11% Masochist 8% Sadist 4% Degradee 3% Slave 2% Ageplayer 1% Degrader 1% Exhibitionist 1% Pet 1% Voyeur 0% Non-monogamist Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 27 minutes ago, Antihero. said: Why? I don't know, I kind of expected such results let's say I always feel weird xD 9 minutes ago, Kelpie said: I tried the test but the first questions were nothing for me and I didn't want to check "no" every time. *is sad but if you did it, the results might be interesting Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 I thought I'd give it another go... turns out I never posted my results on this thread in the first place Spoiler 100% Brat 100% Rope bunny 99% Submissive 96% Degradee 87% Experimentalist 82% Masochist 75% Pet 66% Primal (Prey) 65% Exhibitionist 62% Rigger 60% Primal (Hunter) 59% Owner 58% Sadist 53% Slave 51% Degrader 50% Voyeur 42% Daddy/Mommy 42% Master/Mistress 42% Vanilla 35% Switch 28% Dominant 24% Ageplayer 17% Boy/Girl 0% Non-monogamist 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelpie Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 31 minutes ago, UVB-76 said: I don't know, I kind of expected such results let's say I always feel weird xD but if you did it, the results might be interesting Just for you! No idea what this about me now, though, other than that I'm definitely not dominant although I sometimes did play that role when requested. Spoiler 55% Vanilla 54% Non-monogamist 49% Experimentalist 41% Masochist 31% Slave 27% Rope bunny 19% Pet 10% Degradee 7% Switch 4% Ageplayer 2% Submissive 1% Exhibitionist 1% Brat 1% Voyeur 0% Primal (Hunter) 0% Boy/Girl 0% Rigger 0% Primal (Prey) 0% Daddy/Mommy 0% Dominant 0% Degrader 0% Owner 0% Master/Mistress 0% Sadist 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 there are indeed some awesome results here! *confesses* I have downloaded my result as pdf. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Just Me! Posted May 29, 2017 Share Posted May 29, 2017 == Results from bdsmtest.org == 97% Ageplayer 74% Switch 68% Masochist 65% Rope bunny 64% Dominant 62% Primal (Hunter) 61% Degrader 58% Rigger 56% Submissive 55% Sadist 53% Vanilla 53% Voyeur 49% Experimentalist 43% Daddy/Mommy 41% Owner 40% Exhibitionist 37% Master/Mistress 34% Boy/Girl 24% Primal (Prey) 14% Non-monogamist 6% Slave 6% Degradee 3% Brat 1% Pet Interesting... 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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